Shower Question

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H and I got invited to a bajillion showers for SIL in the next two months or so.

I like SIL, but I'm a little overwhelmed at the thought of continuously giving her gifts.

So the question is do I have to provide a gift at EVERY shower? I'd be ok with getting a really nice gift for the shower her ILs are throwing, and the same for a shower her cousin is throwing, but other than that I'd like to deuce out.

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PEOPLE.


THIS IS IMPORTANT.


DON'T LET ME BE THE SIL WHO IS UNINTENTIONALLY GIVING SHADE.

[orangeglow]

I'm cheap, but I like to give gifts.  I would do a theme and get her something for the theme at each shower.  Like bath - a towel at one, bath toys at another, tub, etc

EDIT - OMG I read this as a baby shower.  Too much on GP.  So yeah... still a theme though.

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I vote for one gift only

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Perhaps you can just attend one shower.

[AmeliaBedelia]

I would bring a nice gift to one, and maybe a card for the others if you feel like you need to bring something. I don't think you need to bring a gift to each shower.

[Muddled]

One gift.

[mrsbro]

Do you have to go to all the showers?

I'd go for either a theme or the bottle of wine. ETA: <-- That is only if you absolutelypositively have to attend all showers.

[wannabe]

i just wouldn't go to more than one shower, honestly.

[Kit]

One gift.

[TrudyCampbell]

One gift.

[Jalapeñomel]

I would go to one shower and give one gift.

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Oct 3, 2013 11:42:41 GMT -5 mrsbro said:

Do you have to go to all the showers?

I'd go for either a theme or the bottle of wine.

I don't mind going to the two ones thrown by family.

No one is holding my hand over the fire to attend the others, so I could not attend those, but it might hurt her feelings. She's one of those people. 

[candreco]

Oct 3, 2013 11:41:42 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Perhaps you can just attend one shower.

Seriously.  It's absurd to expect you to attend multiple showers and bring gifts at all of them.  If you do have to go to multiple, I think one gift is sufficient.  Why are there two family showers being done?  I have to imagine there's a lot of overlap in the guest lists.

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Oct 3, 2013 11:44:24 GMT -5 loonylunalovegood said:

Just go to one shower!

I had multiple showers in my first wedding, that's just how it is in the South. I can't believe you were invited to all of them though. I made sure there were no overlaps in the guest lists.

They are her baby showers, if that makes a difference. 

So I'm over here analyzing if I don't attend enough things I HATE MY NEPHEW in my SIL's eyes.



SIL is very sweet. Then she got pregnant and got hella emotional about ALL THE THINGS.

[mrsbro]

Oct 3, 2013 11:44:57 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Oct 3, 2013 11:42:41 GMT -5 mrsbro said:

Do you have to go to all the showers?

I'd go for either a theme or the bottle of wine.

I don't mind going to the two ones thrown by family.

No one is holding my hand over the fire to attend the others, so I could not attend those, but it might hurt her feelings. She's one of those people. 

Ahh..
Then I would go with a theme  or maybe some books and a sleeper for the non-family ones.

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Oct 3, 2013 11:46:07 GMT -5 candreco said:

Oct 3, 2013 11:41:42 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Perhaps you can just attend one shower.

Seriously.  It's absurd to expect you to attend multiple showers and bring gifts at all of them.  If you do have to go to multiple, I think one gift is sufficient.  Why are there two family showers being done?  I have to imagine there's a lot of overlap in the guest lists.

Because they like people to buy them things. 

[Jalapeñomel]

Ok, then just split the gift up; one shower baby bottles, second shower bibs, third shower, nipples, etc.

[wkatie]

I've had this situation too. I did one nice gift to whatever I considered to be the "main" shower, then small gifts to others (books, $10 pjs from Costco). I was briefly worried that people that attended the showers where I gave a small gift would think I was cheap, then I quickly decided IDGAF.

[demelza]

If I wanted to go to more than one I would maybe get something inexpensive to give at each shower. You could do a few cheap bath toys and some baby wash in a basket at one and some stuffed animals and a few baby toys at another. No need to break the bank for each party.

[speckledfrog]

Sounds like you are bound to fuck it up in her eyes sooner or later, so why not just get it out of the way now. I would not go to all of her showers.

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Oct 3, 2013 12:18:00 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Sounds like you are bound to fuck it up in her eyes sooner or later, so why not just get it out of the way now. I would not go to all of her showers.

Lol, she really is great, she's just been moodier since she's been pregnant. I can't hold that against her. 

[snickers]

One gift, in fact, I would probably only go to one shower (the one the family has).