I really wish my ex would get out of my ass.

[myordinarylife]

I will probably get flamed for this.

I have three cats, I got one of the cats when one of my nieces was four and she adores this cat and he seems to prefer her over anyone else in the world. My niece has asked me many times over the past eight years if the cat could come and live with her, but my sister wasn't really keen on the idea. Well her paternal grandfather just passed away and she is taking it really hard, I've decided i'm going to let her have the kitty. She is old enough for the responsibility and I know it would mean a lot to her. Well my ex found out somehow and if flipping out and sending me all kinds of nasty emails because I am letting her have the cat, basically if I don't have the cat he thinks it is his right to have him instead. Seriously, we've been divorced for three fucking years, he and I were together when my niece was born and I can't believe that he went from calling her his niece and telling me how much he loved her, to not having a single ounce of empathy for this child.

[lucky513]

do you have the cat in your possession? If you do then tell him to fuck off

[lucky513]

is your sister ok with you giving her the cat?

[myordinarylife]

I have possession of the cat, I've had the cat since we split up. I didn't seem him insisting he had rights to the cat when it was time to pay the vet bills.

Yes my sister is okay with it, I broached the topic with her after I talked to my niece and saw how upset she was.

[housegeek]

You know this isn't about the cat right?

How did he find out? Why wouldn't this be between just you and your sister?

[EmilieMadison]

Why does your ex even know you are considering giving your niece the cat? And he can think he has rights to the cat all he wants, but that doesnt actually mean he has any rights. Tell him that he can have the cat if he pays you half of the expenses for the last 3 years and also a fee for lost enjoyment. $2500 sounds about right.

I hope your niece enjoys the kitty.

[myordinarylife]

I haven't responded to him and he's emailed me about it three times. He probably found out because we have a lot of mutual friends and my best friend is married to his best friend, makes life a little awkward sometimes. It wasn't something that it even occurred to me would need to be kept a secret, so it probably got mentioned at some get together in a casual way and he took it and ran with it.

Quesera, yes my ex is definitely a grade A asshole.

[OHMBLEEGOHHHHH!]

Fuck him. That dickhead does not deserve to have any part of your life. Block his email, his number, whatever. Your best friends should not be telling him anything about your life, and that needs expressed to them.
He FILLS ME WITH RAGE and you barely post here. I HATE HIM.

[Deleted]

What an asshat, I wouldn't respond. Unless you email him back a picture of that hanging kitten saying "hang in there".