Well, I cried during dinner tonight.

[The Foozzler]

I've been handling everything so well the last few days but finally had a bit of a break down at dinner. 

H is healing well enough from surgery but he needs a lot of help, including every few hours during the night. Mostly during the night I need to help him get to the bathroom, change the ice in his ice machine, and take more pain killers. I can handle helping and being with Tyler.

But Tyler is going on day 2 of diarrhea. And he cries in pain during diaper changes when I try to clean him and dab more diaper cream on. He seems to feel fine otherwise but there are so many tears every time he poops.

I came to the realization over dinner that Tyler can't go to daycare tomorrow. Tomorrow is my first day back at school, my mom's first day with her new class, and my MIL's first day at a new school. H can't be alone with Tyler. He has been fine all summer, yet he gets sick the one week where childcare is impossible. Thankfully SIL was able to rearrange her day and come over until I get home tomorrow. But if he needs to spend Tuesday home, I have no childcare.

I am not complaining about going back to work. But it sucks that me and everyone else that takes care of tyler can't miss work this week. I can deal with H sick or Tyler sick, but both being needy right now caused a little it of tears to spill out at dinner tonight. Sigh.

[imimahoney]

Ugh, that all sounds so stressful. Lots and lots of hugs. I hope Tyler feels better asap and you are able to get a break.

[rjamz]

Oy, I hope everyone starts feeling better soon.

[formerlyllizzyb]

You have a lot going on. Hugs.

[careyalis]

Huge hugs!!

[The Foozzler]

Aug 25, 2013 20:02:38 GMT -5 @therealmc said:

Big hugs J. It is a tough situation and you are going to have to call in some favors. After E got out of the hospital with his broken pelvis, I had to help him with everything...peeing, wiping, washing, dressing. Dylan was 5 months old. E's brother came from Ireland for 2 weeks and then my mom and sister came to stay. I could not have managed without them.

Don't be afraid to ask for help.

Yeah, helping his pull his pants and brushing his teeth has been fun.

i thought it would be easy to handle myself since Tyler and I will be out of the house from 7:30 to 4:30 but Tyler not feeling well is ruining my plan.

[sunshineluv]

Big huge hugs!! I would cry too. I hope little man feels better soon and that can be one stress off your plate.

[kdrake8]

Big big hugs! You're truly doing great.

[Faevantastic]

Awww, I'm so sorry. That's a lot to handle. You are a trooper. I hope Tyler gets better.

[spaghetticat]

I'm sorry. I hope Tyler feels better ASAP.

[thedahliharpa]

Going back to work sounds stressful enough without all of the other factors. Care.com may have people who do on call care in case you need it later in the week or future. It's not ideal BUT your DH would be home to supervise and it would avoid causing you more stress w/ your job. Even having someone come for a few hours to prepare lunch and change diapers would help.
I hope his poop and bum clear up so he can resume DC soon.

[steph196]

I'm so sorry that this is such a difficult time! I hope everyone gets better quickly and you can have some time to relax...that is so stressful! Hugs!

[The Foozzler]

Aug 25, 2013 21:25:07 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Going back to work sounds stressful enough without all of the other factors. Care.com may have people who do on call care in case you need it later in the week or future. It's not ideal BUT your DH would be home to supervise and it would avoid causing you more stress w/ your job. Even having someone come for a few hours to prepare lunch and change diapers would help.
I hope his poop and bum clear up so he can resume DC soon.

I was thinking of looking at care.com if we need someone for Tuesday and we can't find someone. It is good that H is home and can give directions despite the fact he can't give any care himself.

[creamsiclechica]

Oh, wow, I'd cry too! You've been through so much caring for your H through this whole ordeal, but this is so much. I'm hoping it clears up before Tuesday becomes an issue. Crossing my fingers for you and sendin lots of love and strength for you to make it through the next couple days and the rest of DH'a recovery!

[claralou]

Ugh. I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. I hope T feels better soon. Hang in there mama.

[thedahliharpa]

Aug 25, 2013 21:45:10 GMT -5 The Foozzler said:

Aug 25, 2013 21:25:07 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Going back to work sounds stressful enough without all of the other factors. Care.com may have people who do on call care in case you need it later in the week or future. It's not ideal BUT your DH would be home to supervise and it would avoid causing you more stress w/ your job. Even having someone come for a few hours to prepare lunch and change diapers would help.
I hope his poop and bum clear up so he can resume DC soon.

I was thinking of looking at care.com if we need someone for Tuesday and we can't find someone. It is good that H is home and can give directions despite the fact he can't give any care himself.

It's worth a shot. The person doesn't have to be a perfect fit and since they are being watched it would encourage extra effort for approval. Maybe you will stumble into someone who can do a date night when this over and DH takes you out for some well deserved spoiling.

[AndyCohen]

Aug 25, 2013 22:21:01 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

Aug 25, 2013 21:45:10 GMT -5 The Foozzler said:

I was thinking of looking at care.com if we need someone for Tuesday and we can't find someone. It is good that H is home and can give directions despite the fact he can't give any care himself.

It's worth a shot. The person doesn't have to be a perfect fit and since they are being watched it would encourage extra effort for approval. Maybe you will stumble into someone who can do a date night when this over and DH takes you out for some well deserved spoiling.

Agree with this. If it works out it will relieve some stress for you. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this right when your starting back up at work. You're doing great though!

[devotchka]

Ugh that sounds really stressful. Hugs!!!

[jfh]

I don't know how you're holding it together. Hugs, mama.

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Dude, that would make me cry, too. I hope that he's better by Tuesday so he can go to daycare!

[carawestt]

I'm sorry, foozle

[pippilongstocking]

I'm so sorry, that whole mess is just awful. I hope Tyler is better soon!

[bean47]

I'm sorry you're dealing with all this! I hope Tyler is better today so that he can return to daycare.

[bigapple]

Hugs and virtual fetus-friendly wine to you. I would've cried a long time ago. You are amazing for shouldering so much and holding it together this long.

[Beener]

Big hugs

[The Foozzler]

Aug 26, 2013 6:30:27 GMT -5 bigapple said:

Hugs and virtual fetus-friendly wine to you. I would've cried a long time ago. You are amazing for shouldering so much and holding it together this long.

I'm not one of the pregnants here! I had a large glass of wi e last night!

[bigapple]

Aug 26, 2013 7:17:01 GMT -5 The Foozzler said:

Aug 26, 2013 6:30:27 GMT -5 bigapple said:

Hugs and virtual fetus-friendly wine to you. I would've cried a long time ago. You are amazing for shouldering so much and holding it together this long.

I'm not one of the pregnants here! I had a large glass of wi e last night!

Sorry! I'm clearly having trouble tracking the breeders.