s/o Hotels: WWYD?

[winning]

I'm meeting Friend A, her two sisters, and Friend B in NYC in October.

Friend A just sent an email saying "Hey, guys! I booked us a room with two double beds and a roll-away! It will only be $57 per person!"

Yes, you read that right. A room.

Sharing a room with four other women for 4 days/3 nights sounds horrible to me. I do not do well with sharing beds, let alone a double bed. I need my personal space. I like being comfortable.

I am more than willing to pay more to have my space. I'm 90% sure Friend B is in the same boat. We already discussed this briefly when Friend A told us she might stay in a hostel.

FTR, the "sharing a room" discussion never came up before Friend A booked.

WWYD? Will I look like a b*tch if I respond back with, "Thanks, but Friend B and I will be staying at X hotel instead?"

[starburst604]

That does sound way too cramped. I would book my own room too. You don't need to explain yourself - if they ask why just say you move around too much at night to share a double bed or something.

[Muddled]

If you didn't agree to this, get your own room.

I can't believe she wouldn't talk to anyone before she booked 1 room for five grown women. That is insane. I get that she is trying to save money, but she should understand that not everyone has the same goal.

[spindle92]

5 women sharing 1 bathroom....no chance in hell.


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[kaneen]

I would absolutely not share a room with 4 women. Just tell her you booked your own room. She's the one who jumped the gun by booking without asking first.

[ECB]

I don't know that I'd stay in a different hotel (unless the one she picked is really crappy), but you have every right to get your own room.  And I'd be honest - you had expected you all would be getting 2 rooms and w/ there being 5 of you, that's what you'd prefer to do anyhow.  So- you and B will get another room. 

AND if I were the one stuck on a roll-away... I'd be pissed.

[lovelybb]

Yeah no. I would be fine on the cot because I can't sleep in a bed with anyone else except D but sharing with 4 other woman? Sounds awful. I am really surprised too that she did this w/o asking anyone. That was kind of her to try to save $$ for everybody, but some people don't mind spending more for comfort.

[glitzyglow]

If you didn't agree to the arrangement of sharing a room with all of them, I'd be honest and let her know that you aren't comfortable sharing a room with everyone and that you're opting out and will get your own room.

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Aug 20, 2013 12:55:08 GMT -5 kaneen said:

I would absolutely not share a room with 4 women. Just tell her you booked your own room. She's the one who jumped the gun by booking without asking first.

yep this

[naeljun]

I would and I have done this for one night but never for more than that. That would totally suck.

[jojoandleo]

I share a room with 5 people almost every year for pride, BUT, we discuss it FIRST. You don't just book a room without talking to the other people involved. I would absolutely tell her you and B will be staying elsewhere.

[stephreloaded]

I don't have issues sharing a room but I would be annoyed that they didn't discuss it with me first

Definitely, tell her that you made your own arrangements.

[GilliC]

Aug 20, 2013 12:56:56 GMT -5 ECB said:

I don't know that I'd stay in a different hotel (unless the one she picked is really crappy), but you have every right to get your own room.  And I'd be honest - you had expected you all would be getting 2 rooms and w/ there being 5 of you, that's what you'd prefer to do anyhow.  So- you and B will get another room. 

AND if I were the one stuck on a roll-away... I'd be pissed.

This.  If she was budgeting based on quintuple occupancy, she's got her own set of problems.  They're still in a triple, so it shouldn't be a huge blow.  Maybe you can get adjoining rooms to make it feel more inclusive.

[Deleted]

I can barely sleep in a double bed by myself - let alone another person and sharing a room with 4 people? NO.

[Wanderista]

Yeah, I totally understood the problem here when you said that A was considering staying in a hostel. Clearly, you guys have different travel preferences/values. I have a few friends who are the hosteling types, though even among them, I only know a few who would probably be ok with an arrangement like this. Those tend to be the kind of people who want to keep things as cheap as humanly possible and also, yeah, who tend not to care so much about personal space or privacy. It's inherent in the nature of most hostels. Friend A has basically turned a hotel room into a hostel. 

I agree that you need to do what makes you feel comfortable so that you will have a good time. You don't want to be resentful, uncomfortable and sleep-deprived on what is supposed to be a fun trip. That is totally ok. Friend A might be miffed but that's kind of her problem. She didn't care about anyone else being miffed when she made a unilateral decision.

[winning]

Sorry for the post and run. I'm waiting to hear back from B before I respond to A. I think I'll take the different room, same hotel approach. I'd prefer to stay somewhere more central and upscale, but the hotel she chose looks doable... and I don't want to rock the boat too much.

I'll let you guys know what happens!

[Wrath0fKuus]

That ass-to-toilet ratio is completely unacceptable.

[PinkSquirrel]

Too many women, not enough bathrooms. That sounds miserable. Also, because I'm negative Nancy I would check the bed bug registry to see if the hotel she booked has a major issue because getting eaten alive by bed bugs is the only thing worse than 5 women in one room.

[mcc]

I shared a room with 4 other women when I went to the Derby. However the room was something upwards of $500/night and we made it work. I'd look into alternate arrangements if you're not comfortable