My SIL

[kelle017]

I'm worried about her.

I posted a few weeks ago about how she had found out her husband had been cheating on her for years and she was going through a lot.

Just a few weeks ago she was having a really rough day and sent us a come over now text and we went over to help out with the kids.  While there, her husband came over and she was super angry and bitter at him.

Fast forward just a few weeks and she has decided to work it out, and things are allegedly great.

I get that she's an adult and I'm sure that this choice wasn't easy (and she's been in therapy the whole time), but I just feel like it was a complete change in such a short time.  She went from being bitter and wishing he was dead, to wanting to work it out in just a few weeks. 

I'll support her, I'm just concerned she's rushing into things. 

[themysteriouswife]

The more you say the more you push her away. The only thing you can do is be there. If you get a chance trip with a knife and stab his junk

[gogadgetgo]

Unfortunately she's an adult and has to make her own choices. Be there as much as you can for her and be careful what you say about her h because you don't want her to become resentful of you if things do or don't work out.

I wish there was a magic wand to make things all better in these situations.

[kelle017]

I haven't voiced my opinions about the whole thing to her at all because if she's going to work it out I don't want her to resent me later on like you said gogadgetgo.

themysteriouswife If only....

I saw them over the weekend and I was civil to the husband. I didn't engage him in conversation intentionally, but when he asked questions about the baby and if we were ready I answered and wasn't rude at all.

[howardandbear]

As crazy as it seems, this seems to be kind of typical to me. Towards the end of my marriage there were a lot of come to Jesus heart to heart talks. After, it seemed like the tables were turned and we were on a new path. We would come across very positive and happy. It never lasted but there were multiple cycles of this. All of this also involved professional help that I wasn't listening too. When it did click my therapist mentioned that he knew eventually it would.

Just keep listening. That is the most wonderful gift you can give.

[bugandbibs]

Sometimes it's easier to forgive horrible behavior when you love some one. It's hard for others to watch, especially when we doubt things will really change. I hope she continues therapy.