Random tuesday vent

[arborgold]

SO....because the ex new the friend who's husband died today, he's been messaging me on FB pretty constantly asking for news. I'm still going through a rough patch mentally dealing with a lot of things, but whatever, I'm holding it together.

Until just now. When he sent me a link to some pics of MY cat (the one I left behind that I'd had for ten years because we didn't want to split up the cats, and he was NOT giving me the other cat)....with his new girlfriend.

WTF, dude. No, seriously. WTF.

Is it wrong of me at this point to unfriend his ass? Every message from him kind of reopens old wounds and it just...well...it sucks.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry :-(. I don't think it's wrong to unfriend him. If having that contact and connection with him just hurts you, why maintain it?

[ringstrue]

WTMF? Did you rip him a new one!?!? Defriend!

[dev22]

Defriend.

Cuss him out before hand if it will make you feel better.

Also block, so he has no possible way of messaging you on FB in the future. And block him from calling or texting you as well. The dude is a giant asshole, and you do not need or deserve that kind of shit.

[StrawberryBlondie]

Jun 19, 2012 18:38:09 GMT -5 dev22 said:

Defriend.

Cuss him out before hand if it will make you feel better.

Also block, so he has no possible way of messaging you on FB in the future. And block him from calling or texting you as well. The dude is a giant asshole, and you do not need or deserve that kind of shit.

All of this.

[NitaX]

Jun 19, 2012 18:52:44 GMT -5 StrawberryBlondie said:

Jun 19, 2012 18:38:09 GMT -5 dev22 said:

Defriend.

Cuss him out before hand if it will make you feel better.

Also block, so he has no possible way of messaging you on FB in the future. And block him from calling or texting you as well. The dude is a giant asshole, and you do not need or deserve that kind of shit.

Word. Look, ya'll don't have kids or any real ties. Do yourself an emotional favor and defriend his ass and stop any contact.

All of this.

[thejackpot]

Defriend and limit all future contact.

[Deleted]

I will beat him for you if you need, that was totally uncalled for.

[ttt]

Why would he send you that link??

DEFRIEND stat.

[arborgold]

Defriended. And drinking...and doing other bad for me things. Which I'm probably only sharing because I'm drunk. In any case, thanks for the advice and vibes everyone. They were much appreciated.

[GailGoldie]

defriend for sure. There is no reason to keep in touch with an ex unless children are involved.

i'm sorry about your loss.

[meshaliuknits]

Defriend my ass. He needs to be stabbed in the eye.

Sent from my EVO

[dev22]

Jun 19, 2012 22:23:48 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

Defriend my ass. He needs to be stabbed in the eye.

Sent from my EVO

Mesh and I could form a possy and take care of this for you. Maybe we could meet you for brunch after.

[meshaliuknits]

Like!

Let's get waffles.

Sent from my EVO

[dev22]

Jun 19, 2012 22:33:01 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

Like!

Let's get waffles.

Sent from my EVO

MMM waffles. And champagne. And bacon.

[katfayder]

... Any possibility he's just a dumbass who was stupid enough to think that seeing your cat would hurt and seeing it with her would blow? Maybe he just thought you'd like to see the cat, period.

Defriending and drinking is already in effect, so rock it, of course, but maybe this possibility will make this blow less tomorrow?

[brookles]

Ugh, arbor, I'm so sorry.

I heard from my douchebag ex the other day (who also mentioned his girlfriend, of course), and it's always hard, no matter how long it's been.

[arborgold]

Jun 20, 2012 8:17:03 GMT -5 brookles said:

Ugh, arbor, I'm so sorry.

I heard from my douchebag ex the other day (who also mentioned his girlfriend, of course), and it's always hard, no matter how long it's been.

That's the thing. I PURPOSEFULLY have kept details about any of my new relationships from him, because I think it's cruel to do otherwise, especially this close to the end of the marriage.

It's not that I want to be with the douche, but it still hurts, kwim? And I was PISSED that she was holding MY CAT!

(rational arbor knows the anger was irrational - but it's still there, so rational arbor can suck it!)

[chichimi]

Ugh Im so sorry! If I saw another girl with my dog, I would lose it. I get more teary over her than I do my ex.