Who initiates sex?

[sparkles17]

If you are in a relationship and are sleeping together, who initiates sex more? The BF and I had a conversation this weekend because I wanted to make sure that we are on the same page with the frequency and what not, and we realized that I initiate slightly more frequently. Not because he doesn't want to, but because he thought that if he initiated every time that I would think that he was just a "horn ball" LOL I had to tell him that I'm just as much of a "horn ball" as he is and we ended up having sex 3 times yesterday

Just wondering if either initiates more or if it more of a 50/50 thing in your relationship.

[sparkles17]

I edited my title, since quite a few have viewed but still no responses

[starryfish]

With my ex-bf I initiated more but he normally turned me down. We only usually ended up doing it when he initiated it...ugh

With my XH, he initiated more. If i initiated with my XH i was NEVER turned down.

[sparkles17]

Oh, I'm never turned down! LOL Ok, once, but I had started a stupid arguement right before that. He even told me later that in spite of the arguement he still wanted it, but that it just felt weird. I guess I need to school him more on the make-up sex.

I'll say, with my exH, he turned me down all.the.time. Of course, turned out that he had a borderline porn addiction and was cheating on me every chance he got.

[dakotadangerdog]

With my XH I never initiated, I wasn't happy with him so I never wanted to have sex with him.

With my latest BF I was pretty happy with him, and I wanted to have sex more. He had a pretty high sex drive so he usually initiated just cuz he did so often I rarely got the chance lol. At one point he started getting depressed and his drive definitely went down, then I was the one initiating.

[fuzziebunnie]

With my boyfriend, we both do. We tease each other all day long, and then find a way to get together. We are both good with the frequency, we play around once or twice everyday. I think I initiate it a little more than him, but it is pretty close to 50/50. We are matched up well. My ex h had a porn addiction, so I would initiate and get turned down pretty often.

[hainesherway]

L and I initiate about 50/50.

[roselis]

With my XH, he initiated more.
Now? I initiate more.

[lovelybb]

I think it's pretty even, although lately I think it's been me initiating just a bit more... speaking of which I can't wait to pounce him tomorrow!

[blondnearby]

For FI and I it is about 50/50. With EXH it was 100% him for the last year I would say.

[rebeccalynn]

i'd say 50/50 for my FI and I, it depends on who's stressed out at work or not lol

[Deleted]

I do.

[GibsonGirl128]

I've been thinking that I do, but I think maybe he's just sneakier about it! lol

For the first couple of months, we just went at it, and it was just kinda expected that when we got together, we'd want to have sex, so I don't think either one of us actually initiated. But I do think I'm more vocal about telling him outright that I want it.

[udscoobychick]

He initiates more, for sure, but I do initiate sometimes, and he loves it when I do. I rarely turn him down, and he rarely turns me down--usually only if we're super tired or not feeling well.

[sparkles17]

I've actually never turned BF down. He's only turned me down once (and it was justified, I was being a bitch) but I was so butt hurt that he turned me down that I woke him up later to argue about it LOL

[aliciar6]

i think i bring it up more randomly like on the car ride home i'll just blurt out "i want sex" but other than that, i'd say it's about even

[lovelybb]

I just told D I wasn't wearing underwear today... think he'll get the hint?