Any helpful books/shows for kids with two dads and a mom?

[pl77]

Hi, my STBX husband is gay and we're splitting custody with our two kids 50/50.  So far they seem pretty settled into the routine of the nights here and the nights at STBX's. STBX and I are amicable-we hug goodbye, joke around, I've met his boyfriend and the boyfriend (J) will be sharing Christmas with the kids, STBX and I.  The kids really like J and he is great with them.  STBX and I had to have a talk recently because he randomly asked our four year old if he'd like to have two daddies, and our four year old woke me up crying one night saying he didn't want two daddies if his mama was going to leave (it was the first I'd heard of it, obviously I'm not going anywhere but in his mind if he had two daddies there wasn't a mama).  

I just gently explained that daddy meant that one day he might get married or live with someone he loved very very much and then H (our four year old) would have two daddies AND a mama that loved him.  It's an uncommon situation, so I was wondering if there were any children's books you'd recommend?  Thanks in advance!

[kershnic]

I can imagine this must be a difficult time for all of you, so I'm sorry you're going through it. It sounds like you're handling the sexuality piece of it well by accepting his new partner and keeping an open dialogue with your kids.

I don't know of any books that specifically address issues of divorce or post-divorce families including LGBT parents. I think some that just feature kids in families with two moms or two dads might further the incorrect idea that you're disappearing or being replaced - so you'll definitely have to pair any of them with lots of conversation about your kids' family composition.

Links from this page cover several that feature gay families in some way: www.mombian.com/category/books-and-media/kids-books/

[2brides]

www.amazon.com/Daddys-Roommate-Wonderland-Michael-Willhoite/dp/1555831184

[seattlekari]

pl77 we liked the Todd Parr books which feature different families, people with disabilities, etc.

[pl77]

Thanks all.