Crazy MIL Rant

[jennifer8080]

This woman is freaking insane. I keep telling her that she is NOT welcome at the house for the birth, that she can come over once we are all settled afterward. Yeah, my mom will be here. She will be taking care of Kennedy. It's my vagina. I'm the one pushing the kid out. I do not want my crazy psycho MIL who drives me nuts and does nothing but complain about how much pain she's in and how bad she has it, around during labor. Why can't she get it through her thick head?!?! I swear, someone's going to have the hard task of kicking her ass to the curb if she shows up.

[alzi]

Is your H on board? No one call her until after he is born.

[jennifer8080]

Jun 26, 2012 11:24:25 GMT -5 alzi said:

Is your H on board? No one call her until after he is born.

We haven't really discussed it this time. It was a huge fight last time and he ended up seeing my point and she wasn't there. The problem is he has a big mouth and will call everyone. And because of his job he's traveling when I'm going to be over 37 weeks and now his mother thinks if I go into labor and he's out of town that she can rush over. This woman can't/won't take care of herself. She can't/won't bathe herself. She can't/won't cook for herself. Exactly what good does she think she's going to be here. During Kennedy's heart surgery she was complaining about her hip hurting and that the cold in the waiting area was making it worse. For real lady???

[mrsjenrn]

I hope your H backs you up on this one. If we have another baby I want my mom to come here first again like she did with Zoe. IDK if that will fly though. Your MIL sounds crazy from all the stories you have told us. People like that are part of the reason I am burned out from bedside nursing. Seriously, if you're not willing to help yourself then wtf are you doing in the hospital? Sorry, that sounded harsh. I am a little burned out right now.

[alzi]

I can't fathom your H not backing you up as the person birthing the baby! When he pops one out, he gets to pick who is there.

[sara76]

This makes me mad reading it. WTF is wrong with her? You're just going to have to be the bad guy apparently. You have to do what you have to do and she can.not be there for your delivery.

[mrsjason]

Coming from my point of view, with my IL's and H, I think my H would be totally hurt if I said his parents couldn't be there. I don't think that would be something that he would be ok with. But then again, I my relationship with my IL's is different, I'm sure, so take whatever I say with a grain of salt.

Is there a way your could compromise and let her be in the house, just not in the room? And let her know if she becomes more of a hinderance than a help she will be asked to leave?

Again, this might not be possible since your MIL sounds a little dramatic. But I thought I would offer another point of view.

GL and I hope the rest of your pregnancy is smooth!

[jennifer8080]

I know it sounds totally unreasonable of me. But I just can't handle her. Everything has to be about her and she has to be waited on hand and foot. I told her she was welcome to come when he was here nd things had settled a few hours later. This woman is flat out insane. Her being I another part of the house isn't really an option. I want to be be to move freely between the family room or bedroom, depending on the time of the day. If she coud hang out upstairs, it might be one thing. But she claims to be unable to go up stairs. She will completely stress me out in labor. H was upset last time and in the beginning it was a fight. But then he came round to realizing that I was the one pushing the kid out and it needed to be about who I was comfortable with. He better remember that. Lol

[alzi]

No you do NOT have to compromise on this!! It is your body and you do what you are comfortable with! I would seriously laugh in my MIL or moms face if they thought they were entitled to be in the room while I gave birth, like it wasn't my choice. Omg I'm so mad for you.

[moonstone523]

My MIL and I get along just fine, and I don't want her there when I give birth. You are NOT being unreasonable.

[amellis2]

This. I wanted my mom there (and even then, I wasn't sure about that...we don't have a good relationship, although I try. I really. REALLY. TRY.)

I have an OK relationship with FI's mom, but she is a lot like Jen's MIL. Always sick, makes stupid decisoins about her own health and then wants to "help."
BUT.
The last place I want her? In my junk, watchin' my kids get born. However, she did respect that and didn't even get a ride to St. Joe's until a few days after the girls were born.