I'm in potty training hell

[bronxgirl]

:@ +o(
DD has used the potty once in the past day and a half. The rest of the time she's peed on the flor. We made a really big deal when she peed in the potty and helped her put a sticker on her chart and all that, but she hasn't done it again soon. My mom assures me this is normal, but I am getting so frustrated and feel like a failure.

[bronxgirl]

the problem is she is refusing to use the potty. She knows when she eeds to go and she will purposefully go to a place other than the potty. I try to put her on the potty when she starts to pee, but she refuses. We gave her a sticker when she went which she really liked. Maybe I'll try m & ms also. I'm going nuts here. I need 10 of these :drink:

[fortmyersbride]

Hang in there!

I just wanted to add, don't be afraid to put PTing on hold if she's not ready. We tried it with DS when he was 31mos old. After a day of accidents which didn't seem to bother him at all, we decided he wasn't ready. 2 mos later he asked us if he could start "wearing big boy pants again" and started using the potty on his own like a champ. DS is the type to not do something for us until he can do it well (talking, PTing, spelling) so this was not a surprise that he needed more time.

[bronxgirl]

Jun 23, 2012 14:29:43 GMT -5 fortmyersbride said:

Hang in there!

I just wanted to add, don't be afraid to put PTing on hold if she's not ready. We tried it with DS when he was 31mos old. After a day of accidents which didn't seem to bother him at all, we decided he wasn't ready. 2 mos later he asked us if he could start "wearing big boy pants again" and started using the potty on his own like a champ. DS is the type to not do something for us until he can do it well (talking, PTing, spelling) so this was not a surprise that he needed more time.

hat's an interesting point. DD does not talk very much (although she was evaluated 2x for speech and they said she was fine) so maybe she has the same issue. I'm tempted to put it on hold, but I wonder if I'm giving up too soon and if it will make the situation worse if we stop.

[bronxgirl]

She's 2.5. I definiyely want her to be potty trained by the end of the summer b/c he starts school in September, but she's old enough for it now. Just now she was sitting on the potty for awhile, but jumped off as soon as she need to pee and peed on the floor. She's doing it in reverse. :-(

[bronxgirl]

As much as I want to give up, I'm going to stick with it b/c I think she CAN do it, she just needs to decide to. If I give up that will reinforce the idea that she doesn't need to use the potty. Nonetheless, it sucks. So far she's peed in the potty twice and everywhere else like 50x. She's only had ome poop so far, but it was on the floor. She squatted down to do it so it wasn't a surprise. i think the poop is a little scary for her.

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If anyone wants to feel better about themselves... DS2 still wets the bed EVERY night. DS3 refuses to poop in the potty. He actually started pooping in the potty while we were on the QM2 and those toilets are scary, but as soon as we got home, he's back to pooping overnight in his diaper.

[bronxgirl]

Thank God for this board because I don't know how I would get through this on my own. Jenny, I'm so glad you guys are PTing too so we can support each other. It's a bi-coastal PTing marathon. My one consolation with Lexie peeing all over the apartment is that we're moving out of here next week. Hopefully she'll be trained by the time we get to the new place.

[EloiseWeenie]

Not sure if you want more suggestions, but I think I did every method at one time. I even bought a couple cheapo presents that the "potty fairy" would bring when he successfully went pee pee on the potty, then when he went poop on the potty, then when he told us he needed to go. We also did stickers, and m&m's/fruit snacks. I also started off using a timer, making him sit on the potty every 20 minutes, then slowly spacing it out to his normal cycle.

He had a hard time pooping on the potty the first week. I got pretty frustrated, and finally I pretended to cry because I had no idea what to do. That was what helped him, because he didn't want me to be sad, and that made him want to try. After that, he hasn't pooped in his pants once.

[jena]

I'll share my very random tale in case it's of any use at all. My DD was (and is) very concerned with families. She groups everything into families "oh look, there's a mommy car and a baby car". Everything is grouped this way (not now as much as she used to, but at 2 it was a very big deal). When a toy is separated from its family she says it's sad, etc. She wants everything to have a home as well.

So I told her that pee and poo had a house in the toilet. And when you flush, they are going home to their families and it makes them happy. Because of her concerns about being with a family, this worked really well, she wanted to "help" the pee and poop be with its mommy. It made accidents more traumatic, but by golly she really really wanted that pee to go home to its family.

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I'd drop it (not even say a word) for 2wks & then try again. I've PT'd 3 kids...one less than 2yrs (& it took weeks!), one at 2.5 & one at almost 3. At early 2s it was accidents, messes, fights, crying....waiting until they wanted to made it a breeze. My DD3 woke up one day about a month before turning 3 & decided to use the potty & hasn't peed her pants even once since. All I did was buy her new playdough & leave it on the mantle & tell her that she can have one for each time she went. I only had 3 & that's all it took--she earned all 3 the first morning....and just "got it" from there. Battling it is not worth it IMO.

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Oh & tried to get DD3 to try at least 4 times before. She resisted so I dropped it after 1-2 days. There is no harm in trying & if it is not going well I let it go.