Says the girl who took her 16 month old to Italy in June, had a perfect trip, and really really really regrets holding off TTC #2 until after we got back because here we are 6 months later with no baby #2 in sight. I would much rather a baby right now than the week of great wine. The rest of the trip wouldn't have changed.
I'm sorry jehc, well wishes for a bfp soon.
But I am thinking along these lines too. Of course traveling without kids is easier, but it doesn't mean going with them is worse it's just different.
Good luck in whatever you choose. It's never a perfect time to have a child. After Italy it could be a dilemma over a different financial choice and where does it end? I hope I'm explaining that right. There will always be something that could be done/paid for before having a baby. Again, good luck.
dude!! i had no idea this was going on!! that sucks.
Thanks. It does suck.
But then I feel bad talking about it because of all the people here who have been trying for years.
It doesn't make it any easier though.
Never feel bad for your own struggles. I mean, you're perfectly entitled to be sad/disappointed without having to consider if your feelings are ok because someone else has it worse or whatever. (I have a migraine and am on meds I hope I'm explaining this right :/)
We had a five year old when dh and I got married. Right after the wedding we started trying for # 2. I still remember ever one of those first six months post wedding. The sadness and disappointment of negative preg tests each month was pretty bad. SIX years later, after we resigned ourselves to the fact we just weren't having more (every one and their mother had a story of someone they knew who got pregnant X number of years after trying so we hadn't lost total hope but were pretty much convinced it wasn't gonna happen), one day DH said let's call the RE. Secondary infertility turned into my becoming pregnant with twins within the year
It wasn't easy but I guess I'm rambling and hijacking the post to just say (jehc) don't wait too long if you really want a baby soon and things aren't happening naturally. I'm not trying to scare you or anything I just wanted to share because I didn't imagine there could be anything "wrong" since we already had one child, see.
We'll have to sit down and do some more thorough planning. With any luck we can swing Italy and stick closer to our original schedule than I think.
Thanks for the input, everyone.
Yikes, I hope that's a good thing? Sounding like your h? Although he put a bee in your bonnet over the weekend so I'm guessing this isn't a good thing
Really it's such a hard decision and while it's wonderful you're being responsible and ensuring you are set $ before conceiving, it really is never the best time. There's always something else you could be doing
But then I feel bad talking about it because of all the people here who have been trying for years.
It doesn't make it any easier though.
Months 6-12ish were absolutely the most difficult for me. Because at that stage, every month, there IS hope. So to be shot down again is devastating, because this really, really could have been it. It's actually easier for me now, years into this, because I don't have that expectation every month. So I am super sorry and think you should vent about it all you need to. Hugs.
I'm sorry Rex
I've read some (and likely posted replies) of your ttc posts and I'm sorry you're dealing with this. IF and it's struggles suck so hard
It would delay our TTC financial goals (topping up our Efund mostly and moving to a different apartment). Essentially, we'd have to wait about 5 months to pay for the trip. Does that make sense?
You're only thirty and want just one kid. Chances are high that you still have a lot of time yet. I would take the trip.