WWYD?

[BunnyMacDougal]

What i your MIL bought the pre-Justice whore gear for your kid.  Kid loves it and puts it on first thing when she woke up.  Not just one outfit.

Fuck man.  What do I do?   

[Booze Raccoon]

Can you share a picture or link?  I have no idea what you are talking about.

[karmasabiotch]

Get rid of it.

[Jalapeñomel]

Dec 14, 2013 10:21:14 GMT -5 Booze Raccoon said:

Can you share a picture or link?  I have no idea what you are talking about.

Me neither.

[CurlyQ284]

A pair of SD2s booty shorts that said Diva across the butt in rhinestones once got lost in the dryer. Funny how the dryer does that...

[SusanBAnthony]

Get rid of it. Donate what has already been worn, sneak anything with tags on out ASAP and return.

Signed, my MIL bought DD slutty sequined see-through shirt at Walmart for her birthday. Thankfully sequins are itchy so DD hates it.

[BunnyMacDougal]

I can't find online pics. It's a dark blue sequin mini-skirt, glittery star patterned tights, and a shirt with a wide v-neckline (goes off shoulder) and tulle-esque flowers coming down one side of the chest (white). Also a headband with rhinestone flowers. Like the rhinestones are in a flower petal arrangement. Think your grandma's cocktail ring.


....for a four year old.


ETA this is what she's wearing currently

[W.T.Faulkner]

What the fuck is wrong with this company?

[verypunny]

Ugh I hate this. I might let her keep the tights and headband and lose the rest. The little kids on the disney channel wear this

[angelaa73]

Nopenopenope. If its revealing its in the trash. Which pains me bc I try to never throw useable items out, but NO CHILD should look like a skank, even if their parents are ok w it. TRASHCAN

[angelaa73]

Is the app broken!? I can't see shit'

[BunnyMacDougal]

Dec 14, 2013 10:32:04 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

What the fuck is wrong with this company?

Its really from Children's Place.   She's still too little for Justice yet.  But the two stores face each other in the (fucking stupid ass small midwest city) mall.  That's where MIL took C when she took her out of school yesterday.

[VeryViolet]

Oh fuck no your daughter is four and she is already starting with this? I would get rid of it and probably figure out an age appropriate way to tell your daughter why. She might cry/tantrum but I think I would want my daughter to know that we don't dress like skanks. Take that advice for what it is worth because I only have a 9 week old boy. However, I would most certainly tell MIL not to do it again. Call me an ungrateful bitch but this is something I have a big problem with.

[speckledfrog]

It's from TCP?! I never associated them with skanky clothing. I think her stuff should mysteriously acquire holes and then have to, regrettably, be thrown away.

[gretchenindisguise]

Wait.

Glittery star tights and a flower headband with a rhinestone in the middle are whorewear?

Damn it all.

[snickers]

Dress up clothes for around the house, maybe?

[SusanBAnthony]

I would be fine with the tights and headband. They can be worn with other stuff even if it doesn't match (DD never matches anyway on the days she dressed herself).

But I would definitely tell your MIL that it was thrown, and why. I had to have that chat with my mom and MIL- not about slut-wear but that DD was getting too old to wear leggings as stand-alone pants, that they needed to go with either a dress or tunic. I felt bad, but I figured better to address it upfront instead of having to sneak around returning/tossing/donating. Now whether it is respected or not, I don't know yet, but that is on them, not me.

[vanillacourage]

I would let her wear pieces with other items. Miniskirt over leggings, shirt over plain long sleeve, etc.

This is assuming that, on their own, they don't look slutty. If they do, or say DIVA or PRINCESS, they'd go on the trash.

[speckledfrog]

I really wish I could see this outfit.

[spellingbea]

Off the shoulder for a four year old? I'm somewhat aghast at this.

[Jalapeñomel]

Dec 14, 2013 10:37:34 GMT -5 angelaa73 said:

Is the app broken!? I can't see shit'

THere are no pictures to be seen.  Or at least I cannot see them on my laptop.

[gretchenindisguise]

Headband? www.childrensplace.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10001_10001_-1_1049044_951222_177878%7C27812_accessories%7Caccessories_accessories

Tights? www.childrensplace.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10001_10001_-1_1076152_1023179_177878%7C27812%7C474273_accessories%7Caccessories%7Ctights_accessories

[Deleted]

The off the shoulder thing bothers me. The rest? Meh, not my favorite, not something I'd let her wear out and about. But maybe wear it around the house?

[Monica Geller]

If these are the right clothes, they're not really my style but they don't make me clutch my pearls either. :^)  The top might be too big if it's off the shoulder...it doesn't look like it's supposed to be.

Top?

Skirt?

ETA: If you don't want her to wear them; don't let her. Simple. Tell your MIL thank-you, but it's not the style you prefer for your DD.

[Deleted]

I would not be okay with the clothes themselves and I would tell MIL why. The accessories and tights can be down-whored with regular clothes I think. 

They need to disappear in the washer. 

Did she get high heeled hooker boots too?

[sineadorebellion]

Uh oh. If those are the items, then I have two little harlots running around :/
If it's not your style then just make it disappear.

[ECB]

I'd like to see them too.  It's hard to really conceptualize how "whorey" these items are.

I'm in the camp of make them "dress up clothes" that don't leave the house. 

And if you're really worried about the choices MIL will make down the road, talk to her about it. Or have DH talk to her.  But don't dance around it.  your DD is only 4- you can actually distract her to a degree (like, again, make them play clothes).  But in a couple years, ESPECIALLY when she starts school, it will be a lot harder.  Tell MIL now what is/isn't cool.

And this doesn't have to be a "confrontation".  I'd approach it from a "Hey- those clothes are cute.  But I have to be honest - based on a lot of the clothes I see out there for slightly older girls, I see these as a pre-cursor to more questionable items.  We're probably going to focus her on wearing them around the house as play clothes.  As she gets older, I really don't want her to think mini-skirts and off the shoulder clothes (if it really is off the shoulder vs just too big) are normal for girls to wear.  I'm sure you can understand my concern!". 

Your MIL might just be thinking "Oh- sparkly!!!!" and perfect for a 4 year old. 

[poopedydoop]

If they are the clothes other posters are posting the links to, I don't get it. Those clothes are not skanky? I think you are being weird.

But your kid, your rules. You don't like it, throw it out.

[dbsk8dance]

Those are fine IMHO.

If you don't like them, then make them
Disappear, but they don't seem whorish to me.

[renna]

Dec 14, 2013 12:49:01 GMT -5 ECB said:

And if you're really worried about the choices MIL will make down the road, talk to her about it. Or have DH talk to her.  But don't dance around it.  your DD is only 4- you can actually distract her to a degree (like, again, make them play clothes).  But in a couple years, ESPECIALLY when she starts school, it will be a lot harder.  Tell MIL now what is/isn't cool.

And this doesn't have to be a "confrontation".  I'd approach it from a "Hey- those clothes are cute.  But I have to be honest - based on a lot of the clothes I see out there for slightly older girls, I see these as a pre-cursor to more questionable items.  We're probably going to focus her on wearing them around the house as play clothes.  As she gets older, I really don't want her to think mini-skirts and off the shoulder clothes (if it really is off the shoulder vs just too big) are normal for girls to wear.  I'm sure you can understand my concern!". 

Your MIL might just be thinking "Oh- sparkly!!!!" and perfect for a 4 year old.

I have a son so this clothes is not much of an issue with me but if I had a daughter I would certainly talk to my MIL about it.  The racier stuff will be more abundant in stores for your daughter when she's 8.  You can save yourself a lot of these kinds of problems if you just tell her now what you like Little Susie to wear.  (My MIL and I get along great so I would actually be the one saying it, kindly, but my husband wouldn't mind saying it either and I know he would be more blunt with his mom about it.)

When our son was a baby his mom brought a gift over from a friend of hers.  It was a onesie that said something like "Chicks Dig Me" on it and it had a picture of a chick on it.  My husband told his mom in that instant "We are not putting that on him."  He didn't want to even start with that kind of thing.  I thought we could have maybe taken a picture of the kid in it but DH was adamantly opposed.  No big deal.  I didn't really care.

Nothing like that ever showed up here again, I'll tell you that much.  (and my husband is a really nice guy but girls discovered my husband early and that didn't necessarily do him any favors and he is sensitive to our son being seen in that light at a young age)

Bunny, just tell her thanks, but this sparkly stuff just doesn't work.  Even if it makes you look like a prude: it is YOUR child.  You get to decide.

Good luck!