WWMLD? Holidays are killing me already.

[DarkRaven]

DD due to specific, identifying details. Thanks for the advice!

[cereal K]

You let your H take it from here. His family, his drama.

[DarkRaven]

Awesome. I'm more than happy to hand it over.

[hopecounts]

Since it's BIL I'd attempt to be polite since I'm assuming you're stuck with him.
I would as politely as possible tell him that y'all prefer the way you usually do holidays and DH is looking forward to going "home" for the holidays.
Or even better have your DH talk to his brother and tell him that he wants to do Christmas at home and isn't interested in hosting.

Would y'all meeting the EX and picking up the kids for one part of the drive be an option? Not saying I'd do that (probably wouldn't unless I'd just like the time with the kids) but if it's a driving issue maybe remove a small part of the issue?

[DarkRaven]

Oct 1, 2013 21:12:39 GMT -5 hopecounts said:

Would y'all meeting the EX and picking up the kids for one part of the drive be an option? Not saying I'd do that (probably wouldn't unless I'd just like the time with the kids) but if it's a driving issue maybe remove a small part of the issue?

We actually have done that several times before including for their wedding and Christmas last year. We don't want it to become a habit. If he was grateful and acknowledged the inconvenience it caused, it would probably have been offered as a solution.

[DarkRaven]

Oct 1, 2013 21:11:47 GMT -5 mooselovah said:

Sounds like maybe this year your spending Xmas with your family.

We are. That's the other thing. This gathering is already taking place 5 weeks before Christmas to accommodate him.

[hopecounts]

Oct 1, 2013 21:16:15 GMT -5 DarkRaven said:

Oct 1, 2013 21:12:39 GMT -5 hopecounts said:

Would y'all meeting the EX and picking up the kids for one part of the drive be an option? Not saying I'd do that (probably wouldn't unless I'd just like the time with the kids) but if it's a driving issue maybe remove a small part of the issue?

We actually have done that several times before including for their wedding and Christmas last year. We don't want it to become a habit. If he was grateful and acknowledged the inconvenience it caused, it would probably have been offered as a solution.

No way would I do it then.
Like I said It isn't something I'd likely do anyway but added in that y'all have done it a couple times recently and it would be a definite no way.

[verypunny]

I would probably host as to avoid 10 hours in the car but if you or h don't want to, have him tell his brother that the plans are set.