These things are tough for me. Is she simply a narcissistic asshole or does she have such low esteem that she needs validation? It's a tough call. If she is just a narcissist then shame on her for not realizing or not caring about the effect this kind of thing can have on people.
She looks good but it's not normal so it doesn't bother me much. I mean, I kind of want to say fuck you to her because people will think others should bounce back like that too but it's unrealistic and I know it. I beat myself up on the regular with regards to my body but I refuse to let that picture get me down. Even the gorgeous Kate had a relatively big bump a few days PP and she wore it with pride, I think.
I know how it makes people feel, which is why pics like that shouldn't be front and center all over all magazines and drilled into our heads.. I just don't think she's an asshole because of it, just like I don't think Miranda Kerr is an asshole for being so glorious postpartum.
I can't get worked up over this. I think we need to do better job as a society at promoting health versus "looking healthy", but as long as she isn't implying that every woman can or should look like that 4 days pp, I don't really see a problem.
I posted a (fully clothed) stomach pic at 6 days pp after I had L, but I was mostly excited that I looked 3 months pregnant instead of 6 months pregnant. I took it down after a while because I eventually thought it was obnoxious. So I find it eye roll worthy, not mommy war worthy.
How does her ute even shrink that fast though? I have a friend that posted a super skinny pic a few weeks after giving birth complaining about being fat but I also know that this same girl almost died from anorexia 6 years ago so really I just felt bad for her...
I think its a little obnoxious and eye roll worthy. Being that thin so quickly is not healthy for her baby or herself and it makes me sad that she obviously feels she should or has to look like that.
That's not okay either. It's not healthy for her, the baby, or women who are looking at these pictures.
And just because celebrities do something, that doesn't make it normal or okay. It's usually the opposite.
I agree. we are in a place now where that seems normal, which is depressing.
WE aren't in a place where that seems normal. At least I'm not. And I don't want to raise children in that world. I don't want Andrew to think that any girl worth while needs to look like that, postpartum or not, and I don't want any future daughters of mine to measure their self worth by how they look in skimpy underwear.
I think when WE start thinking that those types of pictures are normal, we've failed as a society.
I agree. we are in a place now where that seems normal, which is depressing.
WE aren't in a place where that seems normal. At least I'm not. And I don't want to raise children in that world. I don't want Andrew to think that any girl worth while needs to look like that, postpartum or not, and I don't want any future daughters of mine to measure their self worth by how they look in skimpy underwear.
I think when WE start thinking that those types of pictures are normal, we've failed as a society.
I am totally pickin up what you're putting down. I have just been seeing so many women expecting to be pre pregnancy size a month after baby, which is unrealistic...but seems so normal when you look at what society is portraying.
She looks good but it's not normal so it doesn't bother me much. I mean, I kind of want to say fuck you to her because people will think others should bounce back like that too but it's unrealistic and I know it. I beat myself up on the regular with regards to my body but I refuse to let that picture get me down. Even the gorgeous Kate had a relatively big bump a few days PP and she wore it with pride, I think.
:Y: I know some will see and think they should look like that, but I'm comfortable with the fact that I will never ever look like that without some drastic changes to my diet and workout regimen. And I like sugar way too much for that.
I can't really get it up over this. The "What's your excuse?" lady, sure. But this lady doesn't seem to be challenging other people to be as fit as she is, or that the expectation is that every woman should look like that four days after giving birth.
I think most women understand that pregnancy fucks your body up, and it's not always easy to get back to anything you'd call "normal."
I weigh 223 pounds. I'm fat. I know I'm fat. When I see that picture, I think "Damn! Good for her!" not, "What's wrong with me?"
But, I really don't like the whole real women have curves thing, either. I don't think anyone should be made to feel bad about their bodies, regardless of their size.
I just checked her out on iG to see how she looked preg. Her 9 month belly was my 5 month belly. She was the smallest pregnant woman I've ever see . It looks like she was into fitness really hard pre pregnancy, which makes it more believable.
Her picture doesn't make me feel bad about myself, it makes me feel bad for her. I think it's dumb that she probably went to dangerous lengths to look like that so quickly after having a baby.
1) if that is 4 days PP, I feel like her child must have been really small. Like, unhealthy small. 2)I was reading a post recently about the photo ticks to make the "before and after" photos for weight loss photos. It would not surprise me, looking at that, if she used some of the tricks to appear skinnier/less belly flabby than she really is.