Yes We also come up with an estimate of how long we want to be at the engagement as we drive down. Something like,"I'm thinking about hour and a half here, then we can go. Does that work for you?".
This is what we do. Discuss how long we want to stay, then give the eye contact and nod when it's time to go. It works very well.
I usually use one of the kids as an excuse..."babe, the kids are tired, we should probably head out soon" or something similar. If that doesn't work then I just take the kids to the car and load them up.
We usually talk beforehand about what time we'll leave. Like between x & y. I'm not shy about saying it's time to go/I'd like to leave if the agreed upon time is no longer working for me. So I guess we have no signal.
Post by poisonkisses on Aug 18, 2013 21:59:05 GMT -5
H just says "Ok, we can go now" or "When can we go home?" and if I stall too long he eventually just gets up and starts walking away to leave. Everyone knows he's not social and can only stand being in a group for a limited time so they don't get offended and instead laugh and say "Oh, he's reached his limit! He's done!" I'm never ready to go before him.
Haha, we need a better one! I'd like to think a look works, but H doesn't always pick up on it. So when I'm desperate, I try to subtly pull on an earlobe. We picked this one up from Garden State.
Post by midnightrae on Aug 18, 2013 22:39:44 GMT -5
He can usually tell when I start to have stomach issues, so we will just make eye contact and I give him sad eyes. Of if he is in a conversation, I'll give him a look and hold my stomach. Or if it is not related to my stomach issues, I just give him a look or text him.
Post by mrsjuleshs on Aug 18, 2013 22:52:03 GMT -5
Eye contact and a yawn usually do it for me. That said, my BFF and dh want an adult only fun day next weekend about 1 1/2 hours away while dd babysits all of their kids. While that usually sounds like fun to go out, they want to go bar hopping cause her uncle owns 3 bars down that way. If it was no kid weekend and we all had people to watch our kids it would be fun. But knowing we are that far from home and then have to pick up our kid and drive that far cause she has practice the next day is really unappealing. As much as I hate boating I may just agree to taking our boat out on the lake and let the other parents figure out babysitting.
I'm not currently in a relationship, but my usual strategy is to rub his back or arm and say, "You ready?" Depends of the situation though, that isn't always possible to do. I'm pretty social so I am not usually the first to want to go.