Is anyone else not having a baby shower?

[greencrayon]

I don't have that many female friends. I moved here a few years ago for grad school, and I just don't really have time for it. All of my family lives in other states, and my best friends are in school elsewhere. Everyone who talks to me about the baby says "oh, you'll get plenty of ________ at the shower, don't buy any" but I'm pretty sure I'm not going to have one. Anyone else in a similar situation?

[Velar Fricative]

I agreed to one begrudgingly because MIL really wanted to throw one, but it was very small.

I set up a registry anyway before I knew I would have one, because family members really wanted to get us what we wanted. In any case, it turns out more people than I expected are asking for registry info and we've been receiving gifts anyway. You may have the same experience.

[timorousbeastie]

I'm hoping to avoid one. All of my family is OOT, as are the majority of my friends. There's really only a handful of local people I could even think of to invite. I imagine MIL may push to throw one, but we're not super close with anyone she would likely invite, so I'd find it really awkward to ask these people for gifts.

I hate going to showers, and I really don't like the idea of one being thrown for me. We managed to limit wedding showers to just one with less than 10 people, but almost all of those people have moved OOT since then. Hopefully we can completely duck out of any shower this time around. I'll probably set up a registry just in case people ask for it, but I don't plan on much being bought from it.

[magpie]

My family threw us a very small one that was super casual. It was just lunch at their house with the two families who have been close to mine for nearly 30 years now and two of my closest friends. There were gifts and my sister baked a huge, fabulous spread of special cupcakes, but no games or anything. I don't think I'm going to have a shower here though because my friends are so spread out across various states and I hate being the center of attention. I'm hoping to avoid a work shower, but that might not be within my control.

[VillainV]

I will probably not have one....they're not really done in the UK, and all of our families live in the US, but we probably won't be going back before the baby is born. We have some American friends here, but none that we know well enough that they'd probably throw a shower...

[bazinga]

I am having a work shower/potluck, but I don't think I will be having a family/friends shower. I don't have a lot of close female relatives or friends and the ones who would be invited to a shower live all over the place so it would be hard to get everyone in one place at one time. We did register, but partly just so I could have everything that I needed listed in one place.

[shelbyann]

I kind of doubt I'll have one. We don't live near either of our families and I have a few girlfriends here, but not enough for a shower. My close girlfriends from college are scattered across the country. I'm totally OK with not having one...I don't really enjoy attending showers much less being the subject of one!

[annabear07]

As of now I'm not having a shower but a few friends and family mentioned on before I got pregnant so who knows! I just view showers as a good excuse to get people together so I would love to have one to see everyone. But I'm also an AW Leo so take that for what it's worth!

[Jalapeñomel]

I didn't think I was going to have one when the plan was to stay in Lima, but my mom is throwing me an early one on Sunday with a whole bunch of her friends, people I don't know. It should be interesting.

[nomad]

I had to go inpatient at a hospital an hour from my house at 26 weeks because I have a high risk pregnancy. One person asked me when I'd like a shower and I said I really didn't think one would happen. I didn't want it before the hospital because my pregnancy is so risky and it was so early, I wouldn't ask anyone to throw one at the hospital, and after the babies are born I'm not sure I'll be up for it. Add that to I really haven't lived in the area long so I don't have a ton of friends here and our family are all at least 3 hours away. All that to say pretty sure there's no shower for me either and I honestly don't know if I'd have had one if I wasn't in the hospital because of the spread out family and friends thing as well.

[degal99]

I might get one at work (I work in a female dominated field with mostly my mother's age women who are probably more excited then I am at me having a baby!).  But, I also don't have a lot of female friends in the area, nor a lot of family.  I will still do a registry though because I expect out of state family will ask for it.