Thought I would check in here and give you a health follow-up and update.
The tumor thing... Let's see, where to start. General family physicians and general radiologists should never utter the word "cancer" because they're pretty unqualified to use it. Finally, a week after I first heard the C word, I got in to see the chief OB/GYN who told me that while yes, I have a mass, it's just a harmless little fibroid, and the bleeding was - wait for it - a two month long miscarriage. I got pregnant in the beginning of July and my really awful period at the end of August was a miscarriage. I had not a single symptom and no reason at all to suspect since I was spotting.
Took me a few days to process that.
We were TTA and a pregnancy could not be more poorly timed at this point in my career, so it's ok, there's no need to say "sorry for your loss." I confess I was relieved when they said hCG levels were falling, not rising.
On that point, well, um, my marriage is sort of in a not so good place. He wants children like yesterday and I don't know that I want them...ever. Combine that with our careers that do not mesh well AT ALL and we're having some very serious discussions these days. He's coming to visit this weekend and we're going to counseling in between seeing and doing and dining.
You know how when one area of your life is perfect, the other falls spectacularly to pieces? Well, I LOVE d.c. Maybe more than I thought possible. Living here has been my dream for 20 years and it's finally coming true and it's better than I dared to ever imagine. I'm meeting people every day, exploring the city, going to happy hours at least 5 days a week lol, and giving and receiving more business cards than Vistaprint can manufacture It's truly wonderful. I am the happiest I've ever been in my entire life...aside from, you know, my personal life.
So I'm not on here much anymore, mainly because I'm so busy, partly because dorm/apt life doesn't lend itself to D&R , partly because, well, domestic stuff is a little hard for me to face right now. I miss you all and hope everything's going well for all of you. If you want to be FB friends with me, PM me - it'll be the best way to stay in touch with me for a while. Love all y'all. Big hugs to everyone.
Oh THR! You have so much going on. I can't even imagine. Hugs and hang in there. If you want to talk as always send me a FB message. I'd send you one now but I can't FB at work. I am so glad you are enjoying DC, seems like such an awesome experience for you. Hopefully everything else falls into place soon as it should.
I am sorry to hear your marriage is in a rough spot-that's very tough when you want different things. Hopefully the counselling will give you some direction on what to do now. Thinking of you and glad to hear you love DC!
Post by emoflamingo on Sept 23, 2013 9:56:40 GMT -5
Well you said you didn't want it, but I'm still sorry to hear. Health scares are no fun, I'm in the midst of it too. I hope that, either way, it all works itself out and you're happy. I have been to DC only once (during Run for the Wall - amazing experience!) and I cannot wait to have the chance to go back and visit again, there is so much we didn't get to see! We're here whenever you feel up to coming back!
Post by mrs.jacinthe on Sept 23, 2013 10:30:04 GMT -5
I'm really sorry to hear about the struggles in your marriage. ((hugs))
I'm glad, though, that you are having a good time. DC is one of my favorite cities of all time. Check in with us often (PB app in between classes, yo!) and if you need anything, feel free to give me a shout on FB.
Post by sailorgray on Sept 23, 2013 11:31:43 GMT -5
Aw, TH&R, we miss you. I was typing something on my old computer and the spelling suggestion thing suggested TH&R for a word. Made me smile. I am gonna send you a pm to be friends on FB. I wish I could help make things easier for you and I am glad lots of good is going on, too.
I'm just going to send you a big hug. I hope everything works out, whatever that may be. I can only imagine the difficulty of not only being in two different places physically, but also within your marriage.
I can tell you are having a wonderful time in DC from your FB. I'm glad you like it so well. Sorry personal stuff is the pits right now. Keep in touch. xo
Thanks for checking in; I've been thinking of you. Health scares are awful, I'm in the midst of my own ongoing one, and you're right, medical professionals shouldn't use the scary diagnoses as easily as they do.
Good for you for following a dream. DC is a great place and I hope it's all you want it to be. I'm so sorry you've otherwise hit some bumps in the road and hope everything works out as its meant to be. Remember we're here for you, whenever you need us.