do you ever miss dating?

[Deleted]

I do. I miss the feeling of "new."

[scotty]

Oh, yes.

[candyapple]

I don't miss dating. I miss the allure of dating.

The idea of hot makeouts, flirting.

[hubes]

Kind of.

[Deleted]

Hell no.

[Deleted]

Those of you who say no, please elaborate!

[dcannie]

yes. especially anticipation of the first kiss.

[Deleted]

I love comfort. Also, I have social anxiety and I'm overcoming trust issues so I like that my husband who just knows me.

[rupertpenny]

I miss the flirting and the feeling of possibility at the beginning of a night out. But I'm actually pretty anti-social so I don't think I would actually enjoy dating again, it just sounds like fun sometimes.

[scotty]

I miss primping, newness, that tension of 'What happens next?', smiles, flirting, giving my friends the 4-1-1 and vice-versa about our dates. That stuff is so fun, imo. When I was young, and naive, there was some excitement over discovering if that date could be 'the one' (ha!).

[Deleted]

Jun 20, 2012 17:30:58 GMT -5 dcannie said:

yes. especially anticipation of the first kiss.

Yeah! It's all so exciting and fun!

Maybe I'm forgetting all the bad stuff. LOL.

[janegold]

Jun 20, 2012 17:30:58 GMT -5 dcannie said:

yes. especially anticipation of the first kiss.

Same. It's one thing to keep your married life hot and heavy, but there's really no way to replicate those new-person butterflies.

[rupertpenny]

The more I think about it the more I think I actually just miss college/my very early twenties, and not dating specifically.

[Deleted]

Jun 20, 2012 17:34:21 GMT -5 rupertpenny said:

The more I think about it the more I think I actually just miss college/my very early twenties, and not dating specifically.

I feel that, even with my additional 60 pounds, I'd do better today than I did when I was young and cute.

I know this doesn't make any sense.

[scotty]

Jun 20, 2012 17:34:21 GMT -5 rupertpenny said:

The more I think about it the more I think I actually just miss college/my very early twenties, and not dating specifically.

I definitely miss those days. Had an absolute riot. Was worried right after that phase that maybe I was a little too wild, but looking back, I'm glad that I cut loose in a big way.

[KKD]

I have zero interest in dating even though I never even made it to the dating scene. Sure, I had a bunch of boyfriends, but they were the teenage kind, where you hang out and make out but don't really ever go on dates. The idea of meeting someone for a first date makes me squirm.

I do sometimes get nostalgic for the early days of my relationship with H, though. If I were to do it all over again, I'd still want it to be with him.

eta: or, yeah, maybe it's just my very early 20s that I miss. Ah, to be young and free of responsibilities...

[Deleted]

No. I was horrible at dating. I always got so nervous and a million stupid questions would run though my head. " is he going to pay? Am I going to pay? Am I at the right place? Do I have stuff in my teeth? Oh god, I know I do. Get me out of here!"

It's weird because once I'm actually in the relationship, I chill right out. It's that feeling each other out stage that makes me a bundle of nerves. Once I was on a date and we were watching dude where's my car and I started laughing uncontrollably at the part where he throws the pizza at the ceiling and it starts to unstick. So fucking stupid, but I was so nervous I could not stop laughing if my life depended on it. He still called me after that though....

[dcannie]

Jun 20, 2012 17:33:50 GMT -5 janegold said:

Jun 20, 2012 17:30:58 GMT -5 dcannie said:

yes. especially anticipation of the first kiss.

Same. It's one thing to keep your married life hot and heavy, but there's really no way to replicate those new-person butterflies.

exactly.
the anticipation, nervous energy, talking about it w/ girlfriends before and after, sex w/ a new person...i miss all of it.

and i had some awful dates. like actually wanting to open the car door and tuck and roll out of there bad. but i still miss it.

[Deleted]

Jun 20, 2012 17:38:11 GMT -5 KKD said:

I have zero interest in dating even though I never even made it to the dating scene. Sure, I had a bunch of boyfriends, but they were the teenage kind, where you hang out and make out but don't really ever go on dates. The idea of meeting someone for a first date makes me squirm.

I do sometimes get nostalgic for the early days of my relationship with DH, though. If I were to do it all over again, I'd still want it to be with him.

If I missed anything it would be this for me, too.

[hubes]

Maybe I don't miss dating so much as I miss taking random guys home from the bar.

[scotty]

Jun 20, 2012 17:40:10 GMT -5 hubes said:

Maybe I don't miss dating so much as I miss taking random guys home from the bar.

Did this once. No regrets there!

[Deleted]

Jesus fuck no! Dating is such a pain in the ass... you end up having to deal with so many freaks and weirdos and douchebags in the process until you just want to give the fuck up already.

Or if you do find someone nice enough to date seriously you have to go through the whole spiel of finding out their little quirks and oddities and those little bullshit things that will one day make you want to fucking strangle them while they sleep; finding out how compatible or incompatible you are in everyday situations, pretending like you have never ever had explosive diarrhea or that he clips his toenails and leaves them in piles on the coffee table, or finding out his family makes the Borgias look like the Cleavers...

No thanks, fuck dating in the face.


BITTER PARTY OF ONE!

[pantsparty]

I miss the whole meeting someone and feeling the sparks fly, that instant connection. Falling in love. The anticipation of what's to come.

Dating itself? No. I only found that connection with a few people. It's a lot of work to find it.

[Mrs.Beagle]

I hated dating.

I miss the flirting with a guy you spotted across the room, followed by the heavy makeout session.

This only applies if they are a good kisser.

Maybe I just miss making out with my husband. We rarely just make out and stop it there.

[Deleted]

I feel like sparks are flying for me every day recently.

Like I'm boy-crazy.

[Mrs.Beagle]

Jun 20, 2012 17:55:15 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

I feel like sparks are flying for me every day recently.

Like I'm boy-crazy.

You-Know-Who?

[Deleted]

Yes. It's terrible.

[Mrs.Beagle]

Did he propose yet? You still have time. Mr. Mo might be cool with a brother husband.

[Deleted]

Hahahahahahahaha.

[candyapple]

Jun 20, 2012 17:55:30 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Yes and also I believe I would be much better at it these days.

Oh yes definitely.