Would you abide?

[thebuddhagouda]

I would just make sure I sent them in clothes that would not upset me if they were ruined. Most of E's daycare clothes come from consignment, so I don't give many fucks what gets paint on it.

[Deleted]

Look, the teacher is just extending a courtesy so new clothes wouldn't be ruined. If you don't care that they get splattered with paint, then KOKO.

[bex1973]

I send in what I want - if it gets ruinde then it's on me. I think it's ok for the teacher to let parents know they will get dirty but it's totally up to the parent. It's weird that the teacher is making a big deal about this.

[luckyval]

I mean, it's the parents (and child's!) prerogative what they wear to school, so long as its not a hazard.
If the clothes are getting messy, then the parents get to deal with the stains. If they're willing to do that, so be it.

The only restriction at Hart's preschool is the kids can't wear open toe sandals because of the issues it can cause on the playground.

But also, she appears to have a very different definition of play clothes

[wambam]

I don't really think it's the teacher's business. It's not their fault if your kids' clothes get ruined. Seems like she's worked up about nothing.

[LLL]

yes, it doesn't seem that complicated a request. It doesn't seem as though the "newness" of the clothes would be the main issue but rather the nice/fanciness

[sineadorebellion]

Eh I don't know. I mean, other than special occasion outfits, I pretty much expect my kids to dirty up all of their clothes. Lol, every outfit is a playtime outfit to them.

[firedancer49]

What everyone else said. I only send her in things I am ok with getting ruined/stained. Which is why I was all wtf about 3 different people getting her white shirts for her birthday. She wore one yesterday and I'm pretty sure I won't be able to get the stains out of it. Oh well.

[thebuddhagouda]

Oct 8, 2013 12:44:31 GMT -5 wambam said:

I don't really think it's the teacher's business. It's not their fault if your kids' clothes get ruined. Seems like she's worked up about nothing.

I guarandamntee you some asshole parent ripped the teacher a new one because their daughter's full price janie and jack dress got ruined with paint. You know it's happened. The teacher is just trying to cover her own ass, and it's weird to fault her for that.

[lulu13]

I'd just take it as a warning that clothes will get painted on, dirty etc. She probably deals with parents getting upset about their kids clothes getting stained/dirty. If you are okay with nicer clothes getting dirty I wouldn't sweat it. When my kids were smaller I would just spot stain treat their nicer clothes at the end of the day if something got on them and if it didn't come out it was no biggie.

[wambam]

Oct 8, 2013 12:46:02 GMT -5 thebuddhagouda said:

Oct 8, 2013 12:44:31 GMT -5 wambam said:

I don't really think it's the teacher's business. It's not their fault if your kids' clothes get ruined. Seems like she's worked up about nothing.

I guarandamntee you some asshole parent ripped the teacher a new one because their daughter's full price janie and jack dress got ruined with paint. You know it's happened. The teacher is just trying to cover her own ass, and it's weird to fault her for that.

This is probably true. But it's still not her fault. Personal responsibility people! Don't blame your kid's teacher!

[bonquiqui]

Oct 8, 2013 12:44:44 GMT -5 LLL said:

yes, it doesn't seem that complicated a request. It doesn't seem as though the "newness" of the clothes would be the main issue but rather the nice/fanciness

Exactly.  Granted I don't have kids, but I would just do it.  

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Oct 8, 2013 12:46:02 GMT -5 thebuddhagouda said:

Oct 8, 2013 12:44:31 GMT -5 wambam said:

I don't really think it's the teacher's business. It's not their fault if your kids' clothes get ruined. Seems like she's worked up about nothing.

I guarandamntee you some asshole parent ripped the teacher a new one because their daughter's full price janie and jack dress got ruined with paint. You know it's happened. The teacher is just trying to cover her own ass, and it's weird to fault her for that.

Seriously. I totally get why the teacher is stressing this issue. 

[cuddlyevil]

Why not send her with an old t-shirt/button down shirt of yours/H's that she could wear as an art smock?

[thebuddhagouda]

Oct 8, 2013 12:47:22 GMT -5 wambam said:

Oct 8, 2013 12:46:02 GMT -5 thebuddhagouda said:

I guarandamntee you some asshole parent ripped the teacher a new one because their daughter's full price janie and jack dress got ruined with paint. You know it's happened. The teacher is just trying to cover her own ass, and it's weird to fault her for that.

This is probably true. But it's still not her fault. Personal responsibility people! Don't blame your kid's teacher!

of course it's not her fault, but the type of asshole that would yell at her for it isn't exactly going to see that logic

[papie]

Our school and our daycare both ask for the same thing.  At daycare there are always girls showing up in full fancy dresses to play in the sand all day (the yard is all sand).  It is ridiculous.

I buy my kids school/daycare clothes and weekend clothes.  The nicer ones are for the weekend.  The school/daycare clothes are new, but they are ON, Gap and LLBean, nothing fancy schmancy. 

[litebright]

I don't send my kids in anything that would make me heartbroken if it got ruined. So I'd just keep doing what I'm doing.

It seems like of silly to say "your kids should not wear new clothes to school," because hello, they're kids! They grow fast and not everybody does hand-me-downs, so clearly they're going to be wearing new clothes at some point. That's an inane thing to ask of parents.

[sonrisa]

I'd send a little note to the teacher:

"Dear Teacher,

Thanks for the clothing suggestions. DD will wear play clothes to school. Some will be new but all will be clothes that do not interfere with playing at recess nor exercise at PE. I expect to see mud and art supplies splattered on them occasionally.

Cheers,

Bluesky"

(We even have some stain ready smocked dresses that I put her in for church since she'll inevitably sneak something from the coffee hour treats table.) 

[bonquiqui]

Also, perhaps she is worried about kids getting paint on their clothes, and then sitting on the carpet or chairs and staining something else.  A change of clothes would make sense to prevent extra cleanup.  

[anlo]

I think teacher's general idea is for parents to understand that clothes the kids wear to school are likely to show some wear rather quickly. I'd send my child in clothes that I considered to be play clothes, while realizing everyone has their own definition of play clothes and teacher is probably just trying to cover her butt.

Anecdote! Last year I had another mom confront me about a pair of shoes that her daughter wore to school. My daughter asked to try them on while they were at recess and got them dirty. Other mom was mighty put out that her DD's brand new shoes got dirty to the point of being "ruined." I did not see what shape these shoes were in so I can't say what my thoughts are on that.

I told my DD to apologize to other kid's mom and explained that we don't wear other people's shoes (another of those parenting conversations you never expect to have to have with your kid, lol). I also apologized to other mom. She was still bristly about it, but said that her daughter shouldn't have taken her shoes off to start with and we let it go at that.

So, lesson learned. Do not send kid to school in clothes you don't want stained, dirty, etc. And don't let your kid wear someone else's shoes.

[CheshireGrin]

Oct 8, 2013 12:49:31 GMT -5 intentionalsnarkshark said:

The Dude abides.

LOL. I was only coming in here to say that I could not concentrate on even reading this thread because all I can think of is "The Dude abides."

[thejen626]

I think "play clothes" means different things to different people. I don't let DD wear anything to pre-k that I would be upset if it was ruined. But some days she is in frilly dresses or white shirts or a name brand outfit. Most of her clothes are from Costco and she has soooo many clothes that's I'm not worried if the clothes are ruined.

Quite frankly, I had a hard time picking out an outfit for her to wear to the muddy pumpkin patch, because she really doesn't own "getting dirty clothes".

[Deleted]

Little kid heel would have made it her sole mission to get paint on the girl in the fancy clothes and an art smock.

[muffin0]

I buy clothes for my kid knowing that they are going to get messed up. I don't care if it's Janie and Jack or Target. If I cared that much about my kids clothes I wouldn't buy them.

[sonrisa]

Oct 8, 2013 12:57:26 GMT -5 05heel said:

Little kid heel would have made it her sole mission to get paint on the girl in the fancy clothes and an art smock.

See, my kid would make it her mission to paint herself if she's in a fancy dress. So you'd be in cahoots. 

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Oct 8, 2013 13:02:02 GMT -5 sameoldash said:

look, i know teachers get a bad rap, but this is just weird. she's actually trying to be helpful and now that's annoying, too?

just send her in play clothes, ffs.

Seriously. I'm getting annoyed at people's responses here.


IF YOU'RE SO BREEZY ABOUT THE CLOTHES GETTING DIRTY, BE BREEZY ABOUT THE MEMO THAT THEN DOES NOT PERTAIN TO YOU.

[polka]

The teacher is just trying to give a heads up, it is a courtesy note.

I'm willing to bet that the parents there who'd be upset about being told to put their kids in play clothes, would be the first ones to complain when their precious Muffin came home with boogers and paint on her new cashmere unicorn sweater.

[snickers]

As long as you don't care if the outfit gets ruined, send her in whatever you want. If you got the chance, I would drop the teacher an email or something and just let them know that so they don't think you are just ignoring the request.
But, as a daycare teacher I can tell you some parents refuse to listen to that rule and then flip their lids when their kids outfit has paint on it and it won't come off for some reason. This makes the teachers job very very hard.

I think the idea of sending in an old t short of yours or your H's as a paint smock is an awesome idea!!

[snickers]

In fact, some of the parents in my class send their kids in the nicest of clothing and when they drop them off they say to me "hey, if you are going to do art you can just change her into this outfit, okay?" ummmmmmm, no! Your kid will do art today, in the outfit you sent them in, sorry!

[hocus2]

I guess I'm the only one that doesn't think this is just about being dirty. Some kids in K have a hard time dressing and it creates issues when they need to use the bathroom. I know the K we'll go to next year strongly encourages elastic waist bands vs. zip or button pants. Basically they hope the kids come in sweats, tights, athletic or other pull on pants.