How do you deal with this?

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Thad has started flipping out when he doesn't want to leave somewhere (today it was school and the farmers market and the bookstore.) he stiffens up and won't let me put him in the cat seat an screams ever loving murder. It took me 10 solid minutes to get him in his carseat at te farmers market because we have cars and I literally could not force him into his seat!!!!!!

How do I deal with this?

[carawestt]

Does it help if you calmly talk to him? Lincoln does this sometimes too and I hold him close and talk right into his ear, explaining that he needs to calm down.

[muppetinma]

For the time being, as long as it lasts, I can sing "You Are My Sunshine" or recite "Goodnight, I Love You." Both will stop him in his tracks and quiet him down. I hope it never stops working.

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Today I tried taking him back out of the car (he flips over and stands in his carseat) and talked quietly. He calmed down. As soon as we tried the car again....meltdown.

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I just hold her down with a hand and strap her in, talking doesn't help her. Once she's strapped in and we start moving she calms down. She also tries the flip around and stand up thing.

[imimahoney]

Ari did this today at the park. I was so embarrassed. He kept trying to jump out of his buggy. Eventually I just pushed him down hard enough to strap him in before he would be able to flop out.

[dixeedeluxe]

Buddy

Edie still does this. It was so bad from about 1.5-2.5. It's a teeny bit better now because I bribe her.

[dixeedeluxe]

Confesh, I guess? But I've accidentally bruised edie trying to get her in her seat during a tantrum.

We rarely still ever go anywhere fun with both kids because of this tantrum when leaving issue.

[spaghetticat]

My coworker saw me struggling to get V into the car when I was in the same scenario. She said she tickles her daughter and that always worked. I've always been too flustered to remember to try it.

[monkeybabe]

I give her some random object to play with. Like a wipe or a car or something. It's getting worse with time. >.<

[helicase]

I put one leg up into the car, forming a seat. I sit him into my leg, scoop my arm under his legs and place him into the car seat in the seated position. It works ~80% of the time.

[katfco]

Fortunately for us, the pacifier helps.

[devonpow]

For both my kids what works is a warning ("we are leaving after X" or "we are leaving in 2 minutes", whatever) then we say "bye bye" to things (so at the park, bye bye swings, bye bye slide see you tomorrow! Etc etc etc). It's weird but it works, saying the goodbyes stops the tears 98% of the time.

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Thanks guys. I'm going to try tickling. dixeedeluxe that is one of my fears. He flings himself out of the seat and it is on the drivers side. Today he almost fell out of the car and I felt like I was bein SO ROUGH trying to contain him and keep him safe. But, it's South Carolina! It was fucking hot and he needed to go home.

We said bye bye to his friends. I signed all done. We talked about leaving. It didn't help. He just hates leaving the fun.

[laurack]

I went through a phase with this recently which thankfully seems to sort of have passed. Basically I couldn't get her into her carseat after daycare. She would just stand up and she's too strong for me I suppose because I couldn't get her to sit down,I worried I'd snap her legs or something, omg

What I would do is just say "oh ok, guess we can't go home then, oh well. Can't go home until we go in our seat. Oh you want to see ozzy? Dada? No we can't sadly. Are you hungry! Want a snack? Oh they are at home" etc. usually after about 10 -15 minutes she'd give in.

Now she still screams but doesn't stiffen her body. Leaving the playground can be stressful too and we usually have to drag her away kicking and screaming.

They can be so strong, and so loud...

[fryjack2]

Jack just started the stiffness this week. Holy hell the kid is strong. I have no idea what I'm going to do when Henry starts it too. I'm keeping all the things you guys have mentioned in my head for next tantrum.