I don't think I can own a dog or cat again, even though I LOVED having them. It grosses me out that nothing is covering their butt hole and they hang out on furniture or slide their butt across the floor. Little pieces of feces could be everywhere is all I can think about when they sit down with their tail hanging out behind them.
Besides, H is super allergic
Lol! And ewwwww!!!
Cue the chorus of "dogs are cleaner than humans!!!11!"
That may be true but I'd prefer if they wore a pair of underwear. If dogs wearing shirts and sweaters is going to be a common thing, toss a pair of pants on their rear end too
I don't think I can own a dog or cat again, even though I LOVED having them. It grosses me out that nothing is covering their butt hole and they hang out on furniture or slide their butt across the floor. Little pieces of feces could be everywhere is all I can think about when they sit down with their tail hanging out behind them.
Besides, H is super allergic
My pug is awesome and Ive always wanted one since I was little, but I do wish he'd stop parading his butthole around like its a prize. I've daydreamed about making a little square of fabric that loops around his tail on a ribbon, a modesty patch if you will.
And really, is there a time limit on this? And who decides that limit?
1. Nope.
2. The parents themselves are the only ones who can make a decision re: how to grieve, how to remember their baby.
After my daughter was born and died, I posted a few things about her on FB. I received two messages from shitty former friends asking me not to talk about "it," because it was "heartbreaking and uncomfortable." Fuck that noise.
I'm sure it is uncomfortable as an outsider, to read a barrage of posts like that. But I guarantee you if you can't support them through this and be understanding, those parents would rather be off your friends list anyway.
My pug is awesome and Ive always wanted one since I was little, but I do wish he'd stop parading his butthole around like its a prize. I've daydreamed about making a little square of fabric that loops around his tail on a ribbon, a modesty patch if you will.
I have gone to a few support groups and I am convinced some parents love the attention of being a grieving parent. The fb posts would irritate me too.
From one grieving parent to another, I don't know if they love it as much as it has become their entire identity and they don't know how to do anything else, KWIM? I had to leave a loss FB group for that reason. It was truly just bringing me down after awhile.
And really, is there a time limit on this? And who decides that limit?
1. Nope.
2. The parents themselves are the only ones who can make a decision re: how to grieve, how to remember their baby.
After my daughter was born and died, I posted a few things about her on FB. I received two messages from shitty former friends asking me not to talk about "it," because it was "heartbreaking and uncomfortable." Fuck that noise.
I'm sure it is uncomfortable as an outsider, to read a barrage of posts like that. But I guarantee you if you can't support them through this and be understanding, those parents would rather be off your friends list anyway.
I have gone to a few support groups and I am convinced some parents love the attention of being a grieving parent. The fb posts would irritate me too.
From one grieving parent to another, I don't know if they love it as much as it has become their entire identity and they don't know how to do anything else, KWIM? I had to leave a loss FB group for that reason. It was truly just bringing me down after awhile.
I find this true with the families I work with who have had a child battling brain cancer for years. When they die, the parent forget who they were before they were living in hospitals, worrying about scans and counts because that was their life (and identity) for years.
I do not judge how people grieve at all. I can not imagine that I would be all that sane if I lost a child.
I side-eyed the people giving money to a panhandler I saw today. His sign said HAPPY HOLIDAYS really big, then in small print it said "420 = "
IDK if they just didn't read/understand it or if they were like, fuck yeah, here's some drug money! It was just so blatant, and he got like 3 cars handing him money while I was stopped.
Is pot for the homeless the new skittles for poor people? I'm totally pro skittles, though. lol.
one being killed by a car, one being gotten by a coyote, and a third almost recovered from being hit by two cars, I'm trying to keep mine in now, ...
It took all that for you to decide to keep your cats in?? Someone call animal CPS.
Legitimate question. It's like waiting for the bus ... How long do you keep waiting before you give up and walk? Eventually you decide it's in your interest to walk, but you have to be late a few times brfore you firgure that out. And for the record, most of my cats do die of old age. i am not a monster!
I grieve and post about my dog all the time on FB and on normal conversations.
I'm sure that many have me on limited view due to the amount of pictures I constantly put of her.
It means a lot to me to see her and to think of her, and reminds me of happy times.
I miss her.
I wish she was here with me.
And, being self involved and all, I'm sure that posting a picture or a comment that relates to her is way better than 99% of the shit that gets posted on FB, if ML is any indication.
If anyone would ever tell me to not post about it because it's making them uncomfortable, that would signify the end of any relationship that I'd have with that person. The mere thought enrages me like nothing else.
I also dislike most cats. I am pretty afraid of cats and I have a harder time bonding with them than I do with most animals. Caring for them also sort of intimidates me...they are difficult to medicate, brush, hydrate appropriately, etc. I'm always worried I'm doing something wrong. I think they are just out of my league. I love our cat that we have now (who was more grandfathered into our family, we didn't go out and get her), and I will do my best to take impeccable care of her until her time comes, but we will probably never get another cat after that.
the one girl that is trying to get the diamond water thing started is OUT OF HER MIND. and the art installment? who does this girl think she is?
I just realized there hasn't been a thread about Lilly or Jennifer Stano recently...
I don't watch the show, but Lilly has been a little too boring on social media. And I feel bad for Jennifer. You can tell she's super insecure post-baby, but honestly, that extra fat in her face (natural fat, not from fillers like her friends) makes her so much youthful!
I must have the Grinch's original heart. I saw the photos of the father and daughter recreating the wedding photos before they were posted here and thought it was super AWish. I also read a synopsis of The Fault in Our Stars when it was recommended here and gagged.
Ugh I hated The Fault in our Stars. It's a shame because I love John Green and the whole nerdfighter/DFTBA community on youtube. I love his vlogs, I think they are hilarious and educational but that book. That book was so fucking awful.
I'm in my mid-30s and still afraid of dogs. I have been since I was a small child. I think most dogs are cute, I just don't want them near me. I do not push them away and I will pet them if they come to me, but for the most part I stay away if possible.
I hate all reality TV. I think it's all incredibly stupid.
What's weird is I did grow up with cats...like...a LOT of cats, because my parents were practically professionals at rehoming animals when they feel like it. I did bond with two of them and both ended up being a pretty heartbreaking experience. I think cats just take longer to connect with and I usually never had that time. The cat we have now we actually took out of my parent's home because they were reaching the end of their preferred time with her and she wasn't happy in their home anyway.
Post by vampsterdam on Dec 19, 2013 13:59:31 GMT -5
My parents go quite frequently to the cemetery where my grandparents are laid to rest. They go for birthdays, their saint day, anniversary of death, etc.
They also go randomly to check out the flowers they planted by the grave and a lot people we know always say, "Why do they keep going? They're dead. I don't get it."
If it helps my family grieve or feel peace on an anniversary, who are they to judge?
Yes. I will take this a point further and say that I get so irrationally angry when I hear an adult call their own parents "mommy or daddy". You should have outgrown that shit a long time ago.
I get irrationally angry when people say this. I started calling my dad Daddy again when he got sick.
This. It's a term of endearment, and in some region, especially the south, it's common to do so.
It's not about growing out of it, and really at the end of the day who the hell cares what I call my parents.
To that end, It seems like the people with the most issues about it are the one's who don't have the greatest relationship with their parents. No, I'm not saying all the mommy/daddy haters are jealous, but in my limited experience with it, they have parent issues.
No one is walking around talking to random people saying my mommy/daddy did xyz, but when with family, especially my sisters, we say mommy or daddy.
My grown, very successful mother and aunts called my grandfather daddy until his dying day, and still will refer to him as that when reminiscing.
My parents go quite frequently to the cemetery where my grandparents are laid to rest. They go for birthdays, their saint day, anniversary of death, etc.
They also go randomly to check out the flowers they planted by the grave and a lot people we know always say, "Why do they keep going? They're dead. I don't get it."
If it helps my family grieve or feel peace on an anniversary, who are they to judge?
I have the opposite problem. My mom thinks because I don't want to go to the cemetery that I don't love my grandparents.
Post by pantsparty on Dec 19, 2013 14:07:23 GMT -5
I don't much like cats. This stems from when I slept over at my best friend's house when I was around 10 or so. I woke up in the middle of the night and their cat was just STARING at me from the doorway. Not even moving. I'm pretty sure that if I hadn't woken up at that second, he would have eaten my face and possibly stolen my identity.
It took all that for you to decide to keep your cats in?? Someone call animal CPS.
Legitimate question. It's like waiting for the bus ... How long do you keep waiting before you give up and walk? Eventually you decide it's in your interest to walk, but you have to be late a few times brfore you firgure that out. And for the record, most of my cats do die of old age. i am not a monster!
A bunch of dead cats are not the same as being late for the bus! What the fuck?
I don't know whether to laugh at this analogy or cry - because, you know, TWO DEAD CATS and a third that got hit by two cars. Jesus.
I get irrationally angry when people say this. I started calling my dad Daddy again when he got sick.
This. It's a term of endearment, and in some region, especially the south, it's common to do so. It's not about growing out of it, and really at the end of the day who the hell cares what I call my parents. To that end, It seems like the people with the most issues about it are the one's who don't have the greatest relationship with their parents. No, I'm not saying all the mommy/daddy haters are jealous, but in my limited experience with it, they have parent issues.
No one is walking around talking to random people saying my mommy/daddy did xyz, but when with family, especially my sisters, we say mommy or daddy.
My grown, very successful mother and aunts called my grandfather daddy until his dying day, and still will refer to him as that when reminiscing.
Interesting perspective. I do have parent issues, so that could be it...
But also, I guess it annoys me so much because there are 3 women that work here, and their 'daddy' used to be the owner. So these 30 year old women refer to their father as 'daddy' in a professional setting. It's weird and annoying.
I agree that everyone needs to grieve in their own way and their own time.
That said, I have someone on my FB feed who lost a daughter about ten years ago; she died immediately after birth. I feel terrible for him and his wife. However, they now have another daughter, who is very young, four or five; and every year they make a cake and have a macabre little birthday party for the daughter who died, and I can't even imagine how this is impacting their living daughter.
Now this is bizarre. I could maybe see this being less than odd if they didn't have another child. But they do. And that definitely makes it weird.
My parents go quite frequently to the cemetery where my grandparents are laid to rest. They go for birthdays, their saint day, anniversary of death, etc.
They also go randomly to check out the flowers they planted by the grave and a lot people we know always say, "Why do they keep going? They're dead. I don't get it."
If it helps my family grieve or feel peace on an anniversary, who are they to judge?
Every time I go home in the summer, me and my older brother make a trip to his grave. We take some lawn chairs and some beer and just sit there and talk. It's nice, it makes me feel connected, and like we're spending family time together. LOL. That probably sounds pretty fucked up to some people. Everyone grieves differently.