Someone hand me a cane and while you are at it...

[luvvy]

Get off my front lawn.

I'm annoyed about silly things.  Since when is it appropriate to host a shower and then request that guests bring food as well as a gift?  And I'm tired of e-vites.  There are times when it is appropriate but dangit, I'm over it.  I like paper in the mail.  I like real, handwritten thank you notes.  Call me a snob but I'm tired of all of these bad manners.

Where's suesue to back me on this?

[luvvy]

Nov 13, 2013 14:01:45 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I AM RIGHT HERE.

Hosts HOST. It's a verb. It means to provide a suitable venue, food and drink, within your budget and appropriate to the occasion, for your guests, who by definition DON'T provide those things. And send a paper invitation for god's sake. The post office needs the revenue, and the recipient can use a kind cheerful note amongst the bills. (They are issuing Harry Potter stamps soon!)

Yay!  I knew you would understand. 

This post brought to you by the baby shower I was invited to this weekend that requested that I sign up for an appetizer to bring and also included registry information.  The good news is that the mom-to-be doesn't know that this is happening.  She is a strict handwritten thank you giver.

*sigh*

[ECB]

Seriously - I would either do what SueSue said (Oh- I thought you were joking!), or I wouldn't go. I am NOT going to make an f-ing dish to take to a shower where I have to buy a gift too.

Hell no.

[lkoenig]

Nov 13, 2013 14:12:45 GMT -5 ECB said:

Seriously - I would either do what SueSue said (Oh- I thought you were joking!), or I wouldn't go. I am NOT going to make an f-ing dish to take to a shower where I have to buy a gift too.

Hell no.

exactly!  either the gift or a crock pot filled with food, YOUR CHOICE, you can't have both godammit! *also shakes my cane

[ax2]

Ugh, DHs family are ALL ABOUT the potluck. Every shower, get together, holiday we are requested to bring food. Drives me batty. A wedding shower for second cousin? Bring food! Baby shower for aunts DIL? Can you bring the cake? Argh.

[wkatie]

Nov 13, 2013 15:15:54 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Nov 13, 2013 14:08:12 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Say when you get there that you thought she was kidding.

Where in the etiquette books does it advise to go around pointing out someone else's breach of etiquette?

Purposefully making someone uncomfortable with this kind of passive agressive response is unkind and far more tacky than the host's offense.

I thought sue Sue was kidding.

[luvvy]

I will still attend because I love the guest of honor. I will not in any way make anyone uncomfortable, nor will I ever because rude does not right rude. I will stop at the store and get a small something from the deli and plop it into a dish from home and bring a gift. I'm just tired of it. The "rules" here in the south are drastically different than the "rules" I'm used to back home.

[luvvy]

Nov 13, 2013 15:54:35 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Nov 13, 2013 15:50:23 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

And I do not agree with you that Miss Manners is the authority on having grace.

THEMS FIGHTIN WORDS, KA.

LET'S DUKE IT OUT, SUE!  But like ladies, of course.

Slap fight!

[zitiqueen]

Nov 13, 2013 15:54:35 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Nov 13, 2013 15:50:23 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

And I do not agree with you that Miss Manners is the authority on having grace.

THEMS FIGHTIN WORDS, KA.

LET'S DUKE IT OUT, SUE!  But like ladies, of course.

Duke it out brightly, ladies.

[flex]

Nov 13, 2013 14:08:12 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

thank god she does not know.
and don't bother with bringing an appetizer. Say when you get there that you thought she was kidding.

I wish I could "like" this post a bazillion times over!!!

[miniroller]

Nov 13, 2013 16:18:36 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Nov 13, 2013 16:08:26 GMT -5 luvvy said:

Slap fight!

 no no! I vote we sit around saying pithy, caustic things to one another, impugning integrity and all. lol

Whilst sipping tea with pinkies UP!!!!