Post by lauranicole91 on Aug 26, 2013 9:58:35 GMT -5
As some of you may remember, back in 2011, a friend of mine's son was struggling for his life. Well soon after my T&P request back then, he lost his battle.
The mom is really struggling right now as the 2 year anniversary of his death is quickly approaching. She is really hurting right now and I wish I had the right words to comfort her. I just can't even imagine the heart ache so I just feel like all my words are cliche and empty feeling.
If you feel like you need a good sob, here is a letter she wrote to him shortly after his passing. She re-posted it again today and am sobbing mess.
Nine months for us to wait We could not anticipate, the looks of your sweet little face Fifteen weeks along we were ecstatic when we learned we had a little boy to come!
The first time I felt you move I couldn't help but to feel soothed Being able to feel you alive inside me is something indescribable you are surviving!
A foot in my ribs an elbow to the bladder pains in my back it didn't matter!
What an honor for me to provide the space that you need to grow and thrive Forty pounds and thirty nine weeks later before I knew it you were ready to meet.
June fifteenth, eight pm, my water broke I didn't know what to think I thought it was a joke All this time patiently waiting it's finally time, ready or not here comes my baby.
Laying in the hospital, the pain started building I never could have imagined how beneficiary Eight hours later on June sixteenth at three forty three am, you were finally here for me to keep.
Welcome to the world Nathaniel Jackson S Six pounds nine ounces, twenty one inches long perfection at it's best you're finally right where you belong!
We didn't hear you cry, you weren't placed in my arms we were full of fright and alarm Little did I know your umbilical cord ripped you lost a lot of blood and needed assistance quick.
Off to the NICU you went as I lay there stuck, being stitched Me and my child had been robbed all because the doctor didn't carefully do his job.
Hours and hours went by before we could finally come and say "Hi" Little did we know with each step we'd take we were about to face heart break.
The doctor said your son's very sick he was born with a defect that has to be fixed There have been many children with Tetralogy of Fallot but it won't be long before he has to go.
UCDavis is the best at what they do it has been done before, he'll be fixed up just like new! A few hours later you were scheduled to be transferred our whole world had been flipped upside down and shattered.
Six days old, your first open heart surgery he can't handle the full repair, for now we'll fix his pulmonary Walking you down to the operating room my heart sank, and hit the floor with a boom.
Hours on end, waiting for you to get back I could not believe your little heart had been put through that Walking into the room seeing you hooked up to all the machines I felt a tightness in my chest, I couldn't breathe.
An innocent child, the most precious thing to me had been burdened with a life long difficulty Watching you fight for your life was the scariest thing I've ever seen with my own two eyes.
As days go by your getting stronger with each breath you take your heart grows fonder I see that sparkle in your eyes and I am eternally mesmerized.
From the moment I saw your face I knew nobody could replace that feeling deep inside with you right by my side.
The days felt like months that stretched into years many restless nights an endless amount of tears.
On August fifteenth the doctors said you could come home you are now well and strong enough to do things on your own There was a lot to learn, confidence earned I had to make sure the doctors weren't concerned.
I would go to the ends of the earth and back because you, my son, are my other half I cannot express how joyous I was that moment you finally got to see the sun.
Riding in the car in the back seat you looked so content, so sweet I could not wait for you to come home to enjoy everything that was your very own.
The very first night, every thing was so right you fell asleep to the sound of my heart beat Watching your head go up and down on my chest it was the very first night, I could finally rest.
Days go by and we're working on our routine with just you and me it is my heaven on earth my serenity.
Before I knew it, it wasn't too long In a weeks time we had to take you back to the doctor something was very wrong.
You were short of breath with blueish tint to your skin you couldn't keep your feeds down and blood was coming out from within.
We arrived at the hospital and once again, they were taking you They ran all kinds of tests, poking and proding you Everyone seemed to be so confused.
When the results came in the doctors said your blood was infected we can't point out exactly what it is this kind of bacteria is usually seen on the skin.
A week in the hospital with mommy by your side No food, more antibiotics, lots of more tests and bed rest By the end of the week your tests came back clean.
I went home for the night to shower and repack in the morning your father and I were coming back Later that night when I called to check on you the doctors informed me of good news.
You had been cleared of infection, and started eating again your energy levels were up, and that much closer to going out the door but before jumping the gun, they sent you to the floor.
The very next morning we came to be with you You looked terrible, they obviously knew nothing about you Soaked in your vomit, difficulty to breathe not only that but you were as white as a sheet.
We were enraged at your condition it was made perfectly clear, someone wasn't cut out for their position In an instant we made a demand to speak with the supervisor, whoever was highest in command.
The decision was made, you needed an IV so the doctors came in, and you didn't make a peep This was very unusual, usually you'd scream but your oxygen dropped lower, you were put on a breathing machine.
You were rushed back up to the PICU and on the way you were steadily getting worse By the time you got to your room it looked as if you were bruised all over black and blue.
The doctors came out and said theres no other choice were going to have to put him on emergency life support your father and I sat there and watched we would give anything to trade you spots.
Throughout the surgery the doctors had to stimulate your heart, they said the machine can do alot, but it cannot pump the heart your body had to be able to do its part.
After they were done, they took us into a room they sat us down and told us theres only one more option a surgery to your stomach, to see why it was bulging without that they had no hope, there was nothing else they could do in effort to help you.
In an instant we gave them consent hours and hours of waiting on end it was pure torture the images stuck in your fathers and I head.
When they were done they brought us back into the room they found that your colon had been consumed the technical term they referred to was "mega toxic colon" that was the invasion that made your stomach so swollen.
With our okay they removed it, in the drop of a hat it was up to your body what happened after that That was the best case scenario all we had left to do was wait and see how the night goes.
The very next morning we were looking at you it wasn't just bruises, your body was completely black and blue this wasn't normal something was wrong.
Unfortunately within minutes our suspicion was confirmed throughout the night your heart was getting weaker it could not keep circulating your blood that was needed in order for your body to run.
One last dreaded time we were brought into that room they told us we have a decision for you Over night we got no response your sons brain waves are now gone.
You can keep him on life support, and wait for the rest of his body to die off or take him off now It is the end of his journey, he will not be able to recover what is your choice, what will you do as his mother?
That is the hardest decision to ever have to make what is the best thing to do for our sons sake? I couldn't picture our life without you in it but it was clear you were suffering, this illness is your death sentence.
Me and your father knew what was right it was beyond our control we could not just let you lay there waiting to die.
Nathaniel Jackson S so innocent and sweet I could not believe the words that we were about to speak.
It is not fair for him to lay there and linger as the blood stops flowing to his little toes and fingers Our son deserves the best, it's about time his tired little soul gets to rest.
I had one last request I had to hold my son as they cut his life line Your father and I had to tell you everything was going to be fine.
I held you in my arms, we kissed your sweet little face and told you that you can never be replaced We let you know how much we loved you and that there was no one we treasured above you.
You can go now, we wont be mad in the short time you were here, you taught us so much little man! We will love you forever and beyond but it is time to go to a place, where you will be embraced in no more pain, and held close to GOD's face.
My perfect little son, with an angels face on August twenty nineth two thousand eleven, you were placed in GOD's grace
I am so happy that you were set free from a life filled with agony I cannot wait until the day we meet again, just you and me.
Post by lauranicole91 on Aug 26, 2013 11:12:36 GMT -5
I think what makes it so heart wrenching is the fact that there was almost a sense of false hope when he came through surgery okay. And even appeared to fight off the infection. But then things went down hill.
The last post she made just hours before they took him off life support was so optimistic. It was when the doctors said he appeared to be getting stronger, but in reality they had no idea how far gone he was.