What would ML do? - Wedding crap.

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I apologize for all the wedding posts I've done the last couple days. I've been told I should have a registry of some sort, but I feel like that is taking advantage, since I'm not having a large wedding at all, so I certainly don't want to have people who I couldn't invite feel like they have to give me something just because I'm getting hitched. 

In short, I have no clue what I am doing. 

Would you all find it rude for someone doing a really small, out of town wedding to have a registry? Is that even a thing? I figure if anyone would know if it is weird/rude, ML would.

[Booze Raccoon]

I think it's polite to give an option to people who don't want to give you cash. You can't tell people not to give you something, they will anyway.

[Yankees21]

Not rude..I wouldn't broadcast it all over the place, but people are bound to ask if you have one.

[W.T.Faulkner]

I wouldn't blink an eye at a registry for a small wedding.

But I also have no issue with honeymoon registries, which I know ML has deemed rude.

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Aug 18, 2013 9:49:22 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

I wouldn't blink an eye at a registry for a small wedding.

But I also have no issue with honeymoon registries, which I know ML has deemed rude.

That is also the other issue. The wedding is a combined with the honeymoon, because we are going to be in Las Vegas anyway. It isn't like we are eloping, just wanted to have it all in one place. We get to have a cool wedding and an awesome honeymoon. 

I'm glad it isn't rude. I still feel sort of bad, since the wedding venue is capped at ten people, but I also know most of my family will want to give us some little gifts for the house. 

[karmasabiotch]

To one but only tell people about it who ask if you are registered.

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Aug 18, 2013 9:57:46 GMT -5 mekiakoo said:

Nah, it's fine. You would rather to give people a guideline of what to get you otherwise you'll end up with 5 ugly matching salt/pepper shakers. Or 4 crockpots.

True story: My aunt got a chicken salt and pepper shaker for her wedding. One half was salt, the other half was pepper. 

[amberlyrose]

I've looked up registries for people that were getting married to send them a present even though we weren't invited. Most of our friends have done small weddings with just family or eloped, but that doesn't mean I don't want to celebrate them.

[snickers]

Not rude, if they are for it tell them about it, if not then I wouldn't mention it. If they know you are only doing something small, it's likely that they will understand that and want to send you something anyways.

[noodle]

Aug 18, 2013 9:57:46 GMT -5 mekiakoo said:

Nah, it's fine. You would rather to give people a guideline of what to get you otherwise you'll end up with 5 ugly matching salt/pepper shakers. Or 4 crockpots.

I had a 20 person wedding and did a registry.  I made sure that while I had a couple bigger items for relatives I knew would want to send a bigger gift, I had a lot of smaller items for guests who were more mindful of budget.

We have a small apartment and already have a lot of stuff we like.  I didn't want to end up with a lot of stuff we wouldn't use and for which we don't have space.

[SKP82]

Not rude.

[10outof9]

Not rude. Chances are, there will be people that don't attend but want to get a gift of some kind. Now, if you create a registry and plaster the link all over the goddamn place, then I'd vote rude. But as something to give to people who ask where you're registered? Totally fine.

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Aug 18, 2013 11:29:43 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

Not rude.

What wedding venue are you using? 10 people sounds up our alley !

We decided pretty quickly we want to go to Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas. They have several venues that are all very nice, but the one we chose was the shark reef aquarium. We are getting married in the shark tunnel, which I'm super psyched about!

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We're only having 25-30 guests and did a small registry. It was this board that convinced me it was ok to do it.

[sugarbear]

Bonus: you get the completion discount, so even if no one buys anything, you can still purchase ata discount.

[msgeeksout]

Very cool wedding! I got married last year at the Welcome to Las Vegas Sign! We too didn't elope but invited some family and friends along. It was 20 total including us. Easiest wedding ever, totally recommend the Vegas route.

But anyway if it is rude (and the consensus seems to be it isn't) then I was rude as we had a small registry for people. His aunt even threw us a shower which ended up being a "mock" home reception (since we didn't do an at-home reception) so a registry was needed. We got some amazing presents from people even though they weren't going to the wedding.