Well, I didn't want kids for the longest time. I told H before our wedding that at that point, I wasn't sure if I ever wanted kids. I got baby fever at 30 and we started trying and had our son when I was 31. I think I'm warming up to the idea of trying for number 2 if we don't decide to adopt. It's all up in the air but H recently said he wants another baby and I think I do, too. :-)
I've always wanted 3, but we stopped at 2 because I did not have a good time during L&D with number 2 kiddo. Also she broke my bladder, and I need to get that fixed so my fat arse can exercise again.
I'm set on two or more, even if we have to adopt. FI only really wants one but is ok with more as long as there isn't a huge gap like with him and his sister.
I was an only child and we lived on a farm so there weren't many people to easily hang out with. FI has a sister that is 6 years younger than he is and he hates her (lot of fun back story with that). Since we live a decent distance away from things (and always will) I can't think of putting my child through the same suck I had growing up of not having anyone to play with / hang out with. I also have a hard time socializing because of this.
I would like four (or more), while he'd be happy with two, so we compromised on three.
I still shot him down when he said he wanted to get a vasectemy after the next one. It's just too final for me. I told him he can get it when we're 40.
It was a little more expensive when DD was born because we had to buy some girl specific clothing, but overall I don't think it's costing us double to raise 2.
I know this is dumb, but is 2 kids really much more expensive than 1? Is it really double the cost of 1?
Other than the things like carseats, high chairs, clothes and toys that can be passed down, I'd assume so. It doubles the cost of food, education, diapers, extracarricular activities, etc.
Other than the things like carseats, high chairs, clothes and toys that can be passed down, I'd assume so. It doubles the cost of food, education, diapers, extracarricular activities, etc.
That is what I was thinking. We have a big suspicion that FIL will pay for a significant part of our kid(s) college. If that is the case we we seriously consider more kids.
That is awesome! That would be such a load off of our shoulders.
We talked about 2 but now I'm pregnant with my third. It was a surprise pregnancy and I was a little worried at first but that lasted for a day lol. I'm really excited but nervous too.
However it's the third girl and I did want DH to have a son. He has mentioned that he's done but I don't know how serious he is. I would be officially done if it was a boy and I wanted to be done having kids by the time I turned 30 (I recently turned 30) so now would be a good time to stop. The next one could be another girl anyways so yeah I'm just not sure right now. I'll have to re-evaluate after I give birth and go through the newborn stage again lol.
My parents funded a 529 for both our kids, but we do have an advantage of their dual citizenship and saving money by sending them to a university overseas.
Post by EmilieMadison on Jun 26, 2012 17:37:25 GMT -5
Initially, I wanted 2 with the possibility of 3. DH wanted 1 with the possibility of 2. We had one, agreed that we both just wanted one more. And we feel 100% complete with 2.
Post by peachykate on Jun 26, 2012 17:37:27 GMT -5
I always wanted 2-3 but now I am perfectly content with 1. Just thinking about getting pregnant, miscarriages, and then hypermesis is enough to make me want to glue my ute shut.
DH really wants more but I just don't think I have it in me. I get get anxious even talking about it because what if one day I agree and then can't get pregnant at all and then I will feel like a failure. Hahaha, see crazy post from earlier today.
I know this is dumb, but is 2 kids really much more expensive than 1? Is it really double the cost of 1?
Aside from daycare costs, no, two kids isnt usually double the cost of 1. We dont have daycare and adding a 2nd kid barely even registered in the budget.
Post by daisyheadmaizie on Jun 26, 2012 17:46:25 GMT -5
We always planned on 2. My first delivery was awful, and I was pretty scared to get pregnant again. DH really wanted 2 still. I was okay with just having DD. We ended up deciding to stop using protection and just see what would happen. If I wasn't pregnant within a year we would be done. 10 months into that year I got pregnant and we will be adding DS to the mix in September. And, while I would have been okay with just DD, I am really glad that we decided to try again.