MMM Tuesday Vents

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My 26 weeks, I think it is fine to go over 200 mg/day on occassion. I would be more careful about caffeine in the first tri given the miscarriage link.

[jenny1223]

I think the caffeine rules are okay to bend. Do what you need to do.

I was so mad at DH last night. He stays home with DS right now. Most days I'm away from home about 8 hours. Yesterday I was gone for 11 hours because I had a dr appt after work for some mysterious pelvic/uterine pain I've been having. DH calls me while I'm at the dr to ask when I'd be home and was all pissed off because DS was fussy. This was after he got a whole weekend away and while I'm stressed out about what's wrong with me.

[Deleted]

I think septimus was drinking about a pot a day throughout all her pregnancies. Aren't her kids super geniuses?

My confession/vent: I can't be happy for people with younger babies than mine that sleep well. The best I can do is keep my mouth shut. I know what their baby does has nothing to do with mine blah blah blah... but I'm tired of being tired and I don't have one nice thing to say to them about it.

[beaver12]

I don't drink caffeine regularly, but know I had more than 200mg in a day on more than one occasion. As long as it's not an everyday thing I think you're fine.

My vent is stupid. We had a very fun play date planned to go to a preschool rides day at a local amusement park with friends. Our friends bailed because the little girl was up until 4:30 am. I don't blame them, but I'm bummed we will miss the fun.

[anna7602]

I drank coffee regularly through pregnancy, and through 2 years of BFing. I don't know how many mg it came out to, though. I just know that my OB was totally okay with it. If I happen to get pg now that we're trying, I fully plan to embrace the French pregnant-woman lifestyle and still have wine with dinner every night. And maybe even a piece or two of stinky cheese now and then. (Horrors!)

I don't think I have a vent today. I was really angsty yesterday on day 1 home with sick DD, but by day 2, I've pretty much just accepted that none of my work will get done before we leave on vacation Saturday and I feel much less pressure.

[jinnifah]

I think the caffeine thing is most important in 1st tri when there's higher risk of miscarriage. Still best to not mae it a habit

My vent....I have a happy sleeping baby on my lap....but it's lunchtime and i'm starving....but if i move he'll wake up and fuss. I think quiet trumps food today

[Brie]

Not so much a vent as a confession, but I am obsessed/fascinated with my boobs/nipples lately. I'm leaking colostrum and it is so cool! I feel like a kid going through puberty figuring out how their body works all over again.

[pugz]

I had gotten into the habit of drinking an iced chai every morning the last 3 weeks, it is driving me nuts I can't get one now. I wish Starbucks and Panera delivered. A chai and a baked egg souffle would rock my world right about now.

[beaver12]

Jun 26, 2012 11:25:35 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

My confession/vent: I can't be happy for people with younger babies than mine that sleep well. The best I can do is keep my mouth shut. I know what their baby does has nothing to do with mine blah blah blah... but I'm tired of being tired and I don't have one nice thing to say to them about it.

I'll second this. My 4 month old nephew has been stn since he was 6 weeks old. It frosts my cookies big time. We've been trying to sleep train our 11 month old for almost 4 months and it isn't working. Every time we make a little progress , he starts cutting another tooth and we're back at square one.

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Jun 26, 2012 11:19:43 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

Mine is more of a reassure me:

You think it's ok to bend the rules every now and then regarding caffeine and pregnancy, right? Because I really think I need more than 200 mg today or I am going to lose my mind and/or pass out at work. Today just seems hopelessly busy and I am dreading our last childbirth class tonight (because I'll be tired and it ends at 9 PM, not because of the content).

How has the class been going?

[glitzy07]

This isn't really a vent, but more of a confession.

Yesterday my BFF took me out to dinner for my birthday. Our creme brulee that we ordered came out with a birthday candle, and I wished to get pregnant...and I'm the one telling DH that we still have to wait a couple months. Apparently I can't decide what I want.

[anna7602]

Jun 26, 2012 11:25:35 GMT -5 @tokenhoser said:

I think septimus was drinking about a pot a day throughout all her pregnancies. Aren't her kids super geniuses?

My confession/vent: I can't be happy for people with younger babies than mine that sleep well. The best I can do is keep my mouth shut. I know what their baby does has nothing to do with mine blah blah blah... but I'm tired of being tired and I don't have one nice thing to say to them about it.

I feel like the whole "I can't be happy for people who..." warrants a spin-off thread. I can't be happy for people who regularly get away without their kids. DH and I have been planning a huge 10th wedding anniversary trip for a LONG time, to the point of his convincing me to put off TTC until this month because of the big, fabulous drinking/dancing til dawn adult trip we were going to take.

I made the reservations 4 months ago. Two weeks ago, I had to buy plane tickets for DD to come along and call all the hotels to make sure they could put a cot or something in the room. DH's parents had to cancel their trip to see us and we have no one else to leave DD with. In the meantime, I get an email frrom a friend in NYC who has two small kids and wants to visit us in the fall, but is "coordinating with her mom about watching the kids, so she'll get back to me about the exact dates later." I almost threw my computer out the window when I read that message.

[froggy76]

I have been so moody lately. I really just need a break from my mundane life, but I don't have the ambition to plan anything.

[Mushe]

I get very frustrated sometimes with how much interest my husband takes in baby purchases. I initially planned to buy a PeaPod travel bed for LO, but decided an actual structured travel crib would be better. We've had several conversations about why I don't think the PeaPod will work, and it's just going on and on. I don't know why he cares so much!

[dcrunnergirl]

When I was on hospital bedrest (28w-32w), they brought me coffee everyday. I probaby could have asked for a second or third cup, and they wouldn't have batted an eye. So, I'd say some caffeine, even an excess amount on one day, is fine.

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Jun 26, 2012 11:54:57 GMT -5 @cookiemonster03 said:

token, i feel the same way. every time we have a brief - like 2 day - STTN period someone gets sick or a tooth or hell knows what else. i am bitter about good sleepers now like i was about people who got pregnant easily before. not fair or logical, but there nevertheless.

I think this just goes with tired brain. A friend, who's DD slept thru the night the FIRST frickin day home from the hospital, made a comment about how her DD didn't really ever get up in the middle of the night while teething either. This was after I said I was tired today because DS woke up at 2 am because he has a tooth coming in. The voices in my head were screaming "good for f'ng you" lol!

[h]

Add me to the list of people who can't hear about good sleepers without getting bitter. I kills me when people with relatively young babies complain that their kids aren't STTN yet. Neither of my kids even thought about STTN until after they were a year. DS2 is 26 months and still probably only STTN 50% of the time. And both my kids were done with naps by 2 yo. And it is like pulling teeth to get them to go to bed before 9:30. They are never freaking tired!

I do not get at all riled up when people brag about their birth experiences, nursing, homemade baby food, or whatever. I couldn't care less. But the moms with the good sleepers make me want to punch a wall.

[macandchip]

Jun 26, 2012 13:08:41 GMT -5 @246baje said:

Flameful: I kind of like how my tummy looks when I am taking this diuretic for my carpal tunnel. It is amazing how much of a difference 5 lbs of water weight makes.

Diuretics are rather amazing that way. I was on one for 2 months PP, and lost all my baby weight within 2 weeks. Now I'm only on it when needed, so the tummy is definitely back. I don't miss having to pee every hour though.

[lmb5109]

I think anything in moderation is fine. I had unheated lunch meat yesterday!

I wish my belly would start to look like a belly and not just flubber. I have two bumps, one above my belly button and one below. I wish they would merge and make one bump.

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I'm annoyed that one day of daycare (in a new classroom) completely derailed all the potty training success from the weekend.

sigh.

[Brie]

Jun 26, 2012 13:33:09 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

Jun 26, 2012 13:31:29 GMT -5 lmb5109 said:

I think anything in moderation is fine. I had unheated lunch meat yesterday!

I wish my belly would start to look like a belly and not just flubber. I have to bumps, one above my belly button and one below. I wish they would merge and make a bump.

I didn't really look pregnant until past 20 weeks. Even today I could "pass" for "fat." It is somewhat disheartening. This is not a bragplaint - I have gained my share of weight. I just don't remotely have the ideal "basketball" belly.

There are drawbacks to the basketball, though. I can't go out in public without some bizarre/awkward/inappropriate comment from a stranger. Sometimes I just want to ride an elevator in peace!

[pugz]

I get to hide from all the people and their awkward comments now! 1 point for bedrest, lol.

[bunch]

This is obviously very anecdotal, but a friends 18 mo old started sttn the week he was weaned. I keep that in mind as I work toward that.

[megs193]

This thread makes me want to stay pregnant forever. My DS didn't sttn till 2 months ago (the tot clock is amazing!) and now I am about to tart over again. How do I get one of these babies who sttn fom day 1?

My vent is that I had to see my OB's partner today and had the most painful cervical exam of my life. I'm not sure what he hell he was doing but I am pretty sure it isn't normal to have to waddle to your car.

[sewpinkgal]

Jun 26, 2012 11:50:11 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

Pretty well! Last week was really good - they went through all the potential interventions / complications and what each of them meant for us. I also set a personal goal of waiting 5cm for the epidural because they showed us where the csection risk levels off (at 5 cm).

This was my goal for the epidural as well - they wouldn't check me before actually getting it since the nurse thought it'd be more comfortable once the epi was in. I was thrilled to have made it, though for me, by the time I tapped out and asked for the epidural, I didn't really care where I was, I just needed some relief. LOL. I hope you're able to make it to your goal.

[sewpinkgal]

Mine is more of a confession:

Last week I finally decided to basically stop nursing (nursing first thing in the AM, pumping a few times a day) and then supplement with formula. At the same time, I really got serious with my eating/trying to lose these last few lbs and am almost back to my pre pregnancy weight. While I miss nursing, I seriously feel like me again. I didn't realize how much wearing my old skinny clothes and not having to whip out a boob multiple times a day would change my whole outlook on life.

I guess the upside to this is J has a mommy that is in a very happy and bubbly mood these days.

[Deleted]

My only friend who happens to have a 7mo old in my new city lives 40 minutes away. She is so excited to go to all of these events with me and I felt the same. That is, until I realized exactly how far she lived. Now I feel bad since I feel obligated to keep the events at least halfway b/w us, which still brings me out to the 'burbs. DH and I chose to live in the middle of the city b/c we love city living. I don't want to drive way out yonder every freaking day. I want to walk and take the train instead. I have no idea how to schedule only one or two events a week with her. She wants to do something every.single.day. Gah.

[anna7602]

Jun 26, 2012 12:55:24 GMT -5 @msstarry said:

anna - that sucks about your anniversary. Are the in laws going to come another time? I hope they had a good excuse!

Thanks. They do have a very good excuse and I feel like a brat complaining, but I have had exactly one solo getaway with DH since DD was born and that was when we were house-hunting! We managed to have fun, but it wasn't exactly a relaxing vacation.

I am just really frustrated that our ILs are only willing to watch DD when it's a "good" excuse like house-hunting or a wedding anniversary. And my own parents won't watch her overnight at all. So many people I know regularly leave the kids with the grandparents just because. And then they look at me like I am some kind of control freak when I say we don't do that.