momentary feeling of sadness.

[gretchenindisguise]

Do you ever get those, almost wistful feelings.

I'm having one currently. Well, since last night I suppose. We went to L's preschool bff's neighborhood party. Four of her preschool friends live on the same block and it's just so nice - and reminds of the neighborhood I grew up in. We live in an apartment complex where we don't really know our neighbors.

The house across from bff's house is for sale and it makes me so wistful that we can't live there. Especially since L has asked no less than 4 times since leaving last night if we could move into a house in their neighborhood if it was empty. Apparently she just wants us to be squatters.

I have to remind myself we're just not there right now. Her friend's parents are all several years older than us.  I get it intellectually, but emotionally is different sometimes, kwim?

[goaskalice]

I get those often. For me it manifests when thinking about where I could be professionally if we had stayed in CA, I know it would have been a much easier road. Starting a business in a town where I knew no one was really hard. And I miss having family close by. Portland is where we're supposed to be though, our friends here are beyond amazing.

[gretchenindisguise]

Aug 18, 2013 13:34:03 GMT -5 Que? said:

ETA: the upside for me is that my friend has people dropping by constantly and kids in her yard all the time. That would drive me nuts!!

See and I think I would mostly love that. Our house was the hangout house especially in h.s. and I want that for L.

I think a very large part for me is that I'm really really really over living as students. And until H gets a real job we will be in this spot and I have no control. I am a bit of a control freak so no control bothers me. And 9 years into a marriage and never having experienced both of us working real jobs is getting old. I know it will happen soon, but I'm chomping at the bit.

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[kristie]

I used to drive around the neighborhood we just moved into. I have wanted to move here for years. It just finally worked out, and we have a house we love. But for the years leading up to it, I thought it would never happen and it made me so sad. I get you. Sorry that it can't happen yet, but maybe someday?

[snickers]

I'm sorry
It's better for all of you to live somewhere you can afford then to move into a house that will make you house poor.

[Booze Raccoon]

I can relate to these feelings.  My H and I have been through 4 years of sheer hell.  We are unable to live "normal" lives, 99% of it is out of our control.  I am depressed and anxious 24/7.  

I just keep thinking, this can't go on forever.  Something will change eventually.  

It sounds like you are working towards your goal and working towards your happiness.  The emotional component is the most difficult to get under control.

[gretchenindisguise]

Aug 18, 2013 13:44:02 GMT -5 kristie said:

I used to drive around the neighborhood we just moved into. I have wanted to move here for years. It just finally worked out, and we have a house we love. But for the years leading up to it, I thought it would never happen and it made me so sad. I get you. Sorry that it can't happen yet, but maybe someday?

Yup. I have no doubt someday we'll get there. And until then we will just continue to crash their neighborhood parties hahha.

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[gretchenindisguise]

Aug 18, 2013 13:44:33 GMT -5 snickers said:

I'm sorry
It's better for all of you to live somewhere you can afford then to move into a house that will make you house poor.

Absolutely. And that's the intellectual piece

Plus it's not even a matter of making us house poor, it's a matter of it not even being in our reach right now and having to get over being burned (and still smoldering) in the housing market once already.

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[kristie]

And one downside of living in a neighborhood full of kids is getting hit up for the fundraisers. We have already bought a few discount cards and otisspunkmeyer cookies. Lol, DH is a sucker.

[Deleted]

I hear you.

But man, mainly I get wistful of the fact that my kids won't know a childhood without the internet. For some reason this makes me sad.

[imhischeeseburger]

I can relate to the feeling of not fitting in. But don't worry, soon your H will be finished and finally be getting paid what he deserves. Then you guys will be the ones throwing the huge backyard parties and then I can come crash them

[Deleted]

Oh yes. Most of our friends are very wealthy. They are older than us though and just had a different upbringing.

This feeling happens tome often.

[leahmel]

Yeah. I grew up pretty poor and finally made a really good living. I was really excited to join forces with BF and have two really good incomes, then I lost my job. It is something that will change my life for the better in the long run, but I am definitely wistful for the life that we had planned. We will get there eventually once my new career gets going, and so will you two! I think when you have to wait for something it makes it that much sweeter.

[underwaterrhymes]

I totally get it.

I'm 38. H is 36. And we just bought our first home.

After a lifetime of renting, it's worth waiting for the right time. I promise.

[sherbanator]

I definitely get those feelings. This is going to sound ridiculous but dh has always had a motorcycle, he never rode it very often. Just recently he has been going on all day rides and he has never done that before and it is making me wistful for the time when he would have rather spent that time with me. It's stupid, couples don't need to be tied at the hip, my rational self knows that. It still kind of hurts, just a pang on my heart sometimes.

[BunnyMacDougal]

Aug 18, 2013 13:32:51 GMT -5 Que? said:

I understand this, almost exactly. My friend, and G's little BFF just moved to an awesome neighbourhood. There are kids everywhere and the school and park are two blocks away. Wistful is the exact feeling I feel when I think of her kid just running outside to instant playmates and a safe street. I live on a creek, and the street is mainly occupied by weekenders and retirees. A chick just moved in down the road with two kids, and I might have freaked her out with how quickly I showed up with the offer of wine and play dates.

Yeah, I'm here.  Shitty neighborhood (by comparison to all her little friend kids) and too damned much going on for us to consider moving.  

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