FU to Wed Photog

[eightangryreindeer]

Dude I read your post and I say cut and run now, this chick is going to crucify you no matter what you do so I say bail before you wind up having to take her to court to get paid.

Although wait, it sounds like her wedding is too soon to get someone else?? (that would kind of suck, even though she is being a douche)

[lust2hart]

Jun 20, 2012 16:36:39 GMT -5 eightangryreindeer said:

Dude I read your post and I say cut and run now, this chick is going to crucify you no matter what you do so I say bail before you wind up having to take her to court to get paid.

Although wait, it sounds like her wedding is too soon to get someone else?? (that would kind of suck, even though she is being a douche)

Exactly. Am I reading right, bree, that the wedding is NEXT WEEK?! Girl, I hate to knock you when you're down, but Friday is not the time to be springing on the bride that you're not doing the photobooth if she thinks you are! I really don't understand why you've let the misconception go on for this long!

[pantsparty]

Uh.....whut? Could they even realistically find another photographer in a couple of weeks?

I would send an email immediately to the bride, groom and your ex regarding the photobooth situation. If you have not agreed to a photobooth in your contract, it needs to be discussed and documented immediately. If your ex promised something to them, surely the email will bring that out.

[hubes]

I agree-- if you are not planning on doing the photobooth, you need to tell her RIGHT NOW. Is that the big deal out of this whole thing? Just the photobooth?

I know you don't want to do it. She's a bitch and you don't want to spend time with your EH.

But, if you are going make waves, you need to make them now.

[gozf]

Omg, good luck. This sounds like a shitstorm.

[gozf]

With regard to the photo booth, what was the last that was said of it?

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I'd just say look, I thought it was understood that I did not agree to a photo booth and I'm not able to get my hands on one at such short notice especially if you aren't willing to pay for it.

TOUGH TITTIES, BITCH!

You might want to forgo that last part.

[Kit]

This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

You need to outline expectations asap, but it sounds like nothing you do will be good enough for her.

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[lolzlala]

But, come on, it's her WEDDING day... she sounds a little crazypants - hopefully when you discuss she will understand that her wedding is still a business transaction.

[ndolehan]

I smell a bridezilla!

I say do the photobooth and charge them extra since it's not in their contract.

Also - do you require any payment up front? For my photog we were required to pay in full 2 wks before the wedding (as was our florist, cake, etc). We could add things on to our package after that date but had to pay at the time we added and at "a-la-cart" prices instead of a package deal.

Until then I say bite your tongue, do a good job, and wash your hands of her as soon as you can!

[CheshireGrin]

Jun 20, 2012 23:12:33 GMT -5 @breebirdy said:

Jun 20, 2012 18:55:48 GMT -5 gozf said:

With regard to the photo booth, what was the last that was said of it?

In, like, November.

B/G: We want a photobooth. Is that something you can do?

Us: We've never done one and aren't sure how that would look. We don't have the equipment for it, nor is it something we really want to invest in. It sounds fun, though. We can all look into what it would take though.

B/G: Okay.

The end.

So you never actually said "No," and she obviously heard, "We will make this happen for you." Miscommunications, indeed.

I haven't seen all the backstory on this, but it sounds like it's been one issue after another. I hope you get it all sorted out. Good luck!

[bcv513]

She has a contract right? And the contract doesn't mention photobooth?

I agree that it's way too late to back out of the wedding. And the photobooth thing sounds like a miscommunication on both sides. You didn't say no, she heard yes and went with it. Could you rent one and set it up and charge her the entire amount for it? Or if you can't do it can you give her the names of a couple of places that can?

[mrsjuleshs]

I like the idea of sending her an email with everything all spelled out. You could include the contact information for a photobooth company along with it. I am sorry you are having to deal with someone so crazy.

[Jalapeñomel]

Jun 21, 2012 7:22:17 GMT -5 @breebirdy said:

Jun 21, 2012 7:15:10 GMT -5 bcv513 said:

She has a contract right? And the contract doesn't mention photobooth?

I agree that it's way too late to back out of the wedding. And the photobooth thing sounds like a miscommunication on both sides. You didn't say no, she heard yes and went with it. Could you rent one and set it up and charge her the entire amount for it? Or if you can't do it can you give her the names of a couple of places that can?

Correct -- it's not in the contract and we never said yes or that we'd consider it. I understand it is a miscommunication, but we are not going to go out of our way for these people anymore. We would never back out -- just frustration when I say we want to hand their deposit back; we wouldn't do that.

Per pp advice, we are going to send an email today saying, "This is what a typical day looks like for this package. Look it over and make any notes, questions, or comments, and we can discuss them on Friday. What is included on this package per the contract is included in the estimated timeline. Any additions to services will be at an extra fee." Or something like that.

I don't know, but I would mention the photo booth instead of leaving it so vague. This can lead to further miscommunication.

[bcv513]

I wouldn't say "any additions for an extra fee." She'll probably take that to mean you'll do the photobooth. I think you need to say "no photobooth."