Men that are anti- toys

[simplyinpenguin]

Hi...lurker, sorry...in and out I promise

I had an exBF throw out my dildo once because he was so threatened by it. It WAS bigger than him, but he was also racist about it too (it was black). I had it before I ever met him and boy was I pissed!

Ok, goodbye.

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Sept 5, 2013 19:48:18 GMT -5 mags said:

Sept 5, 2013 18:54:52 GMT -5 @landobiscuit said:

No. But I've never had the need to use a toy when I am with someone.

its not about need

App like.

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Sept 5, 2013 19:48:18 GMT -5 mags said:

Sept 5, 2013 18:54:52 GMT -5 @landobiscuit said:

No. But I've never had the need to use a toy when I am with someone.

its not about need

You're reading waaaaaaaaaaay too much into what I wrote.

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Sept 5, 2013 21:03:35 GMT -5 @landobiscuit said:

Sept 5, 2013 19:48:18 GMT -5 mags said:

its not about need

You're reading waaaaaaaaaay too much into what I wrote.

No, I think  you are the one who read way toooooooooooooooo much into my response.

I wonder why?

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Sept 5, 2013 21:09:00 GMT -5 mp said:

@landobiscuit - all she said was that using toys wasn't about need - I think you're reading in to her response.

I don't use toys because I need them, either. I use them because I want to and it's fun.

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again it is not about need!

[kaneen]

I don't need BOB but I like BOB. I've never used one with someone else but I think that's my own sexual naïveté as opposed to that of any partner. I'd certainly be pissed and wouldn't date a guy who had a problem with BOB. I mean really, he most certainly gets the job done on his own. Should I forbid him to use his hand? Cut off the hand?

[sillygoose]

I have run into this once or twice.  I think those comments are often coming from someone who isn't super-confident about their own abilities in bed ~ so while I guess I kind of understand that mentality and where it's coming from, I also feel like they need to get over it if they want to date me. 

[bonquiqui]

I have not, and I think guys that are anti toys are weird.  I don't want to give up my toys.  

[udscoobychick]

Sept 5, 2013 15:50:45 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Sept 5, 2013 15:28:48 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Just an FYI, if he doesn't actually open your boxes, you can buy from drugstore.com or amazon or other places that would leave no clue based on the return address. Even some of the sex shop specific sites will mask the return address.

I know but here is the thing. I usually ask him to open my boxes so I am sure that everything got delivered. I will have to tell him, I am getting a box from Amazon that you cannot open! That will be awkward but totally worth it.

Sept 5, 2013 15:51:46 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Or there's always just going to the store yourself...

Next DC gtg! 

[Muddled]

You know, I was thinking about this last night. I have also heard very controlling men dis toys. For those of you that mentioned your exes didn't approve of toys, was this the issue?

[starburst604]

TBH I've never used one with anyone else either. No one ever suggested it and I didn't even own one until a few years ago when I was in a single celibate period. I'm not opposed to it, it's just never come up.

[stephreloaded]

Sept 6, 2013 4:00:06 GMT -5 udscoobychick said:

Sept 5, 2013 15:50:45 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

I know but here is the thing. I usually ask him to open my boxes so I am sure that everything got delivered. I will have to tell him, I am getting a box from Amazon that you cannot open! That will be awkward but totally worth it.

Sept 5, 2013 15:51:46 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Or there's always just going to the store yourself...

Next DC gtg! 

This is an excellent idea!

[jennynumbers]

Am I the only one that wants to go home on my lunch break?

I have never run into anyone that had an issue with toys, thank god, because if he's making me chose between the vibe and him, the vibe wins. I'd rather be alone with my toys than an insecure dick. (Literally)

Also - I received an invite to a sex toy party and she added this...

Adult Toy/discovery toy party. Plan to spend the night and wake up with a smile on your face No pressure it's all fun

I think she's setting up an all-girl toy orgy. It's a Torgy.

[jennynumbers]

I'm actually not going because it is MH's birthday. So we'll be having our own sexcapade. Toys included.

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Sept 5, 2013 21:36:02 GMT -5 mags said:

Sept 5, 2013 21:09:00 GMT -5 mp said:

@landobiscuit - all she said was that using toys wasn't about need - I think you're reading in to her response.

I don't use toys because I need them, either. I use them because I want to and it's fun.

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again it is not about need!

Nope, I understood perfectly what you said. You're analyzing my semantics and reading way too much into it.
Saying you don't need toys when you're with a guy doesn't automatically mean you disregard toys as some extra fun between you and your partner. In my case, it means the idea to incorporate toys never really came up with guys I've been with. 

[jojoandleo]

Sept 6, 2013 14:47:48 GMT -5 @landobiscuit said:

Sept 5, 2013 21:36:02 GMT -5 mags said:

this

again it is not about need!

Nope, I understood perfectly what you said. You're analyzing my semantics and reading way too much into it.
Saying you don't need toys when you're with a guy doesn't automatically mean you disregard toys as some extra fun between you and your partner. In my case, it means the idea to incorporate toys never really came up with guys I've been with. 

I have never needed toys =/= I never thought about using toys.  So, stating it is not about need was an appropriate response and not over thinking what you said.  It was responding to exactly what you said.  This is a weird thing to get caught up on.

[chikastuff]

My XH was against my BOB for our entire relationship. And then I found a bag of toys hidden in his home office after I found out he was cheating....klassy

BF knows I have a vibe and he knows I use it when he's not around. We've never talked about using it together and TBH, I'm kind of shy about it so I don't even know how I'd bring it up.