I'm ready to go get her now.

[medicmommy]

Oldest left for college Sunday. We dropped her off and left about 1pm. Sunday was decent. She had fun. Yesterday, I spoke with her multiple times and she was having a shitty day. It's a work college and all resident students have to have an on campus job. She got the one she wanted least. Eh. Deal with it. Happens to a lot of the 1st years and it's only 10 hours a week.

It also appears that her roommate may have a body odor issue. To the point that DD stuffed dryer sheets in the air conditioner vents. I'll have to find out if she can have a Scentsy warmer.

At 1:15 this am, she texted me that her fan broke. She sleeps with it every night so she wasn't sleeping with a shit. I want her here so I can take care of all of these little problems. Lol

[luckyval]

Awww - give her a week, maybe two and she'll love it

I lucked out with the roommate freshman year. She was a no-show in our non-air conditioned dorm, so I was free to take cold showers and stand naked in front of the fan every night, lol

[wambam]

Poor girl

She'll get through it though. She'll get out of her room, meet people in class and other activities, and it will be fine!

[medicmommy]

She doesn't know if she can switch at the semester or not. She had a meeting at 8 so I'm waiting for a call or text. She has 3 siblings here so I really expected her to be glad to go and hadn't prepared myself for her having a rough few days. Classes start tomorrow so hopefully that will help some too.

[rex]

The first semester of college can be really hard. This is a good experience for her and she'll be okay!

[bcv513]

The first week sucks! I remember calling home and my whole family was there for a Labor Day cookout. I got off the phone and cried. She'll be okay. It just takes time.

[zarapipe]

Ditto the RA about the body order issue. They can handle that for her.

Hope it gets better for her!

[medicmommy]

She said she's really nice and they seem to get along otherwise. The only other issue is that her roommate likes to leave the door unlocked, but she didn't seem to have a problem with changing that.

[sunshineray]

Awww! It's going to be a big adjustment (for both of you) for a little while. She's learning to be an adult and problem solve, which is tough for a mama to watch and not do it for her.

I'm sorry she didn't get a job she wanted. I bet if she busts her ass in the current one they'd be more likely to let her change it next semester.

I feel her on the shitty roommate issue. My freshman year of college I somehow ended up in an apartment style dorm with three upperclassmen who treated me like shit (turned my alarm off so I was late for class, didn't give me any of my messages, etc.) Fortunately I had made friends with a girl who's roommate was moving out of their dorm room and I was able to move in with her second semester. She just needs to be on the lookout.

Hugs medic!

[pooh8402]

I was an RA for 3 years in college. If someone had come to me with this issue, I'd probably be like "uhhhh, I dunno. Talk to the hall director." Contrary to popular belief, we were NOT trained in BO issues. Actual conflicts and personality clashes, yes, but not hygiene.

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[medicmommy]

Aug 20, 2013 9:02:28 GMT -5 sunshineray said:

I feel her on the shitty roommate issue. My freshman year of college I somehow ended up in an apartment style dorm with three upperclassmen who treated me like shit (turned my alarm off so I was late for class, didn't give me any of my messages, etc.)

Omg. That's horrible. Why are girls so terrible?

[medicmommy]

I think after the second or third week. I don't know how to tell someone you're moving because they smell though.

[moolarkey]

My dd was so excited to start college, couldn't wait to get there. She called us every night for about 6 weeks. I thought she was feeling sorry for us. I didn't learn until after she graduated from college that she was homesick. She loved college but she missed us and she missed home. She'll get through this and so will you - if she talks about transferring make her stay the year. What we saw with both of our kids is that they knew many kids that hated their first semester, started the transfer paperwork and committed to the new school but by the end of that first semester they liked it and wished they hadn't committed to transferring.

[Deleted]

holy crap, this is making me feel so ancient. i didn't call my parents after they dropped me off for 2 weeks. because i couldn't afford long distance charges.

[Norticprincess]

Aug 20, 2013 9:03:32 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

I was an RA for 3 years in college. If someone had come to me with this issue, I'd probably be like "uhhhh, I dunno. Talk to the hall director." Contrary to popular belief, we were NOT trained in BO issues. Actual conflicts and personality clashes, yes, but not hygiene.

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This must vary by school. DH was an RA. They went over dealing with hygiene issues every year in training because it came up a lot. our school had a higher male population than female and had quite a few foreign students. add in the akward engineer major part. DH first year he had a coed floor so it wasnt as bad. His next two years he had all male floors. (Icky icky icky) he learned to address it in an early quarter floor meeting after the first quarter. he also held how to do your laundry sessions.



That first week is such an adjustment. Hopefully it gets better once she settles in and classes start.

[pooh8402]

Aug 20, 2013 15:21:18 GMT -5 Norticprincess said:

Aug 20, 2013 9:03:32 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

I was an RA for 3 years in college. If someone had come to me with this issue, I'd probably be like "uhhhh, I dunno. Talk to the hall director." Contrary to popular belief, we were NOT trained in BO issues. Actual conflicts and personality clashes, yes, but not hygiene.

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This must vary by school. DH was an RA. They went over dealing with hygiene issues every year in training because it came up a lot. our school had a higher male population than female and had quite a few foreign students. add in the akward engineer major part. DH first year he had a coed floor so it wasnt as bad. His next two years he had all male floors. (Icky icky icky) he learned to address it in an early quarter floor meeting after the first quarter. he also held how to do your laundry sessions.



That first week is such an adjustment. Hopefully it gets better once she settles in and classes start.

yea, I was in an all girl dorm. we were more worried about catfights and hormones and changing the lightbulbs than hygiene.

[Norticprincess]

Aug 20, 2013 15:23:29 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Aug 20, 2013 15:21:18 GMT -5 Norticprincess said:

This must vary by school. DH was an RA. They went over dealing with hygiene issues every year in training because it came up a lot. our school had a higher male population than female and had quite a few foreign students. add in the akward engineer major part. DH first year he had a coed floor so it wasnt as bad. His next two years he had all male floors. (Icky icky icky) he learned to address it in an early quarter floor meeting after the first quarter. he also held how to do your laundry sessions.



That first week is such an adjustment. Hopefully it gets better once she settles in and classes start.

yea, I was in an all girl dorm. we were more worried about catfights and hormones and changing the lightbulbs than hygiene.

I can see how that could get messy.

[RoxMonster]

The first few weeks of college were tough for me too. I was not used to sharing a (really really tiny) room with anyone, my roommate was pretty awful and her boyfriend was constantly in our room (I switched roommates at the semester), and my dorm had no A/C and it was hot as hell. It took me time to click with some people and really get the hang of it. Plus I'm close with my parents and it was the first time I'd be away from home for more than a week.

But I adjusted well and was able to meet some people. It will all work out and she will end up loving it.

[Monica Geller]

Aug 20, 2013 14:53:45 GMT -5 cville said:

holy crap, this is making me feel so ancient. i didn't call my parents after they dropped me off for 2 weeks. because i couldn't afford long distance charges.

I had to make a collect call home about 1 week into it to beg my parents to pick me up for the next weekend. I was a wreck.  I think my dad probably wanted to come get me right then, but they were there the minute my last class ended on that Friday. 

Can you even make collect calls anymore?!?

[snickers]

Awwww, what a sin