People have been pretty good around me for the most part. The ones that bother me the most though:
1. MIL referring to the baby as "our baby". I know it's supposed to be sweet, but I want to say, "Nope, this is H's and my baby, not yours!"
I hate to break it to you, but this doesn't go away once the baby is here. My mom today said "so my baby isn't having a good day?" because I mentioned HJ was a little cranky, and I said "no, I'm fine." She replied with "I meant HJ!" so I reminded her that HJ is MY baby and her grandbaby - different. She's done it a few times now, and I'll keep correcting her until she either stops saying it or corrects herself.
Today, a friend said "Oh you and SoandSo are carrying so much differently. She's having a girl and you can tell because all she has is this little basketball. She's just TINY other than this little belly. But you're having a boy, so...."
I didn't let her finish.
I walked away.
QUIT COMMENTING ON MY BODY.
OMG. WTMF.
Today my H was shopping the Banana Republic online sale, and he asked me if I wanted anything. I declined. He said, "yeah, I guess by the time you're not as big as a house, the clothes will be out of style."
Today, a friend said "Oh you and SoandSo are carrying so much differently. She's having a girl and you can tell because all she has is this little basketball. She's just TINY other than this little belly. But you're having a boy, so...."
I didn't let her finish.
I walked away.
QUIT COMMENTING ON MY BODY.
OMG. WTMF.
Today my H was shopping the Banana Republic online sale, and he asked me if I wanted anything. I declined. He said, "yeah, I guess by the time you're not as big as a house, the clothes will be out of style."
My instructor at the gym is a young guy. He's made a few comments about pregnant women working out and about women working out postpartum. He's very supportive which is great, but I also get the impression that he thinks it's easier than it actually is or because is was easy for a couple people at the gym that no one has real complications and issues with continuing or getting back to it.
One day I said something about hoping that I would continue to be able to lift throughout. He immediately chimed in to say that it just depends on the doctor and how some are more conservative. I was like, "no I mean like because of an actual reason. I need to have some extra ultrasounds" (I have a CPP but didn't get into it with him).
Another one is my boss. She found out that I had the anatomy scan the day before and "sarcastically" said a bunch of crap about "omg you said that you would tell and I can't believe that you didn't". She somehow segued into saying something about firing me and then how would I care for my new baby??? Then she was all, "just kidding, that's fine"
I just replied that I wanted to tell family over Christmas and hadn't told any immediate family yet.
This was all in front of our whole department at our Christmas lunch.