WWYD?

[starlily]

Dec 14, 2013 12:54:40 GMT -5 poopedydoop said:

If they are the clothes other posters are posting the links to, I don't get it. Those clothes are not skanky? I think you are being weird.

But your kid, your rules. You don't like it, throw it out.

This is where I'm at.

[winelady]

Yeah, if those are it the shirt must just be too big. Its not an off the shoulder top.Dd has that skirt and its quite long on her, definitely not a mini skirt.

[hisno1girl]

Toss it out.  I wouldn't even donate it.  A needy child doesn't need to dress in clothing that I would find inappropriate for my own child.

[whitemerlot]

I don't find any of the linked items inappropriate. The skirt is not my style but the rest of it I think is cute and appropriate looking from the pictures.

[adhdfashion]

The linked clothes look normal to me. Is that the outfit your Mil bought?

[thatgirl2478]

Well - I'm not seeing how any of the items posted are WHORE gear... but if you don't want your kid wearing that, don't let her. You are the mom after all.

[Deleted]

Wait, those clothes look fine. OP, can you take a picture or something?

[kristie]

Lol, my kid loves that store for all the sparkly things. It isn't my style or what I would pick, but I don't think it is whore gear.

[urbancowgirl]

Dec 14, 2013 13:03:07 GMT -5 renna said:

Dec 14, 2013 12:49:01 GMT -5 ECB said:

And if you're really worried about the choices MIL will make down the road, talk to her about it. Or have DH talk to her.  But don't dance around it.  your DD is only 4- you can actually distract her to a degree (like, again, make them play clothes).  But in a couple years, ESPECIALLY when she starts school, it will be a lot harder.  Tell MIL now what is/isn't cool.

And this doesn't have to be a "confrontation".  I'd approach it from a "Hey- those clothes are cute.  But I have to be honest - based on a lot of the clothes I see out there for slightly older girls, I see these as a pre-cursor to more questionable items.  We're probably going to focus her on wearing them around the house as play clothes.  As she gets older, I really don't want her to think mini-skirts and off the shoulder clothes (if it really is off the shoulder vs just too big) are normal for girls to wear.  I'm sure you can understand my concern!". 

Your MIL might just be thinking "Oh- sparkly!!!!" and perfect for a 4 year old.

When our son was a baby his mom brought a gift over from a friend of hers.  It was a onesie that said something like "Chicks Dig Me" on it and it had a picture of a chick on it.  My husband told his mom in that instant "We are not putting that on him."  He didn't want to even start with that kind of thing.  I thought we could have maybe taken a picture of the kid in it but DH was adamantly opposed.  No big deal.  I didn't really care.

We got that onesie as a gift and I like it.

[kristie]

And I will say that while it is not my style, it is my daughters. She likes sparkles, ruffles, skirts that twirl, headbands with sparkle and flowers, and anything else extra girly. She thinks it is pretty, so I let her wear what makes her happy. I didn't wear pink when I was little, and still prefer jeans. She refuses to wear jeans and has a drawer full of skirts and leggings to go underneath. I find none of it inappropriate, but I definitely wouldn't choose it. At four though, I think she should get just as much say about what she wears, even if I do have veto power.

[kristie]

Dec 14, 2013 14:23:41 GMT -5 Que? said:

Dec 14, 2013 14:01:10 GMT -5 kristie said:

Lol, my kid loves that store for all the sparkly things. It isn't my style or what I would pick, but I don't think it is whore gear.

I just checked it it, it doesn't seem that bad but yeah, it's not my style. I'm still going to reject full glitter etc. as long as I can, but I don't think we're all using the same standards by which to judge this stuff, lol.

I tried to reject it, I really did. The will power of a four year old is strong though, and some battles aren't worth it for me. She does a lot of twirling in front of mirrors or basically any somewhat reflective surface. Lol We went to Carters yesterday and she only wanted to buy things with tutus and skirts for the new baby.

[TC]

Dec 14, 2013 14:22:17 GMT -5 kristie said:

And I will say that while it is not my style, it is my daughters. She likes sparkles, ruffles, skirts that twirl, headbands with sparkle and flowers, and anything else extra girly. She thinks it is pretty, so I let her wear what makes her happy. I didn't wear pink when I was little, and still prefer jeans. She refuses to wear jeans and has a drawer full of skirts and leggings to go underneath. I find none of it inappropriate, but I definitely wouldn't choose it. At four though, I think she should get just as much say about what she wears, even if I do have veto power.

Yes. It's not like they are drawn to it because it looks "sexy" at this age, jesus christ. All of these pieces sound like things that are just normal, silly, bright girly clothes. It not being your style =/= sexualized. I'm confused.

[renna]

Dec 14, 2013 14:09:29 GMT -5 TR said:

Dec 14, 2013 14:07:46 GMT -5 urbancowgirl said:

We got that onesie as a gift and I like it.

I don't think a onesie that says "chicks dig me" is at all the same as putting little girls in slutty clothes.  Not that I think the clothes in this thread in particular are slutty at all, but in general.

Urbancowgirl - I'm glad you guys liked the onesie!  I should have sent ours to you!  I bet your baby was adorable in it.

TR:  Oh, I didn't mean the onesie and the little girl's clothes being discussed are of the same caliber but just that we got something from MIL that (my husband) didn't want our son to wear so he just told her in the moment and it saved any further issues that may have come up.  (I guess that's all my advice here really is: say something to the grandparent so you can nip it in the bud).  Sorry for the confusion.