I feel bad for my H

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H has two siblings, and both have been weird about O. Obviously, SIL had a legitimate reason and is getting help and is doing better, so that's all ok and exciting.


H's brother was at the funeral yesterday. H hadn't seen him since Christmas last year, he lives about 3 1/2 hours away. BIL sent H a congrats text after O was born, but it's been radio silence since then. We brought O to the wake but not the funeral, so BIL didn't get to see her. H is pissed that he hasn't seen her, hasn't contacted H about her, and did not ask anything or acknowledge her in conversation yesterday. It's his big brother and they're really close in age (11 months) and were super close growing up. 


H was pretty irritated yesterday when leaving, and I understand it. His brother showed up to be a pallbearer, just like H and their male cousins, but didn't bring any dress clothes. MIL had to go buy him dress pants, shirt and jacket right before the service. He also brought his new girlfriend to meet everyone, and he didn't introduce her to anyone and just kind of ditched her at the funeral home and the great grandmother's house afterward. I talked to her, she seems really nice and I like her. So, he's kind of just equal opportunity shitty at this point in his life and it's not anything personal. 

I think BIL knows he's been kind of a dick to everyone, so that's why he doesn't inquire about anything. He's become a man-child. 

I feel bad for H that his brother is being a dick.



Oh, and H's aunt tried to scam all the grandkids and great grandkids for money by saying no one had paid for the floral arrangement from said grandkids/great grandkids and wanted around 40 bucks for everybody. My MIL had paid for the full amount anticipating this happening. H's aunt is a junkie.  

That's all. 

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His family sucks. You seem like a loving and supportive wife

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It's sad, but unfortunately, having kids isn't going to bring someone around. While not as extreme, we've had similar frustrations w/ DHs brother. While I always "knew" this, this experience just hammered in the concept that my life choices really have NO impact on anyone elses life. Nor should I expect it to.

Doesn't help w/ the disappointment, though.