Shower/Bach Party Stuff

[lauren9317]

Next month, I'm flying up north for my friend's pre-wedding weekend. (I'm a bridesmaid) Her bridal shower is at noon at someone's house and then the b-party festivities start at 7 pm at a bar across town. The MOHs are planning most of it.

I won't have a car and don't know anyone except the bride-to-be. Obviously I am not asking her to chauffeur me anywhere because I would never want to bother her during that weekend. I did ask her if she knew if any other guests were flying in that weekend so that I could share a cab with them from the airport to the shower, and she asked me to email her MOHs with logistics questions since they would know better. So I did and big surprise... many weeks later no response back, lol. Oh well, I'll try them again at some point.

The main thing I need to figure out is what I'll do between the shower and b-party! I would like to get a ride to the hotel and then meet everyone up at the b-party. Hoping I can bum a ride with someone rather than paying for a cab each time, that would be silly.

I know I'll get it figured out, but for some reason I feel like it's annoying and naggy of me to email the MOHs and force them to plan out my transportation for me. But it makes the most sense for me to ask them, right? How else can I do what's most efficient?

[moonstone523]

Hmmm... Where are you staying?

I'd probably rent a car or ask the bride for rides.

Sticky situation though. I am a BM in July. The wedding is in
Mexico. The shower was last weekend in Va. I didn't go. It's kinda awkward. And I feel like the bride is a tad upset.

[babybchbum]

i don't understand how the bride can have expectations of you flying all over the world for their events.

Lauren, I would hope the bride would be able to be of some help to you or at least her mom ( if she lives in the area as well)

[krystalskitsch]

I had my shower and bach party on the same day with about the same timeline. The girls who were going to both events sort of met each other at the shower and hung out all day! They got ready together in one of their hotel rooms and passed the time shopping for adult items, buying alcohol, making drinks, wandering the area. It worked out. I hope something like that can happen for you!

[lauren9317]

Moon- I *hope* I'm staying at a hotel that the MOHs have reserved for everyone who wants to spend the night after going out. The bride told me she was pretty sure this is the case so that I wouldn't have to worry about booking a hotel. But I'm not even sure-- today I received the b-party email-invite and it gives no details aside from the restaurant that we are starting the night out at.

I'm sure it will all work out but now I'm getting antsy to know all the deets...lol. And I don't want to be annoying and bug the hosts too much, but obviously I need to know all the logistics, especially since I'm an out of town guest. Guess I will give it a week or so and then start asking them.

[lauren9317]

Jun 19, 2012 19:04:06 GMT -5 krystalskitsch said:

I had my shower and bach party on the same day with about the same timeline. The girls who were going to both events sort of met each other at the shower and hung out all day! They got ready together in one of their hotel rooms and passed the time shopping for adult items, buying alcohol, making drinks, wandering the area. It worked out. I hope something like that can happen for you!

I'm hoping something like that will happen!

[jen812]

I'd bug them & ask. Just tell them you're trying to plan & dont want to inconvenience anyone with last minute running around.

[jennifer8080]

Wait? So you don't know what hotel you're staying at either? That would drive me crazy. I can't imagine relying on someone else for important stuff like that. Especially if they already aren't getting back to you. Is this a big city? If not I would likely just rent a car. I hate being dependent on other people, especially if I don't know them.

[lauren9317]

It's Baltimore. I had assumed that renting a car would be too much to deal with, but maybe I'll have to look into it after all. Although I am probably making too big a deal of things-- I was realizing that I think all the BMs are from OOT so I'm sure we're all in the same boat. I'm gonna email the MOHs right now (again..geez) and ask them about the hotel situation at least.

[jen812]

Can you email everyone & ask if they've finalized their plans?

[jennifer8080]

Meh. You could probably do with out the rental car and deal with cabs. I would definitely try to get some info out of them though!

[amellis2]

Not related, but it's early and I saw "Bach Party" and I thought, "OOh. Classical Music. That's classy."

[lauren9317]

Jun 20, 2012 6:47:47 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

Not related, but it's early and I saw "Bach Party" and I thought, "OOh. Classical Music. That's classy."

Wow, I don't think I've thought about J.S. Bach since my piano lessons days

[tashaandsage]

I'd try the MOHs again. I'm a planner, and not knowing that kind of stuff would be making me crazy. And personally, I wouldn't want to rent a car, but then I'm not keen on driving myself around unknown places if can avoid it. I'd much rather take cabs, especially since it will be likely you can share cabs with the other girls.

[lauren9317]

I emailed the MOHs last night around 830 PM and they still haven't written me back yet! I know it's only 10 AM so I need to chill out but it's weird to me that they don't shoot me a quick email response. All I asked was if they know if any of the other BMs/guests are flying in that morning and if there is a hotel picked for us to stay at that night. I think they hate me or something...lol.

(Now watch me get a response from them shortly after posting this complaint, ha)

[jen812]

Could you ask the bride to confirm their email? Tell her you think you have it wrong since they haven't responded to you.

[tashaandsage]

Lauren, I would totally be wondering why I hadn't gotten a quick response yet! I always expect someone to get back to me very quickly, and I would even more so since it isn't the first time you've emailed them. (You know lately I've really been trying to work with Beckett about being more patient, that you don't always get what you want the second you ask for it. It's clear where he gets that trait from!)

If you don't hear back from the MOHs, could you ask the bride for some of the other BMs' emails. Perhaps they are in the same boat as you.

[moonstone523]

Jun 20, 2012 9:04:37 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

I emailed the MOHs last night around 830 PM and they still haven't written me back yet! I know it's only 10 AM so I need to chill out but it's weird to me that they don't shoot me a quick email response. All I asked was if they know if any of the other BMs/guests are flying in that morning and if there is a hotel picked for us to stay at that night. I think they hate me or something...lol.

(Now watch me get a response from them shortly after posting this complaint, ha)

I had a minor freak out on some BM for the wedding I'm in. Two of them teach with the bride, so they obviously chat every day. There was no talk about a shower/bach party so I got the convo started. I wasn't sure if I could make it, but I was willing to help out wherever.

Silence. after every email.

Meanwhile, they were planning away on their own and not keeping the oot-ers in the loop. Yeah, It pissed me off, especially since their lack of communication caused some mishaps.

Whatever. I got over it.

[lauren9317]

Moon- that would piss me off so much!

[moonstone523]

Jun 20, 2012 10:31:06 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

Moon- that would piss me off so much!

It pissed me off too. I let them know as well. I probably shouldn't have, but I did.

[lauren9317]

Jun 20, 2012 11:52:04 GMT -5 moonstone523 said:

Jun 20, 2012 10:31:06 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

Moon- that would piss me off so much!

It pissed me off too. I let them know as well. I probably shouldn't have, but I did.

Ooooooh what did you say?? I love when people get put in their place

[moonstone523]

Bridesmaid,
You didn't offend me; I'm just more concerned with the lack of communication. Being far away and trying to help isn't easy. Being far away, and being shut out of communication makes it impossible. Maybe I'm overreacting, but I sense something else is going on here if it took an email from Sarah to get this out.  That's fine, it would just be nice to know. 

Ill let you take care of the invites as you originally agreed to do.  I'm not tied to helping on any certain thing.  At this point the only help I could give is financial. If you'd like me to contribute money towards favors, or anywhere, let me know how much. 

If not, Lindsay and I plan on sending a gift to Brooke for the event. 

[lauren9317]

That sounded good, very to the point and cutting to the chase. Too bad people have to be so weird about communicating, you would think it would be easy in this day and age.

[lauren9317]

So the MOH did finally respond to me this morning. And I'm glad I got the ball rolling with this because she sent out an email to all the girls who are coming from out of town, so that we can all respond to each other and sync up transportation plans. I responded to it with my own plans so now we just have to see if anyone writes back to me in this century...lol. I'm sure it will be fine, hopefully

[jen812]

Good! Maybe you can just cut her out now & get in touch with other OOTers.

[lauren9317]

Yeah that's what I did, I responded just to her saying thanks for sending the email and then I replied all to everyone else except her since I wanted to spare her any more back and forth emails about the subject.