Dumbest thing someone said to you while PG.

[geek96]

I get mostly nice comments and curious questions but this one topped the cake.  I went to a local jewelry store to replace a watch battery for DH.  A nice man in 60s that worked there struck up a convo and asked me if I was having a boy because of the way I am carrying to which I replied yes.  Another male employee in his late 20s asked him, "how do you know it's a boy? Can you see his hard on?"  WTF?!?!?  I just had this dumbfounded look on my face.  The older man told him that was a pretty ignorant question and then the young guy walked out of the store so I never got to say anything.  I am still thinking about what an ass he was and this was over a week ago.

[winecheery]

  

[rupertpenny]

What a weird thing to say.

I haven't run into anything too weird. One guy yelled across the gym to ask if I was taking folic acid. I've also had a lot of people guess how far along I am and they are always waaaaay off.

[winecheery]

As far as what peeps have said to me...nothing too bad. Just a the annoying "Just you waits..." or "Everything is about to change."

To which I reply, "If I did NOT want my life to be even slightly changed, I would never have gotten pregnant."

The "Just you waits" piss me off because it's such a thoughtless comment. "Just wait til they do this or that." I'm always like, um, you sound as though you really regret having children...

Think before speaking folks!

[sweetminnesnowtan]

Oh dear. (huh)

I was showing a good family friend (who isn't exactly the sanest person but for an old lady pretty cool) our son's anatomy scan pictures, and the one showing he was a boy was there, only because we're so close to them and I didn't mind. There is absolutely NO mistaking that he's a boy, and she says 'Oh my! It looks like he has a hard on!' What?!

I was also once told that my pants looked too tight and I was going to hurt my baby. Yeah. No. Same guy has always had something critical to say when I see him, the last time he was telling me my son's name was too girly when it's got a ton of important significance to us (it is not in ANYWAY girly, and becoming a popular boys name it's just more used as a nickname), so I've told my parents I refuse to be around him anymore (they are even still pissed at him for it). He's a fucking prick and I want to punch him in the throat. /hormone rant.

[AlpineSlide]

I had a guy at work ask me if the pregnancy was planned when I first announced. Why he cared, I have no idea. Such a strange thing to ask.

I also had a female coworker ask me how much weight I've gained so far. I was so shocked I couldn't even come up with a snarky response so I told her the # (15 pounds). She is always going on and on about how she gained 50 pounds with her son and it was no big deal, so I'm fairly certain she is trying to be supportive but you should never ask a woman that (unless it's on an anonymous message board!).

[snickers]

WTF??

No one has said anything that dumb to me, but last week at Costco an older man looked at my belly and then looked up at me. Then he proceeded to turn his cart a little and walk faster toward me as though he was going to push his cart right into my stomach. Then he laughed and walked away. I cart checked him with my cart and called him a royal asshole.

[bazinga]

So weird. Luckily the older man stood up for you.

I have gotten some of the "just you wait" and I find those annoying as well. One of my coworkers did say to me "good thing you told us you were pregnant because you wouldn't have been able to hide that baby pooch much longer". I was just starting to show at that point and wasn't abnormally huge or anything. I thought that was kind of rude. Can we call it a bump and not a pooch, please? I am growing a human here.

[glauren]

geek96 that's crazy! What a creep.
Mine have been: "are you sure it's not twins?" and "you're not due until October? You're never going to make it; you're too big!". Also, "I thought you were pregnant because your ass was getting bigger!"

The comments are the 2nd most annoying part of pregnancy for me (the fact that I still have m/s is the 1st).

[soozy87]

One of my (male) coworkers tells me not to sit too close to my desk because I am squishing the baby.

[trafficgirl]

Aug 8, 2013 15:56:01 GMT -5 soozy87 said:

One of my (male) coworkers tells me not to sit too close to my desk because I am squishing the baby.

I am seriously laughing at this because...WTF!  I would think you would know if you were squishing the baby because...you know...you'd feel squished too.

[soozy87]

Aug 8, 2013 15:58:13 GMT -5 trafficgirl said:

Aug 8, 2013 15:56:01 GMT -5 soozy87 said:

One of my (male) coworkers tells me not to sit too close to my desk because I am squishing the baby.

I am seriously laughing at this because...WTF!  I would think you would know if you were squishing the baby because...you know...you'd feel squished too.

I know, right! But seriously he has said this at least twice a week for the last 3 weeks or so. I am not squishing the baby!!! This guy is a d-bag that doesn't know what tact is though, so I am not surprised.

[trafficgirl]

Aug 8, 2013 16:01:30 GMT -5 soozy87 said:

Aug 8, 2013 15:58:13 GMT -5 trafficgirl said:

I am seriously laughing at this because...WTF!  I would think you would know if you were squishing the baby because...you know...you'd feel squished too.

I know, right! But seriously he has said this at least twice a week for the last 3 weeks or so. I am not squishing the baby!!! This guy is a d-bag that doesn't know what tact is though, so I am not surprised.

Every time he sits down you should tell him he's squishing his future children and that he really should work standing up.

[KKD]

Just a few weeks ago I had this conversation with my MIL:

MIL: So, the 17th, that's the day?
Me: Well, that's my due date...
MIL: But that's the date?
Me: I mean, it's just an estimate, not a set date or anything.
MIL: Oh. Hm. Okay.

I was trying to hide my bafflement. I mean, even if you don't remember from YOUR OWN THREE KIDS, can you not even remember three years ago with my last one?

[vmars]

When I told an attorney I work with that I am pg he asked "How did that happen" - I told him "immaculate conception" lol. My dad asked "when did you suspect?" to DH after we told him we were pg...lol. DH had to the fight the urge to say "after we had sex".

[SKP82]

This week?

"You look 3 times bigger!"
"She must be a big baby."
"You're really big."

People are fucking rude.

[aksinger]

My cousin (in his 60's and has had three daughters and several grandchildren) told me last week "You're fat." Thanks, I know I'm overweight. I then made him feel like an ass (which I didn't care about) when I said that I've lost 20 lbs and have only gained 3 back so I'm actually 17 lbs down from my pre-pregnancy weight. At 27 weeks I figure that's pretty damn good, so I wasn't going to let him make me feel bad for being overweight normally.

[osulori]

I had a lot of stupid comments when I was PG (most of which I chronicled here at one time or another) but the one that took the cake was, upon being told that I am in fact going back to work FT after my maternity leave, "Oh I bet you'll change your mind once you find out how much childcare costs..." Dude. I'm not rolling in the cash by any means, but I make significantly more than even the really expensive daycares cost around here. And a fair amount more than my H makes. So forgoing the cost of daycare by me staying home does us no good if we can't pay our other bills.

The only reason this person didn't get the above said to them is because it was the great grandparent of one of my patients. Someone who is generally a really nice lady but damn her filter went to shit while I was pg. She is also the source of "You're definitely going to end up going on bed rest. Or going into labor early." upon hearing me grunt a little bit as I bent down to pick something up off the floor at 25ish weeks pg.

[sporklemotion]

My mother passed away in February, and my baby was conceived maybe 3 weeks later. One of my coworkers said, "I guess it took your mom passing away for you to get pregnant." WTF does that even mean? As far as I know, she doesn't know that I had a m/c last year, but I was tempted to say something about it to her.

[pbutter]

My favorite so far is "was it planned?"

[VillainV]

My FIL asked "Are you sure this time, or is her period just late?" Apparently he thinks that because I miscarried last time at 11 weeks, that I wasn't ever ACTUALLY pregnant, and just mistook it for a really really late period. Hmmm...

[mellimel19]

Aug 9, 2013 14:15:40 GMT -5 VillainV said:

My FIL asked "Are you sure this time, or is her period just late?" Apparently he thinks that because I miscarried last time at 11 weeks, that I wasn't ever ACTUALLY pregnant, and just mistook it for a really really late period. Hmmm...

omg how awful! I would have been livid.

[lostmonkeyatikea]

The worst was, "You look like you've already eaten dinner!" at 39 weeks pregnant. Hilarious! My MIL has made
some interesting comments as well and asks downright personal questions, like how long were we trying, when did we conceive, etc. I just responded with no comment.

[winecheery]

Aug 9, 2013 14:15:40 GMT -5 VillainV said:

My FIL asked "Are you sure this time, or is her period just late?" Apparently he thinks that because I miscarried last time at 11 weeks, that I wasn't ever ACTUALLY pregnant, and just mistook it for a really really late period. Hmmm...

Wow villain.  You win.  This is a terrible terrible thing to say.  Your FIL is a douche.

[chicago]

Aug 9, 2013 13:52:25 GMT -5 pbutter said:

My favorite so far is "was it planned?"

Same. We haven't told a lot of people, but I mentioned the pregnancy to my Pilates instructor so she could make modifications for me as needed and she said, "Were you guys trying?" None of your business, lady!

[chicago]

Aug 9, 2013 14:15:40 GMT -5 VillainV said:

My FIL asked "Are you sure this time, or is her period just late?" Apparently he thinks that because I miscarried last time at 11 weeks, that I wasn't ever ACTUALLY pregnant, and just mistook it for a really really late period. Hmmm...

This is horribly hurtful. I'm sorry he said that to you!

[littlemisschatty]

I am not offended by much, so I let most stupid comments slide. But for some reason, it irks me when someone says that my baby is a "Hurricane Sandy" baby. First of all, no thats not true. I dont like people getting up in my business about when me and hubby banged, and that was a devastating week for my family and my neighborhood in NJ so that was the last thing on my mind.

(Ps the July babies were Sandy babies fwiw)

[vmars]

Aug 10, 2013 5:31:31 GMT -5 littlemisschatty said:

I am not offended by much, so I let most stupid comments slide. But for some reason, it irks me when someone says that my baby is a "Hurricane Sandy" baby. First of all, no thats not true. I dont like people getting up in my business about when me and hubby banged, and that was a devastating week for my family and my neighborhood in NJ so that was the last thing on my mind.

(Ps the July babies were Sandy babies fwiw)

I think most NJ couples were at each other's throats that week, def. not banging!! LOL

[VillainV]

Eh, I think my FIL is just generally clueless about "women's matters." He's significantly older (88 this year) and from a generation where men weren't really supposed to understand how any of this worked. I truly don't think he meant to make an insensitive comment, and he really just doesn't want to see us get hurt again. But yeah...foot...mouth....hello.

[VillainV]

bricco, that's awful!!! I can't believe that.