Do you ever have days when you're just done?

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I'm so frustrated, for the first time in 7 years BSC SIL is getting to me. I'm just done. I had so much fun planning this family weekend we're all ready to go. She's being a bitch which has my MIL all sad. Somehow my MIL is turning this into my fault. I have bent over backwards to make her happy this week, it's just not happening. I know my MIL is just stressed and sad too, but Jesus people open your eyes. There's a point where's SIL is just playing us all and she doesn't really have a "problem" anymore. All SIL wants us to do is talk the whole weekend about "Oh, it's too bad she couldn't be here. It's just too hard with 2 kids." Ummm...no. You strap your kids in the car and you get here...like the rest of the world.

My MIL whom I usually think the world of is about to send me over the edge. She yells at me about everything lately and turns what little I've said to her lately around. I need to bite the bullet and talk to her, I honestly don't know what I did this week.

I love my H. He's a great H, a great Dad and does the best he can in everything. He's also a work-a-holic to the extreme. Sometimes I get tired of giving in. I know life on the farm is rough and constantly busy (I know I grew up on one) but there's a point where the wife and kid have to come before the cows. We've had this discussion 34634643 times and it's better for a week. Repeat. I know part of it is that's how we roll, part of it is I'm too sensitive. Dammit though, I'm tired of going everywhere alone, I'm tired of the things I want or need getting shoved to the back. He always tells me it'll be better when it's not busy season. In his world it's always busy season. I could deal better, but he gets a one track mind and then I'm stuck managing everything else, kwim. AGH!!

Kranikan II is p*ssing me off. So much so I want to send him on a plane back to Russia. He's smart but lazy. It takes him 4 hours to do what the rest of us do in 1..I know it's a learning curve, but it's been 3 months. There is no other job you can still be learning the basics of 3 months later and keep it. He just DOESN'T CATCH ON. He's a sweetheart of a kid but I don't know how to manage a lack of common sense. (I'll be over this tommorow, so don't take it so personaly. He just forgot half his chore list tonight which means I had to go do it myself).

I think that about covers it. I just don't know what to do about it tonight.
I'd have a beer, but on a happy note Hs family threw a surprise birthday party for me today (and I know I sound ungrateful after they threw me a party, but I'll just admit to it. It is what it is tonight!) so I've already had 3.

Oh..I also reserve to DD this later. Please don't take it personally either. I promise it's nothing anyone will tell me, I just hate having information about my life floating around.

[housegeek]

Lol at the DD disclaimer

And I'm sorry you're having a craptastic weekend.

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Jun 17, 2012 20:36:59 GMT -5 housegeek said:

Lol at the DD disclaimer

And I'm sorry you're having a craptastic weekend.

Haha thanks!
It'll all be better tommorow I'm sure but for tonight I'm angry and frustrated.

And yeah, I felt the need for a disclaimer. I feel bad you thought my DD before had to do with you. I'm not that sensitive and usually handle being told. You just never know who reads this stuff and sometimes I have to vent to people that aren't all up in my daily life on the regular.

[sierramist03]

I'm sorry you are experiencing this but I know how you feel it sucks

[housegeek]

Hah its ok, I get it I rarely share on here for that reason, I even type up a whole thing and then delete it. So dumb haha. But yeah, I would totally be irate too.

[315bride]

Have a drink or a chocolate chip cookie (I'm baking some right now). Tomorrow is a new day.

[cotner]

Your posts have always lead me to believe you and MIL have a really good relationship. Just talk to her, I am sure you can be PC about it and not make it sound like a bitchfest toward SIL. Sorry you are stressed, I hope the beers helped!

[ssmjlm]

Honestly I would take a night off and go to the movies by yourself. Leave Ruby with your DH and let them handle it for a night.

[emoflamingo]

Yep, I think this calls for a drink and then a long night's sleep. I have a lot of days like this. Usually happens when work is super busy, people think their sob stories make them special and I can work the system, my boss takes forever to do his work errands and eat lunch so I'm stuck in the office alone for a good part of the day and THEN the kid is on some special kind of terror streak that makes me want to rip my hair out. Those nights result in a slightly earlier bedtime for him and a night where I do nothing but stuff that makes me happy. Even if it means I'm cleaning twice the amount the next night.

[thewop]

I know how you feel when you say you're done.

My MIL is now banned from my house. She crossed a line, and then lied about it. I'm done with her. She's no longer welcome in my house. It's dumb really, but I'm done. She thought she was doing us a favor by doing our laundry while babysitting, however she did 2 loads of already CLEAN laundry in baskets. She even went through our bedroom and grabbed clothes that were hand wash only and machine washed them. Things that I planned on wearing that afternoon (again, they weren't even dirty!), but coudn't because I found them wet in the washing machine. I was livid. We've told her a million times not to take it upon herself to clean our house. I will openly admit our house isn't show ready all the time. Life gets in the way and things will go undone like laundry. She thinks we appreciate it, but we don't. Not when she's wasting water, detergent, and energy on already clean laundry. Sure it's unfolded, but it's not dirty. Someone also turned down our water heater. She always used to give us crap about how hot our water was and how it's dangerous for DD, however she can't reach one single faucet in our house. Not even on her tippy toes stretched with her fingertips in the tub. Not even close. She denies it of course. Um, so we have a phantom ghost messing with our appliances? She's not shy about telling people how we don't keep a house to her standards. DH has even told her flat out that we don't care what she thinks. He finally gave it to her straight on Saturday. No touching of anything in our house. Ever again. No cleaning, no laundry, no nothing. Period.

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Jun 18, 2012 9:27:50 GMT -5 thewop said:

I know how you feel when you say you're done.

My MIL is now banned from my house. She crossed a line, and then lied about it. I'm done with her. She's no longer welcome in my house. It's dumb really, but I'm done. She thought she was doing us a favor by doing our laundry while babysitting, however she did 2 loads of already CLEAN laundry in baskets. She even went through our bedroom and grabbed clothes that were hand wash only and machine washed them. Things that I planned on wearing that afternoon (again, they weren't even dirty!), but coudn't because I found them wet in the washing machine. I was livid. We've told her a million times not to take it upon herself to clean our house. I will openly admit our house isn't show ready all the time. Life gets in the way and things will go undone like laundry. She thinks we appreciate it, but we don't. Not when she's wasting water, detergent, and energy on already clean laundry. Sure it's unfolded, but it's not dirty. Someone also turned down our water heater. She always used to give us crap about how hot our water was and how it's dangerous for DD, however she can't reach one single faucet in our house. Not even on her tippy toes stretched with her fingertips in the tub. Not even close. She denies it of course. Um, so we have a phantom ghost messing with our appliances? She's not shy about telling people how we don't keep a house to her standards. DH has even told her flat out that we don't care what she thinks. He finally gave it to her straight on Saturday. No touching of anything in our house. Ever again. No cleaning, no laundry, no nothing. Period.

Ohhh...that is rough. I don't blame you.
Even my MIL and mom who love to come over and cook and clean refuse to touch my laundry unless I specifically leave it out for them.
That's so weird. I'm sorry she's also crossing weird boundary lines. There is no way that would fly in my house either!

[thewop]

Jun 18, 2012 9:40:57 GMT -5 @justdairy said:

Jun 18, 2012 9:27:50 GMT -5 thewop said:

I know how you feel when you say you're done.

My MIL is now banned from my house. She crossed a line, and then lied about it. I'm done with her. She's no longer welcome in my house. It's dumb really, but I'm done. She thought she was doing us a favor by doing our laundry while babysitting, however she did 2 loads of already CLEAN laundry in baskets. She even went through our bedroom and grabbed clothes that were hand wash only and machine washed them. Things that I planned on wearing that afternoon (again, they weren't even dirty!), but coudn't because I found them wet in the washing machine. I was livid. We've told her a million times not to take it upon herself to clean our house. I will openly admit our house isn't show ready all the time. Life gets in the way and things will go undone like laundry. She thinks we appreciate it, but we don't. Not when she's wasting water, detergent, and energy on already clean laundry. Sure it's unfolded, but it's not dirty. Someone also turned down our water heater. She always used to give us crap about how hot our water was and how it's dangerous for DD, however she can't reach one single faucet in our house. Not even on her tippy toes stretched with her fingertips in the tub. Not even close. She denies it of course. Um, so we have a phantom ghost messing with our appliances? She's not shy about telling people how we don't keep a house to her standards. DH has even told her flat out that we don't care what she thinks. He finally gave it to her straight on Saturday. No touching of anything in our house. Ever again. No cleaning, no laundry, no nothing. Period.

Ohhh...that is rough. I don't blame you.
Even my MIL and mom who love to come over and cook and clean refuse to touch my laundry unless I specifically leave it out for them.
That's so weird. I'm sorry she's also crossing weird boundary lines. There is no way that would fly in my house either!

Yeah, it's super weird. Why can't she scrub my shower, or empty the dishwasher if she wants to help? Sweep the floors or vacuum my rug? That type of stuff is fine, but she's obsessed with laundry. Stuff she could actually ruin. Argh!

[emjacobs]

I think if anyone says that they don't have days like this then they are full of shit and living in a make believe world of unicorns and rainbows. I have these days but it is mainly because of work, I get frustrated and / or overwhelmed and check out.