How was your weekend?

[seattlekari]

What did you do?

[seattlekari]

Friday: I ran a few shopping errands and came up mostly empty handed. I treated myself to sushi (A won't touch it, so I'm on my own there). When I got home I was hoping to stay up long enough to see A when she got home from work, but a couple of weeks of E not going to bed well had completely caught up with me and I crashed.

Saturday: I think I may have slept for almost 12 hours. Guess that proved how sleep deprived I was. A and I spent some time working on shelving install in our closet. Then we went to a small town brewfest that didn't feature a lot of new beers and only had crappy pizza to eat. So we left there and headed for the local taphouse for dinner.

Sunday: We made brunch of bananas foster french toast, eggs and turkey bacon. We spent most of the afternoon working on the closet shelving and got everything installed so that A can finish putting her clothes away. That girl has a lot of clothes. We got takeout for dinner and some groceries and watched Food Network while relaxing.

[2brides]

How is it having A living with you full time?! How is E adjusting?

Friday - L ended up having to work late and rather than sitting in traffic for 2+ hrs, she went to the mall for dinner and shopping. The kids and I had a nice leisurely night at home.

Saturday - L took her car for service and then walked the 4 miles home (her choice) while the kids watched a movie and played in the playroom and I putzed around the house doing laundry, cleaning, etc. We went to lunch and came home to rest/relax before taking the kids to parents night out. L and I went for apps and drinks, returned some stuff at the mall, and went to the grocery store.

Sunday - Church, Pei-Wei for an early lunch, errands, leaf raking, and then we had the neighbors over for dinner and got the kids to bed late.

[twotrue]

I didn't leave the house except to return some movies. CT brought Sprout over to meet the boys and hang out for awhile. It was great seeing her and having a fun little play date.

[seattlekari]

Nov 18, 2013 19:33:09 GMT -5 2brides said:

How is it having A living with you full time?! How is E adjusting?

Friday - L ended up having to work late and rather than sitting in traffic for 2+ hrs, she went to the mall for dinner and shopping. The kids and I had a nice leisurely night at home.

Saturday - L took her car for service and then walked the 4 miles home (her choice) while the kids watched a movie and played in the playroom and I putzed around the house doing laundry, cleaning, etc. We went to lunch and came home to rest/relax before taking the kids to parents night out. L and I went for apps and drinks, returned some stuff at the mall, and went to the grocery store.

Sunday - Church, Pei-Wei for an early lunch, errands, leaf raking, and then we had the neighbors over for dinner and got the kids to bed late.

Sorry 2brides, I just saw this, work has been busy since Monday afternoon.

Living together is good, adjustments for all of us but it is great to be together. A is working 2nd shift so we don't really see each other during the week. She's going to go to 4 10's starting next week so she will have every Friday off and then in June and December next year she will work 3 12's on the weekends as they all rotate through covering the weekends. This is a VAST improvement over things at the site she was at previously.

E is doing ok. She has had increasing difficulty with initiating sleep over the last several weeks. (it started prior to A moving in though but I can't pin down if it started before she knew A was moving in or after) Last week was REALLY rough and I lost my cool a couple of times because I was so effing tired that I gave up and slept in the guest bedroom with her after yelling, which I hate, and then apologizing profusely. It doesn't help that I'm pretty sure she still sleeps with her dad every night she's there (and now that she's 7, it's to the point that most would say CREEPY). His house setup is weird, only one bedroom on the main floor (E's room) and his room in the basement. NOT an excuse (in my mind) because I'm like buck up and figure it out-get an air mattress, sleep on the couch, etc. But if you try to talk with him about it, that's the response you get. And also the "don't tell me how to parent". I have tried SO many times. This week E has a goal she is working towards (a voice password diary she wants before Christmas) so the past two nights have been better and I am focusing on staying calm and unhurried and encouraging her to work for her goal which she'll earn by Sunday if she keeps at it.

I had contacted a child counselor in mid-September that I connected well with over the phone. It's something I've pondered for a while, as an outlet for E to deal with her feelings about us being divorced, also knowing that A was probably going to move in with us and that would present some feelings, etc. And also because I want her to have a 3rd party who can get to the root of things that I know are going on/being said at her dad's that I don't want to quiz her too much about. I am trying so hard to keep her trust and openness with me. The counselor has a waitlist and so we were put on the list and last Friday I got the call that we can start next week. I will see the counselor alone this coming Monday to give her the background on things and then E will go with me the following Monday to start her sessions. I am very hopeful this will help.

Sorry, that turned into a novel, but that's the goings on in our house.

P.S. Thanks for checking in on us.