My BM drama

[moonstone523]

As y'all might have seen on Lauren's post yesterday, I'm convinced there is a conspiracy theory among the BMs that I'm in a wedding in next month. Basically it's the BM who teach w the bride vs everyone else who doesnt.

My good friend who is also a BM but lives out of the country asked the bride what type of shoes we should get. L said the bride was annoyed by the question and just said "whatever." L told me and was like WTF.

I just get this email from one of the BM who works with the bride.
Hello!

I hope all is well with everyone. T-minus 32 days til the big day - yay!!!

Brooke had mentioned that L asked her about what kind of shoes we should where. Any ideas? My thought to throw out there is for us to wear any style white shoes because I think that would be a nice contrast with Brooke's pink pumps. I can foresee many photo ops and I am sure a shoe picture would be one of them!

Whatcha think??

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What? Shouldn't the bride be calling the shots on the shoes? Or did the
Bride put this BM up to this email?

I'm inclined to reply with that above but want to avoid further drama. But on the other hand, if I don't reply, it's obvious that I'm over this and annoyed because I've always replied to communication until the "shower" mishaps.

Thoughts?

You can tell me I'm crazy.

[mrsjason]

Oh BM drama, I have a ton of it in my life right now. My soon to be SIL has no concept of other people's money and their wedding in Oct is costing us a pretty penny.......which we don't have. I don't have an income.

I think I would just ignore the email and go with majority rule. But that's been my approach to the wedding drama I am in. I don't want to be the bad guy so I let the others fight it out.

Could you maybe send a quick text to the bride and ask her if this is REALLY what she wants.

For whatever reason, I can't picture BM's wearing white shoes in my head. Maybe it's because I don't know what your dresses look like but it seems weird.

[lauren9317]

That is so weird--is this BM a personal secretary to the bride or something? WhyTF would she be sending this email out on the bride's behalf? Very strange indeed.

[lauren9317]

Jun 21, 2012 13:18:57 GMT -5 mrsjason said:

For whatever reason, I can't picture BM's wearing white shoes in my head. Maybe it's because I don't know what your dresses look like but it seems weird.

I had the same thought about the shoes! I would wear whatever was expected, it wouldn't matter, but still. Silver seems to be more popular as a BM shoe color. I never see white.

[may07wedding]

I'd reply to all, copying the bride asking her if that's what she wants. That's just me cause I'm outspoken like that.

[moonstone523]

Jun 21, 2012 13:25:59 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

Jun 21, 2012 13:18:57 GMT -5 mrsjason said:

For whatever reason, I can't picture BM's wearing white shoes in my head. Maybe it's because I don't know what your dresses look like but it seems weird.

I had the same thought about the shoes! I would wear whatever was expected, it wouldn't matter, but still. Silver seems to be more popular as a BM shoe color. I never see white.

Agree on the silver. Who wears white shoes? Weird.

Plus she is getting married on the beach, so we'll have no shoes for the ceremony I assume.

When L asked the bride about shoes, the bride was like super stressed and annoyed and was like, "whatever ya'll want. I don't care." So I'm guessing (again I'm into the conspiracy) that the bridge talked with the two co-teacher BMs and that prompted this email.

I'm with you Kathy, that at this point, I'm like "whatever y'all decide" but since I've been opinionated about everything else, for me not to have one about this, would be very obvious that I've checked out.

Okay, just sent this text to the bride.

"Yo. Is school out for summer yet? Also, got an email from M re: shoes for the BMs. She suggested white. I was wondering what you wanted since I would think you'd be calling the shot, not us."

[moonstone523]

This whole thing annoys me.

My sister has been in 12 weddings. How the hell did she do it?

[lauren9317]

12 weddings...omg.

Did the bride respond to your text?

[moonstone523]

Jun 21, 2012 14:48:50 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

12 weddings...omg.

Did the bride respond to your text?

Yes.

Bride: She asked on Tuesday, I said white. I don't really care to be honest. I need to send everyone an email soon. Thank god school is out, today was 
My first day off 

Me: Cool. If you want white, you should just tell us to wear white shoes. I think it would be easier for us to know exactly what you want and the style.

Bride: Ok. I was trying to wait till the dresses came in.... I'll send some I like at dsw so you can get an idea

Me: That would be helpful. Thanks.

[alzi]

I thought this post was going to be about poop.

[moonstone523]

Jun 21, 2012 14:59:08 GMT -5 alzi said:

I thought this post was going to be about poop.

Rofl. No I talked about that in another thread.

[lauren9317]

Alz- I know, I used to love talking about BMs and STDs on the knot and it was great how it would read crazy to anyone but "knotties"- haha.

Moon- The bride just doesn't seem to get it that it's weird for anyone but her to be emailing about such details!

[moonstone523]

Jun 21, 2012 15:02:30 GMT -5 lauren9317 said:

Alz- I know, I used to love talking about BMs and STDs on the knot and it was great how it would read crazy to anyone but "knotties"- haha.

Moon- The bride just doesn't seem to get it that it's weird for anyone but her to be emailing about such details!

No and she doesn't understand that saying "she doesn't care" actually makes things harder than if she just says "white, strappy, low heel, sorta like these and gives us links to a few she likes."