I need some opinions

[BieberMyBalls]

On a comment a friend of mine made.

Last night, my friend and I were discussing twitter, and how I'm not overly into it. I mostly follow celebs and close friends, and read their tweets. I mentioned, however, that I was pretty excited to recieve a response to a tweet I sent to one of my favorite cast members of a show I watch. He's a gay man, and a friend of mine (who is also a gay man) lusts after him, and was going nuts because we had a bit of a competetion as to who would get a response first. That probably sounds ridiculous, but that's besides the point lol. This friend (who is a straight man) responds back with "Ew lol. Congrats?"

I don't tolerate homophobia. I would not befriend someone who was a homophobic. I'm all for having your own opinion, but to me, homophobia goes hand in hand with racism. They are no different than anyone else, and deserve to be treated as such. He didn't name call, or get really offensive. But referring to my either my friend's sexual preference, or the fact that the other man was gay, as "Ew." REALLY has my blood boiling. I didn't say anything remotely sexual that he could be uncomfortable with. And now I'm seriously questioning whether or not I can remain friends with someone so narrow minded.

So what do you think? Am I over reacting? WWYD? I plan on discussing this with the friend before assuming too much, but I really don't see how this could be a misunderstanding.

[saraandmichael]

did you ask him directly if he has a problem with homosexuality? i think thats a good place to start.

[ECB]

Jun 29, 2012 11:34:14 GMT -5 jjwritergirl said:

You are way overreacting. How do you know he was referring to their sexuality? I would interpret that as him not being interested in that particular celebrity (or even thinking that celebrity was ugly), not as a dig on his lifestyle.

This. Especially as this was clearly through email/text - SO MUCH context can be lost.

[melindafelinda]

Jun 29, 2012 11:34:14 GMT -5 jjwritergirl said:

You are way overreacting. How do you know he was referring to their sexuality? I would interpret that as him not being interested in that particular celebrity (or even thinking that celebrity was ugly), not as a dig on his lifestyle.

I agree with this.

[Jalapeñomel]

Was it Justin Bieber? Because I could see how the ew response would be appropriate.

[imoan]

I'm super sensitive to homophobia... and this doesn't scream "homophobia" to me. He might have been ewing how into celebrities you were (don't get me wrong... I'm just as bad. But I know I get eye rolls from people about it).

[ECB]

To put myself in his shoes - if this discussion were about female celebrities and let's say the celebrity was Heidi Klum, I'd be like "Yeah - I'd hit that", but if the celebrity were Lindsay Lohan or Miley Cyrus, my response would be "ew" too.

[BieberMyBalls]

Jun 29, 2012 11:34:14 GMT -5 jjwritergirl said:

You are way overreacting. How do you know he was referring to their sexuality? I would interpret that as him not being interested in that particular celebrity (or even thinking that celebrity was ugly), not as a dig on his lifestyle.

I didn't mention the name of the celeb to him, and even if I did, it's not a name he would know. This man does a small tv show for MTV Canada called 1 girl 5 gays. It's basically a talk show, where the girl asks a panel of gay men questions. It's hilarious. This isn't the first time he's made a similar comment regarding homosexuality, but has never come right out and said he dislikes the lifestyle. That being said, I agree that it could be an over reaction on my part. I plan to talk to him about it.

[BieberMyBalls]

The coversation was:
Me: Speaking of twitter, I JUST got a response from one of my favorite cast memembers of a show I watch.
Friend: That's awesome, see, I told you twitter was fun."
Me: It's hilarious, my friend J and I had a bit of a competition going to see who would get him to respond first. My friend J lusts after him, and because they're both gay men he joked that he would be the one to get a response first."
Friend: Ew lol. Congrats?

I don't automatically jump to OMG HOMOPHOBE! But this is word for word what was said.

[imoan]

That explains is a little better. I'd be a little put off by the "ew", I'll be honest.

[broc]

Jun 29, 2012 11:42:31 GMT -5 imoan said:

(don't get me wrong... I'm just as bad. But I know I get eye rolls from people about it).

YES YOU DO LOL.

I'd confront him about it.

[leeann]

In that context, I guess you'd have to assume the "EW" was in response to them both being gay men- but I'd talk to him about it to give him a chance to explain

[melindafelinda]

There were a lot of pertinent details left out of your original story. So okay.

[ECB]

This is where more info would have been helpful! Knowing the actual conversation, I better understand why it gave you pause. It does seem to be more directed to the fact that you're talking about gay men.

[BieberMyBalls]

Jun 29, 2012 11:39:25 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Was it Justin Bieber? Because I could see how the ew response would be appropriate.

Lmao if it were Justin Bieber I'd be ewing right along with him. Don't let the name fool you.

[BieberMyBalls]

I know lol I reread my initial post and called myself a dumbass. Should have posted the conversation instead of writing a novel.