how do I help DH?

[ecinereb]

I'm feeling strangely calm about this pregnancy, like it'll just work out. I thought I'd be a lot more nervous. Don't get me wrong I'm still worried about another m/c but I just feel like I can't do anything about it so why stress and worry as that can't help.

DH is driving me nuts constantly asking how I'm feeling, why I'm doing anything I'm doing or not doing and every time I try to talk about it he says some very negative things.

We basically had it out and I told him if there was anything to tell I'd tell him and that I couldn't spend the next 8 months building him up and telling him it would be fine.

He's usually the positive, optimistic one so I don't know what to do.

Any advice?

[mae141]

I think my husband was a little like this when I first got pregnant. I think that he was able to feel a little more comfortable when he saw me getting more comfortable. He can also be a little clueless about things, so I had him read some of my pregnancy books, and I think once he knew what was happening that relaxed him a bit.

That said, I was just laying on the couch and I needed to burp so I sat up and was trying to burp. He asked me in a bit of a panicky voice what was wrong. So I think he is still spazzing a bit but maybe I've just gotten used to it, lol.

Hopefully he's just nervous since it's still pretty early and he'll feel better once a little time passes and he sees things are going well.