ug, rolling my eyes at Facebook.

[sake]

I have a friend who has a 4 month old.She is breastfeeding, and her baby has bad acid reflux. She posted this morning about how something she ate last night must not have agreed with the baby, b/c she is having a worse reflux reaction than normal, and even the medicine isn't helping much today.

THEN... lots of people started posing comments like "just give her formula!" and "sounds like time to wean from breast feeding to me!"  

I mean, I didn't even feed G breast milk for that long, and I'm still annoyed on my friend's behalf. She has made it pretty clear to EVERYONE that she wants to primarily breast feed (sometimes using formula if necessary) for the first year of her child's life. I don't think that facebook is the place for you to try to convince her to wean from breastfeeding....and it's none of anyone's business how she chooses to feed her child! 

AHHH!!!! LOUD NOISES!

[sake]

Dec 11, 2013 11:14:37 GMT -5 puddleofgrace said:

People piss me off. Anytime I had an issue while BFing, people (my family) were so quick to jump to the give the baby formula route. Sometimes a BFing mom just needs support.

I just wrote "you're doing a great thing by continuing to breast feed, even through the issues you've had! keep it up mama, you're doing awesome."

I hope she doesn't listen to those other idiots.

[Deleted]

People are stupid. And their ignorance really comes through around breast feeding for some reason.

[kwx2]

Dec 11, 2013 11:15:50 GMT -5 sake said:

Dec 11, 2013 11:14:37 GMT -5 puddleofgrace said:

People piss me off. Anytime I had an issue while BFing, people (my family) were so quick to jump to the give the baby formula route. Sometimes a BFing mom just needs support.

I just wrote "you're doing a great thing by continuing to breast feed, even through the issues you've had! keep it up mama, you're doing awesome."

I hope she doesn't listen to those other idiots.

Never really understood why people always have to put their two cents in regarding this.  Is it really affecting their life to the point that they have to make the comment?  Really none of their business.  My SIL had a terrible time at first, but we never discouraged her from BFing, not once, they just need a little encouragement, not beratement!

[catbus]

Annoying, but not surprising. I dealt with oversupply and overactive letdown for the first several months breastfeeding, and my grandmother and aunt apparently kept asking my mom why I didn't just quit (yeah, my mom relaying my challenges to them was not my choice). Apparently a woman should quit if she has too much milk, not enough milk, or it's a day ending in "Y."

[lilafowler]

Because formula fed babies NEVER have reflux issues...

Sheesh people-lay off the woman!

[Deleted]

Yeah I always find that frustrating.

My mom was convinced Gabe had a milk allergy (newp, just crazy sensitive skin) and she was trying to get me to feed him the soy formula for a very long time. It was hard not to scream that I could just cut out dairy if that really was the issue, lol.

[lime]

This type of thing is exactly why I don't post overly personal information on FB; people take it as a solicitation for opinions.

[Deleted]

Its seems like its a fine line to walk in terms of offering support and trying to help the mom regain sanity, particularly if she sounds like she is having a hard time. I have seen these arguments go both ways on these boards--sometimes the mom is legit looking for BFing support, sometimes she is looking for someone to tell her that formula is okay. People don't know what to say sometimes.

[sunshineluv]

Dec 11, 2013 11:22:56 GMT -5 lilafowler said:

Because formula fed babies NEVER have reflux issues...

Sheesh people-lay off the woman!

 This is what I was going to say.

[sake]

Dec 11, 2013 11:22:02 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Does she post about breastfeeding a lot? Maybe people are just tired of hearing about it.

No, she really doesn't. And all she said this time was that what she ate must not have agreed with baby's tummy... not really complaining.... just feeling bad that the baby didn't feel good.

one of the nay sayers said "sorry for my comment, I believe in a woman taking back her own body asap ( which is why i did not breast feed) never wanted to be a milk maid"

[iamali]

Dec 11, 2013 11:22:02 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Does she post about breastfeeding a lot? Maybe people are just tired of hearing about it.

This is what I was thinking. If she posts about it (especially often), she's opening up herself for comments.

[birdistheword]

Dec 11, 2013 11:32:57 GMT -5 sake said:

Dec 11, 2013 11:22:02 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Does she post about breastfeeding a lot? Maybe people are just tired of hearing about it.

No, she really doesn't. And all she said this time was that what she ate must not have agreed with baby's tummy... not really complaining.... just feeling bad that the baby didn't feel good.

one of the nay sayers said "sorry for my comment, I believe in a woman taking back her own body asap ( which is why i did not breast feed) never wanted to be a milk maid"

Oh good lord.

[sake]

Dec 11, 2013 11:34:24 GMT -5 birdistheword said:

Dec 11, 2013 11:32:57 GMT -5 sake said:

No, she really doesn't. And all she said this time was that what she ate must not have agreed with baby's tummy... not really complaining.... just feeling bad that the baby didn't feel good.

one of the nay sayers said "sorry for my comment, I believe in a woman taking back her own body asap ( which is why i did not breast feed) never wanted to be a milk maid"

Oh good lord.

one of my friends has this mentality... and she didn't breast feed or pump b/c she didn't feel like she wanted to. That was honestly a little hard for me, b/c I HAD wanted to... and didn't have enough supply, and it didn't come up, even with supplements, etc. But I had to just remind myself that it's each person's individual choice, and it's no one's job to push anything on anyone else. 

[sake]

Dec 11, 2013 11:36:53 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Dec 11, 2013 11:32:57 GMT -5 sake said:

No, she really doesn't. And all she said this time was that what she ate must not have agreed with baby's tummy... not really complaining.... just feeling bad that the baby didn't feel good.

one of the nay sayers said "sorry for my comment, I believe in a woman taking back her own body asap ( which is why i did not breast feed) never wanted to be a milk maid"

Okay. I was just thinking because made it clear to everyone how important breastfeeding was to her and because I have some friends who posted about it incessantly for the first year of their children's lives that maybe that was the case. FWIW I never commented on their status because I didn't really have anything to say about their kids grabbing for their boobs or whatever.

I see what you're saying. She doesn't make comments about BF'ing. but she does share articles and things about why she feels it's important to do it for the first year. 

[birdistheword]

Dec 11, 2013 11:36:45 GMT -5 sake said:

Dec 11, 2013 11:34:24 GMT -5 birdistheword said:

Oh good lord.

one of my friends has this mentality... and she didn't breast feed or pump b/c she didn't feel like she wanted to. That was honestly a little hard for me, b/c I HAD wanted to... and didn't have enough supply, and it didn't come up, even with supplements, etc. But I had to just remind myself that it's each person's individual choice, and it's no one's job to push anything on anyone else. 

Yeah - I am not a parent and don't judge anyone for how they decide to feed their baby, but the way she worded her statement was just kind of assholey, lol.

[lissaholly]

Dec 11, 2013 11:32:57 GMT -5 sake said:

Dec 11, 2013 11:22:02 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Does she post about breastfeeding a lot? Maybe people are just tired of hearing about it.

No, she really doesn't. And all she said this time was that what she ate must not have agreed with baby's tummy... not really complaining.... just feeling bad that the baby didn't feel good.

one of the nay sayers said "sorry for my comment, I believe in a woman taking back her own body asap ( which is why i did not breast feed) never wanted to be a milk maid"

That last bit has fighting words! Dude, DUDE. This is your child, not some oppressive jerk. If you don't want to BF fine for you, but those who do chose to BF are not captive or some shit!.

[sake]

I wish I could PM the link to this tread to my friend, and say... "look, people support you!" but I don't want people to know about this place. 
haha

[jaylea]

I had people blame me for "being so stubborn" about BFing through all of L's food allergies and colic.

Because, you know, I would have magically selected the $50/day specialized amino acid formula she had to be on, and not Similac as my first go with formula.

[catsarecute]

A friend of mine was posting on FB that she was getting really anxious and sad to go back to work after having her baby. Someone commented, "Just quit your job and stay at home like I did!"

1) That doesn't help my friend feel any less anxious
2) If only life were that easy