I send in what I want - if it gets ruinde then it's on me. I think it's ok for the teacher to let parents know they will get dirty but it's totally up to the parent. It's weird that the teacher is making a big deal about this.
But she's likely only making any kind of deal out of it because some kid came to school in her Sunday best and the mom got pissed when it came home with marker on it.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Oct 8, 2013 13:51:02 GMT -5
My kid wears fancy dreses to school. She's currently in a Christmas dress. Fancy dresses twirl the best, it's just a fact.
Anytime I drop her off in a new fancy dress, I make sure to let the teacher know - I expect it to get ruined. Her absolute favorite dress is white. All white. I still send it - it comes home dingy and I bleach it - she wears it again the next week.
I would be thankful for a heads up from the teacher that they would be painting and it could potentially ruin their clothes. You know that even after the warning, some parent will send the kid in his best clothing, the kid will end up staining it with paint, and the parent is still going to be pissed off and blame the teacher even after getting a note home. That is probably what she is worried about happening. There is always going to be one of "those" parents every year. At DD's schools/daycare they always requested old ratty extra large shirts that the kids could put over their clothes to help keep paint off of their regular clothes.
I think teacher's general idea is for parents to understand that clothes the kids wear to school are likely to show some wear rather quickly. I'd send my child in clothes that I considered to be play clothes, while realizing everyone has their own definition of play clothes and teacher is probably just trying to cover her butt.
Anecdote! Last year I had another mom confront me about a pair of shoes that her daughter wore to school. My daughter asked to try them on while they were at recess and got them dirty. Other mom was mighty put out that her DD's brand new shoes got dirty to the point of being "ruined." I did not see what shape these shoes were in so I can't say what my thoughts are on that.
I told my DD to apologize to other kid's mom and explained that we don't wear other people's shoes (another of those parenting conversations you never expect to have to have with your kid, lol). I also apologized to other mom. She was still bristly about it, but said that her daughter shouldn't have taken her shoes off to start with and we let it go at that.
So, lesson learned. Do not send kid to school in clothes you don't want stained, dirty, etc. And don't let your kid wear someone else's shoes.
WTF would that mom even bring it up with you? That is absurd. Short of your kid holding her child down and ripping the shoes from her feet, it is just dumb kid stuff that she should address with her own child.
I think teacher's general idea is for parents to understand that clothes the kids wear to school are likely to show some wear rather quickly. I'd send my child in clothes that I considered to be play clothes, while realizing everyone has their own definition of play clothes and teacher is probably just trying to cover her butt.
Anecdote! Last year I had another mom confront me about a pair of shoes that her daughter wore to school. My daughter asked to try them on while they were at recess and got them dirty. Other mom was mighty put out that her DD's brand new shoes got dirty to the point of being "ruined." I did not see what shape these shoes were in so I can't say what my thoughts are on that.
I told my DD to apologize to other kid's mom and explained that we don't wear other people's shoes (another of those parenting conversations you never expect to have to have with your kid, lol). I also apologized to other mom. She was still bristly about it, but said that her daughter shouldn't have taken her shoes off to start with and we let it go at that.
So, lesson learned. Do not send kid to school in clothes you don't want stained, dirty, etc. And don't let your kid wear someone else's shoes.
WTF would that mom even bring it up with you? That is absurd. Short of your kid holding her child down and ripping the shoes from her feet, it is just dumb kid stuff that she should address with her own child.
I'm really not sure what she expected me to do. Pay for new shoes? I dunno.
I send in what I want - if it gets ruinde then it's on me. I think it's ok for the teacher to let parents know they will get dirty but it's totally up to the parent. It's weird that the teacher is making a big deal about this.
But she's likely only making any kind of deal out of it because some kid came to school in her Sunday best and the mom got pissed when it came home with marker on it.
Understandable. I know it's likely frustrating/annoying to have a parent complain about this sort of stuff. I guess I'm just coming from the viewpoint of - parents should be able to dress their kids how they want knowing how messy kids are. My kid is messy, I know she's going to mess up whatever I put her in. But WTF do I know I've only been a parent for 10 months LOL.
I don't really think it's the teacher's business. It's not their fault if your kids' clothes get ruined. Seems like she's worked up about nothing.
I guarandamntee you some asshole parent ripped the teacher a new one because their daughter's full price janie and jack dress got ruined with paint. You know it's happened. The teacher is just trying to cover her own ass, and it's weird to fault her for that.
Or they're wearing such a ridiculous getup that they can't run, play or do crafts. We had a group playdate at a bounce place and one of the Moms brought her 2 year old in a long, white satin dress. And was upset that she had to buy socks and seriously bummed that her child couldn't climb. In satin. There is nothing about parents that would surprise me anymore.
edited because apparently I can't even spell socks.
Did you tell her this? Maybe she needs to hear it from some of the parents so that she understands that one "bad apple" doesn't mean the rest will be upset.
Did you tell her this? Maybe she needs to hear it from some of the parents so that she understands that one "bad apple" doesn't mean the rest will be upset.
Maybe I'd validate her with a note in response to the effect that you expect the kid to get dirty/soiled/painty in the normal course of the school day, and even if the kid looks like she's dressed in dress clothes, anything the kid wears is okay to get soiled
In my world, clothes are clothes. They both wear what they wear. Everything is washable and if stains don't come out, oh well. Henry dresses in a lot of navy, though. Lol.
I like them to look cute, and am willing to sacrifice cute stuff to the craft Gods occasionally. I'd be annoyed that the teacher wanted my kid to come to school in rags.
I work with kids - I get it. It sucks when you are trying to engage them I. Hands on learning and little Sally is wearing a white lace dress to fingerprint. Or Johnny has deigner sneakers and you want to go puddle jumping or visit a farm.
No fun to be stressing about keeping them pristine.
I think she just means - "if you'd be pissed if your kid came home with a stain or paint on it, don't send him wearing it"
The teacher should back off. Who cares what they wear, if they get dirty, then it's on the parents who spent the money on those clothes.
It's stupid of parents to dress them up in expensive clothing and expect the teachers to keep the child clean. If you decide to let them go in head to toe Janie and Jack shit then expect it to come home looking a little dingy and have a couple mystery stains in the front.
Why not send her with an old t-shirt/button down shirt of yours/H's that she could wear as an art smock?
Back in the dark ages when I was in school, we just had to have an old button up or smock for art. I can only remember ever being in trouble for getting a dress dirty by my Gran. She would just change me into another outfit and fix the mess. My mother just expected us to come home covered in something, unless we were told to be careful prior, and didn't stress over it.
I can see where the teacher is coming from if she/he has to deal with parents who don't let kids be kids.
Post by balletofangels on Oct 9, 2013 4:37:40 GMT -5
My school district went to uniforms this year prek-12. It is the best thing ever. I too have had parents freak over messy clothes.I've also had parents ask me to make sure their child does not get their $80 sneakers dirty. Um, no. With the uniforms it is all NBD and parents have not had any problem getting stuff out of the kids' clothes.