Post by ElizabethBennet on Oct 18, 2013 14:28:34 GMT -5
Person A purchased some things for Person B. Person A said, during the purchasing of said things, "I want to buy this for you and I can spend up to $100." Person B says "you don't need to do that, but I appreciate the offer." Person B has no plans at that point of taking advantage of the offer. Person A insists on purchasing these things and begins asking Person B what they would like. The things are purchased and Person B says "I would like to pay for at least half of those things" Person A insists that these are gifts and that is not required, that even if Person B sent a check it would remain uncashed. Person B decides to accept the offer and not send a check.
Fast forward two weeks. Person A is calling Person B to see if they sent that check, for the entire amount of the items. Person B, shocked by the change in heart, says no, they have not sent it. Person A says they don't care whether they send it or not they "just wanted to know."
Person B forgets and is called again by Person A about a week later. Person A again asks for the check. Person B kinda calls them out stating that they originally thought that these things were a gift and are now confused by the change of heart. Person A says that they expected the check and that they "don't have as many nice things as person B, and it must be nice to be able to do fun things." and that now "the money is needed" and person B "can afford it, therefore should send the check." For items Person B never really wanted in the first place.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Person A and B are related, aren't they? Weird family things are a different world from weird nonfamily things. "Let's just return everything. I'd hate to cause problems." Next time, don't accept "gifts" from person A.
Person A. They shouldn't have offered things if they couldn't afford them. Person B should just return to stuff to person A and never accept stuff from them ever again.
If this is not family I would either return all things and cut off contact and if that is not possible I would say " I'm terribly sorry that you can no longer afford the gifts you sent but I can not reimburse you." If it is family it is more complicated. What a shady shadster.
B should return the things, if possible, and have A's credit card refunded. If this is not possible, B should mail the things to A and say that A can now enjoy all the pretty things.
I was going to say, it sounds like some manipulation by related persons. I.e. mother and daughter. I bet the mom is person A? That is crazy and obviously wrong.
I see that it is family so severing contact is not so easy. If you can't return items I would still say. " I'm unable to reimburse you and I am terribly sorry if that causes problems." Do not send money!
Post by snipsnsnails on Oct 18, 2013 14:42:09 GMT -5
What was the stuff? And is this the MIL you aren't talking with anymore? You didn't start talking to her again, did you? I hope not! It was bad news bears, as is this deal here.
Post by ElizabethBennet on Oct 18, 2013 14:42:24 GMT -5
Person A sells things at home parties ie. thirty one bags, pampered chef, Tupperware etc and offered things to me.
The items purchased were/are useful to me and I have used them. And thanked person A profusely for them.
I can't return the items.
I did not hold a party for this person. The items were offered to me when this person was closing out another party. I think so that "my purchase" would result in higher party sales.