BC old fashioned poll

[papie]

When will you settle on permanent birth control (if ever) and why? Is it number of kids, age, other trigger?
If you never plan on going permanent, why?

(This counts for you or your H, obviously you don't need to both do it)

Us: I don't know. I guess probably after this kid? We will be 36 and 38 at that point, and we only really want three. But for some reason the idea makes me freak out. Like, what if we decide in two years we want a fourth?

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

We did after Cambria. We were 100% sure we were done. I expected a pushback from my doctor, since I was 26, but he had been my doctor for both NO SUDDEN MOVEMENT pregnancies and supported it.

[TrudyCampbell]

I'll prob wait 5 years after this baby is born before my H gets a vasectomy.

[CheshireGrin]

H has had a vasectomy. I'm good with that. It's a relief not to have to worry about birth control for myself.

We have no kids. (He has 2 boys from his first marriage, but they're both grown and we don't see them much, so it's hard to think of them as my stepkids, even though I guess technically they are.)

I have no desire to have kids of my own, and he's content to be finished. Every once in a while I have this little tingle of worry that if I ever were to decide I wanted kids it would be too late, but the chances of that happening are so slim that I'm really okay with it.

[TrudyCampbell]

Oct 3, 2013 19:05:31 GMT -5 specialk said:

I won't because I would prefer DH to get a vasectomy and he will never agree to it for stupid bullshit reasons. He also refuses to use condoms. So basically, he puts the onus of birth control squarely on me.

This is obviously a point of irritation for me.

I would just refuse sex if my H refused both condoms and a vasectomy.

[Deleted]

We will never go permanent.

Neither of us are open to those procedures.

[wambam]

If my H is okay with being one and done, then immediately after the first. If I have to have a second for his sake, after that one. Age doesn't matter to me on this issue.

[jellybean]

We are still relatively young (under 30) and have one 7 year old. We've always known we only want one. I am getting another 5 yr IUD I think, and then after that we will look into permanent.

[rex]

We decided before L was even born.

My H is getting a vasectomy.

[polka]

H got a vasectomy after we had our second baby.

[kirra]

Sometime in the next year. I just have to find a "good" time to schedule it, since I have a higher than normal risk for complications. I've been arguing for one since I was 19, but my OBGYN said no, even though my psychiatrist, therapist, and GP all said that I was competent to make the decision and that I had good reason to. She insisted on Implanon instead (I can't take oral birth control). Three years of Implanon, and I'm at the end of the first year of Nexplanon. She's finally agreed to do it. Written documentation from a geneticist backing up my worries about genetics didn't hurt. And my health has gotten a lot worse, and pregnancy would be dangerous for me and the baby.

I think at some point my H will probably get a vasectomy. We'll see. It's up to him. But he really hates condoms, and I'm not ok with one form of birth control. I'm fine with condoms indefinitely. He doesn't want kids ever, so it's not just because of me.

[muffin0]

Oct 3, 2013 19:02:50 GMT -5 papie said:

When will you settle on permanent birth control (if ever) and why? Is it number of kids, age, other trigger?
If you never plan on going permanent, why?

(This counts for you or your H, obviously you don't need to both do it)

Us: I don't know. I guess probably after this kid? We will be 36 and 38 at that point, and we only really want three. But for some reason the idea makes me freak out. Like, what if we decide in two years we want a fourth?

I don't think we ever will. I don't want my tubes tied and H doesn't want the snip.

We are currently on the fence of wanting a third, so if we go for it maybe we will feel more conviction towards being done after that?

We also kind of want to adopt so part of me is let's make this permanent and then we can adopt.

[kirra]

Oct 3, 2013 19:05:31 GMT -5 specialk said:

I won't because I would prefer DH to get a vasectomy and he will never agree to it for stupid bullshit reasons. He also refuses to use condoms. So basically, he puts the onus of birth control squarely on me.

This is obviously a point of irritation for me.

That's not ok. At all. As far as I'm concerned, if my H wants sex, he can use a condom. So he does.