Family drama WWYD? Long.

[missbella]

Thanks for your input!

[sewf]

I would just announce and not worry about it. It was his choice to cut you out. You don't owe him anything at this point.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

D. He doesn't care if he is going to be an uncle because he won't actually have anything to do with the child. Plus, you are assuming he actually will see the announcement.

[themoneytree]

D.

[lime]

D

This won't change his life one bit.

[snipsnsnails]

C or D. He has said he wants to remove himself from your lives. Respect this and do not contact him directly.

[EmilieMadison]

D.
If he wanted personal updates on your life, he'd still be in touch.

[marie3246]

D. He cut you out of his life, I doubt him becoming an uncle will make him want a relationship again.

[bania]

D. You don't have to cater to him. He clearly wants nothing to do with you guys for whatever reason.

[noodle]

D.

[aussiecrush]

D.
We cut out the in laws before my second pregnancy. Of course as soon as they found out through the grape vine, they tried to get in touch. I'm sorry your husband is hurt but please respect your BIL's wishes even if you don't understand them.

[Booze Raccoon]

D

he doesn't give a shit what you do.

[speckledfrog]

You are making this more dramatic than it really is. Just do D.

[Nonny]

D. Honestly, if he cut you out and he and your H weren't close to begin with, he isn't going to care either way.

[bania]

Congratulations BTW

[hisno1girl]

D

[tulip]

D

As someone who has cut family out, it goes with the territory. If you do anything different here he's going to get pissed thinking you aren't respecting his wishes.

I am confused on a few points, why are you still FB friends with him? Are you sure your H was actually CO?

If your H has been CO from BIL by BIL himself you need to unfriend him. Also, your BIL isn't becoming an Uncle to your LO. If he CO your H who is the father to LO then he gave up being Uncle to your LO. It sucks on all sides, but it's the reality.

[missbella]

Thanks!

[missmaddie]

D. If he wanted to be privy to such information first hand, he would make himself available.

[sonrisa]

I'd send him an email announcement. Keep it short and sweet. At most, you can end with some generic good wishes for his well being but no questions about how he is or anything that would suggest you want him to reply. Then post of facebook and forget about it. I wouldn't defriend him. It sounds like the animosity is mostly about FIL. 

[tulip]

Dec 15, 2013 22:05:57 GMT -5 missbella said:

Dec 15, 2013 21:52:06 GMT -5 tulip said:

D

As someone who has cut family out, it goes with the territory. If you do anything different here he's going to get pissed thinking you aren't respecting his wishes.

I am confused on a few points, why are you still FB friends with him? Are you sure your H was actually CO?

If your H has been CO from BIL by BIL himself you need to unfriend him. Also, your BIL isn't becoming an Uncle to your LO. If he CO your H who is the father to LO then he gave up being Uncle to your LO. It sucks on all sides, but it's the reality.

Well like I said he just stopped answering calls and e-mails from us. When I say "us" I mostly mean Mil and FIL. It was basically the silent treatment until he got sick of worried messages and wrote an e-mail clarifying that he was ignoring us on purpose. I don't think DH and I were ever mentioned specifically but it was kind of understood.

ETA: and I'm Facebook friends with him because we were before and he didn't delete me. It never occurred to me to delete him because I'm not the one with who doesn't want contact.

You may not but he does. Again, he gave up being anything to you, your H or LO when he CO. Accept it and live your life without worrying about him. He doesn't care and won't care.

[bornbaker]

Announce and not worry about it.