My brother is out of jail

[themysteriouswife]

He was suppose to go to a treatment facility. The facility does not have a spot for him. Due to it being court ordered he gets the first spot when it's opened. Right now it looks like Sep. H and I are on the fence about letting him come to Allie's party. He is currently on all meds and doing well. I don't want him to think everything is okay and back to normal. He is sick and I can't open myself up for the pain of relapse. A doesn't know any different and keeps asking when he is going to call her. They talked on the phone a lot. Ugh, my family is so screwed up.

[Kristinmo]

(((hugs)))

There is no right or wrong answer here. Do what you feel is best.

[gogadgetgo]

I agree with Kristin. Lots of (((MW)))

[btay]

((()))

[themysteriouswife]

That was short lived. My oldest brother called and said he wouldn't be at the party if M or his mom was there.

Now I get to choose brothers. I think I'm going to just leave things alone. If M continues to improve, I will try to have dinner with him at Christmas.

[gogadgetgo]

I'm sorry things are so complicated. Try and rest. Concentrate on getting yourself better and enjoy the weekend and party as is.

I think revisiting the situation in a few months sounds like a good plan. Hopefully things with your brother will have improved by then.

[themysteriouswife]

I think E was the nudge I needed. He had valid points. We both cried. He called back and apologized for putting me in this position. I think emotions are raw and wounds are open. I just wish things were simple.

Here's my FFC. I wish M's mentality never improved. I wish he were still 8. I know this sounds awful. Things were so much simpler 5 years ago.

[bugandbibs]

((Hugs))

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Loving someone doesn't mean they need to be included in all aspects of your life.

[btay]

Aug 22, 2013 17:10:54 GMT -5 bugandbibs said:

((Hugs))

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Loving someone doesn't mean they need to be included in all aspects of your life.

So true.  The big message in Al Anon is how to "detach with love"