Post by litebright on Jun 20, 2012 18:06:07 GMT -5
Occasionally I miss the flutters, and the conscious effort to go do new things with someone -- and having the freedom to just go see a show, a movie, out for dinner, etc. without having to arrange childcare!
But 99.9% of the time, I don't. Dating can be exciting/new, but the flip side of that is the built-in uncertainty and drama; and the older I get, the less I want drama in my life.
I do miss the feelings in the beginning of a relationship. All the butterflies, excitement, anticipation, the flirting, the first kiss…all the "new" stuff.
I remember the worry about seeing their feet for the first time. Would they look like Shrek feet? Hobbit feet? I got excited when they weren't wonky. This is all not normal, I know.
No not at all. I mean it was fun dating my husband but it's even better being married.
After all this time being married he still gives me butterflies sometimes and I love talking to him when he calls me from work and waiting for him to come home.
There are still things we discover about each other.
I remember the worry about seeing their feet for the first time. Would they look like Shrek feet? Hobbit feet? I got excited when they weren't wonky. This is all not normal, I know.
Post by peachykate on Jun 20, 2012 18:28:31 GMT -5
No, not even a little bit. I suck at flirting and pretty much all things dating plus I watch all of my single friends date and it just looks like no fun at all.
I sometimes miss the beginning of a relationship, how fun it is to discover each other. But actual dating, as in first dates? NOOOOOO. I did plenty of whoring around, and dating, and relationships. I'm happy it's over.
Sometimes. I miss not having a first kiss again or wondering when he will take your hand and when he does it gives you that little zip feeling.
I also had some pretty fun dates. On one, we met for lunch and ended up staying at the restaurant for like 5 hours. They were clearing and setting up for dinner and we were still there.
But 99.9% of the time, I don't. Dating can be exciting/new, but the flip side of that is the built-in uncertainty and drama; and the older I get, the less I want drama in my life.
This is the kind of thing that makes me think I'd really enjoy dating/whoring around now or in the future. I could just walk from the drama because I'm old and I don't give a fuck. This goes along with the fact that I don't think I'd seek out a serious relationship if something happened to my h.
I sometimes miss pursuing sexual tension and get sad about trying to pretend that there are no sparks with someone when there actually are.