They need to have an "It gets better" series for new moms. Pretty much every post I read from new moms who are dealing with some issue makes me want to hug them and tell them it gets better. Is every day perfect? Heck no. There are good days and bad at all ages and I'm still early on in my parenting journey. There are days when I need to hear it too. These days I'm avoiding potty training my 2 year old because not only is she not quite ready yet, I remember how frustrating it was.
I always said that by the time my kids are old enough to realize I have no clue what I am doing, I will have figured things out pretty well. That's definitely becoming true.
Parenting is the hardest, most satisfying, anxiety-inducing, euphoric, and exhausting thing I've ever done.
That was always a daily mantra on the bump multiples board. Many new moms would come on there saying they can't take it anymore...they haven't slept in days...etc. And any mom that was a past the "survival mode" early months was able to say to them that "It gets better"
I almost didn't believe them when they were telling me but it is true. And you are right, there are issues that we still struggle with (tantrums, potty training) but I feel more confident that we can handle them now.
That was always a daily mantra on the bump multiples board. Many new moms would come on there saying they can't take it anymore...they haven't slept in days...etc. And any mom that was a past the "survival mode" early months was able to say to them that "It gets better"
I almost didn't believe them when they were telling me but it is true. And you are right, there are issues that we still struggle with (tantrums, potty training) but I feel more confident that we can handle them now.
Yup, I agree. It does get better, especially when they start sleeping, smiling, crawling, interacting, etc. I also agree that we all need to know "it gets better" no matter what age they're at. Right now, I can't wait until they can communicate a bit better, so we can reduce the whining and increase the cute things they say. But, I know we'll get there b/c we always have in the past, and things have continued to improve.
Post by Willis Jackson on Jun 22, 2012 14:31:33 GMT -5
I hated when people told me that. What if it didn't get better? What if I had to move into my kid's college dorm room and pat his butt and "SHH!" in his ear until he fell asleep? WHAT IF?!
But one thing I've also learned about parenting is that once you've got one aspect of it figured out (breastfeeding, potty training, sleep training, etc.), something completely new comes along that you have to learn.
I hated when people told me that. What if it didn't get better? What if I had to move into my kid's college dorm room and pat his butt and "SHH!" in his ear until he fell asleep? WHAT IF?!
lol.
ha-ha when I get stressed about potty training I remind myself that I will not be changing their diapers when they are in college.
Because some things about right now suck, but other things are great. And as the sucky things shall pass, so shall the great ones. It's a new game all the time.
Post by hannamarin on Jun 22, 2012 14:53:16 GMT -5
SO true. This morning I thought I was a failure. Then this afternoon, we went swimming (lots of giggles) and then she slept for 1.5 hrs in the stroller while we shopped for me. Great day. I dont even remember what happened this morning!
Those first couple months I was convinced that I was not cut out to be a parent. Everyone told us it gets better around 3 months but that seemed so far away when DS was only 2 weeks old. I have so much more compassion and sympathy for new parents now.
Post by sometimesrunner on Jun 23, 2012 14:00:50 GMT -5
Ugh...I'm totally in a "I'm not cut out for this" mentality right now. DS is 5.5 weeks old and sometimes I feel like I've made a huge mistake by having him.
Post by curbsideprophet on Jun 23, 2012 14:15:12 GMT -5
I was so exhausted the first two weeks. I could not even begin to comprehend how any ever had more than 1 child. I definitely thought "what have we done" at least once in the early weeks. DD is only 9 months, but it has certainly gotten better.