I have had the same secretary for about three years and I always get her something for Xmas. As crass as it sounds, I usually just give her a card and some money. I used to do a Visa Gift Card, but there are fees associated with it - I figured cash was better than a gift card for a store/restaurant that she many not want or need. While she's been my secretary for so long, I know about her personal life (raising grandson, issues with daugther, other grandson is in military, married and lives across country), I don't know much about her likes and dislikes to a spa day, bottle of wine, etc. (She also has some medical issues.)
Anyway, she sent me (and her two other attorneys) an email on Monday that said she would prefer that we not exchange gifts. I let her know (which I have done every Xmas) that I don't want or expect a present from her - that I firmly believe that no one should get a present for their boss (i.e. I am not getting anything for the partners I work with etc.) Her response was "I remember you told me that, but I would just feel better just saying "Merry Christmas" to each other!"
So I don't know what to do - I want her to know that I appreciate her, but I don't want to make her uncomfortable. FWIW, I work at a mid-size office, so the gift is never extravagent (I'm not passing out ipad minis over here).
Post by jennistarr1 on Dec 17, 2013 14:59:14 GMT -5
I disagree with everyone, I think she's being pretty explicit. I would give her a card wishing her Merry Christmas and nothing more. Order lunch in one day and treat
Post by shostakovich on Dec 17, 2013 15:10:14 GMT -5
As a support staff person, I can tell you that it's really nice to hear how much you are appreciated by your boss(es). So I would do a holiday card, telling her how much you appreciate her help.
Post by speckledfrog on Dec 17, 2013 15:29:27 GMT -5
If you give her something at this point it is going to make her uncomfortable and that's really not in the spirit of what you want to do. I agree that a nice note would be perfect.
Post by MixedBerryJam on Dec 17, 2013 15:30:55 GMT -5
I don't see how you can call it a bonus if it's cash and you've given her money in previous years. It will clearly be you not respecting her wishes. I would just write her a nice note about what a great job she's doing; in fact, if she's really doing a great job, how about an email to the partner/s/hr, cc'ing her? Wouldn't be as personal as a handwritten note, but nobody doesn't like a positive message to the higherups.
As a support staff person, I can tell you that it's really nice to hear how much you are appreciated by your boss(es). So I would do a holiday card, telling her how much you appreciate her help.
ITA with Shostakovich.
A nice card expressing your appreciation for all of her hard work and something later in the new year (for a birthday or something) would be just perfect.
I took one of my employees out to a dinner to show appreciation for her extra efforts during a busy time. She liked it and I used it as a "we got through that, let's have a glass of wine" type thing. I paid for it with my own personal money and we had a really nice time.
a nice card with a note for christmas... and then give her the normal amount that you would spend on her for christmas, in check form (bonus) for secretaries' day
a nice card with a note for christmas... and then give her the normal amount that you would spend on her for christmas, in check form (bonus) for secretaries' day
I was going to suggest this as well. Do you typically giver her anything for Secretaries' Day?
a nice card with a note for christmas... and then give her the normal amount that you would spend on her for christmas, in check form (bonus) for secretaries' day
I was going to suggest this as well. Do you typically giver her anything for Secretaries' Day?
I do. I usually get her flowers and a gift card. And usually flowers on her b'day.
Thanks for all of the responses. I cannot give her "bonus" - she works "for me" but is a firm employee and the firm provides the support staff bonuses, they don't come from individual attorneys via personal check.