Do you and your SO have a signal for "I'm ready to leave"?

[noodle]

Brought to you by the half an hour I subtly tried to signal H I was tired, hungry and ready to go home, before finally having to say "H, it's time to go."

I hate, when we are out with his friends, having to be the one to say its time to go. I think that when it's his event, his friends, that I just look like a jerk.

But 5 hours with a group of strangers is more than enough for me.

[muffin0]

yes - well I think we do - until it's time to leave and we are stuck somewhere, and I'm all "so uhh when do you think we are leaving?"

[eb777888]

Ugh. Yes. I just give him this look   and he's like "sooo, you ready?" This is one of the reasons why he's awesome.

[starshine1977]

No we don't have one and I am always the one ready to leave first too. And he is usually oblivious to my "looks". I will be watching this post for ideas...

[zarapipe]

Nothing works for him. It is horrible. He admits he doesn't know how to get out of a Convo and say goodbye. One of the few things that drive me craZy about him.

[zoidberg]

No signal, but we both know the look.

[elleblue]

Aug 18, 2013 18:48:06 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Ugh. Yes. I just give him this look   and he's like "sooo, you ready?" This is one of the reasons why he's awesome.

Ha! We have the same "code".

[nsl]

I know H's "I've had enough and am ready to run screaming" look. He's the less social one in our relationship, and I can't remember a time when I was ready to leave a party before he was.

[bugandbibs]

No matter what I do, it takes at least an hour to get MH to leave anywhere. He is a chatterbox and a night owl. I've started just saying I'm leaving and getting myself and the girls in the car.

[Deleted]

Yes. I just kinda look at him. If he doesn't make eye contact ill text him lol.

[RoxMonster]

Usually if I can't get his attention without other people noticing, I will text him. Even if we are at the same table. We've gotten really good at reading each others' nonverbals though.

[TrickyBob]

Make eye contact and kind of raise eyebrow/widen eyes

[kaybee85]

I laughed when I read the subject because h ignored the signal last week and I was super pissed that he made me be the bad guy in front of his friends. He knew he messed up and apologized immediately, but I was not happy. Usually, though, he's good.

[papie]

Aug 18, 2013 18:47:19 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Eye contact and a head nod usually do it for us.

same here.

[CheshireGrin]

We've never discussed specific codes, but we're both pretty in tune with the other's body language/facial expressions.

[hisno1girl]

Actually my DH developed a signal. When he's ready to leave, he'll come up and hold my right hand and spin my wedding band. It comes in pretty handy when he's in chemo and tired and not feeling well. I'll stay FOREVER at a party or someplace fun and wouldn't notice if he were tired.

[MixedBerryJam]

We had a weirdo hand gesture, not nearly as subtle as hisno1girl's. As we were heading in to some situation where we knew the other wasn't going to have fun or whatever, one of us would say "Just gimme the pi sign" and we'd leave.

[themysteriouswife]

Aug 18, 2013 18:46:17 GMT -5 noodle said:

Brought to you by the half an hour I subtly tried to signal H I was tired, hungry and ready to go home, before finally having to say "H, it's time to go."

I hate, when we are out with his friends, having to be the one to say its time to go. I think that when it's his event, his friends, that I just look like a jerk.

But 5 hours with a group of strangers is more than enough for me.

O, is that you? this just happened at my house.

[PeonyParty]

Aug 18, 2013 18:59:00 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Make eye contact and kind of raise eyebrow/widen eyes

This pretty much what we do too.

[Deleted]

Aug 18, 2013 19:00:13 GMT -5 jjwritergirl said:

Yeah, we spin our index finger in a circle, and that means let's go. It's subtle and others don't really notice, which is awesome.

If we're with his family, I tell him in advance a code phrase that means "I need some space, come with me outside for a breather"

We do the finger spinner, too

[noodle]

Aug 18, 2013 18:59:00 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Make eye contact and kind of raise eyebrow/widen eyes

Did this, with an added head nod to the door for at least half an hour.

Also, half the group left and H didn't even check in with me about time then. That's usually a clue for him.

[Deleted]

We have a hand signal. It's making a fist with one hand, and then covering it with your other open hand.

We actually came up with it when we were just friends in college so that we could discreetly step outside a party and smoke weed without having a bunch of hangers on.

Now, it applies to anywhere public to just leave.

[noodle]

Aug 18, 2013 18:58:09 GMT -5 RoxMonster said:

Usually if I can't get his attention without other people noticing, I will text him. Even if we are at the same table. We've gotten really good at reading each others' nonverbals though.

Once we left, he felt bad, but then said "You should have texted me."

i get it, but after this long together, I feel he should know.  I always keep an eye on him and get him out of stuff with my work or friends if he's getting bored/ tired.

[sawyerthedestroyer]

We have a code word: Hamburgers.

[TrickyBob]

Aug 18, 2013 19:47:52 GMT -5 noodle said:

Aug 18, 2013 18:59:00 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Make eye contact and kind of raise eyebrow/widen eyes

Did this, with an added head nod to the door for at least half an hour.

Also, half the group left and H didn't even check in with me about time then. That's usually a clue for him.

My husband and I are both not big group people and our threshold maxes out at about 30/40 minutes unless we are with friends/a function we actually want to be at. 

So we are normally aware of the other one to see when we want to leave. lol. 

[Dusky]

If we're both ready to go we have a "look" that we exchange, but when it is just one of us that is ready the other tends to get wrapped up in events and not notice. In that case we just whisper to each other.

[Deleted]

There's a look. It's an eyebrow quirk followed by a mouth tweek, which is occasionally combined with a little head tilt. If we aren't as worried about being subtle our verbal signal is, "So, what do you think?"

[BaliHai]

We look at each other and raise our eyebrows/tilt our heads towards the door, or sometimes just nod. If I'm having an oblivious night, H looks at me and pretends to fall asleep, lol.

[revolution]

We are usually on the same page and are both ready to go at the same time and one of us gives the other one a look.

[peachmojito]

Muskrat.